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Chat, is it creepy to have a totally unjustified crush (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 months ago by lil_tank@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I'm not sure I should start this conversation and I've been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists

Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)

Now my brain is fried

I'm thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can't imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.

I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that's beyond the point) guy, I'm trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can't remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.

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[–] dRLY@hexbear.net 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Just be careful about it becoming full on limerence. A random crush is nothing to worry about, as that is just something that happens. You also might just be excited to have met a new friend and are only really noticing it because they are a woman. Which you are tripping over yourself to not to come off as a de-gen. Not a bad thing of course, but can be awkward if you go too far out of your way with it. Just try to treat them like you would your regular friends and other people you already interact with (or how you would like to be treated for that matter). And like others have said, you are beating yourself up.