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In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").  Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful


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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

the trans

something about seeing how much of a Normal Woman(Trans) she seemed like made me extremely self conscious and feel incredibly grotesque and meltdown internally with "oh god why did I stay in denial so long, why didn't I come out in my teens and transition young, I'm doomed, etc"

madeline-stare This is why I'm always trying to be both visible and abnormal. I assume I don't have to tell you that "normal woman" is not the only and ideal goal, but I hope you don't always frel "grotesque" by comparison...

meow-hug

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 3 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

meow-hug

I honestly have no idea how normal people perceived me and usually would prefer for them not to zizek-preference

dysphoria, misgendering, family shitI know I probably look closer to Zizek than I'd like to ideally

I mean I am clean shaven and less disheveled looking generally but still

I can never tell why I get quizzical glances from people in public? Is it that I'm anxious and socially awkward looking and they're concerned for me? Is it that I'm malefailing in boymode kinda and my tits are kinda visible under my hoodie and it looks weird on someone of my height/build? Is it that I look like a really big butch bitch without any makeup or femme signifiers? Fuck if I know, but I know my brain will screech at itself the entire time trying to figure that out unsuccessfully

My cool(ish) queer relative I went with is sweet and supportive overall but I still get a mix of name/deadname and a random D3 roll on pronouns of he/they/she and it's maddening sometimes

It's like they're just humoring me out of pity or going along with it when they get it right and it's like a kindness they get to graciously bestow upon me sometimes when they bother to remember, and when they don't it's "well I've known you as (deadname) since you were a baby!"

I've been out to you for like half a fucking decade

I'm sure they (cis) and their also queer spouse (cis) wouldn't like if I misgendered them offhandedly randomly either or called them by a masculine version of their names

I'm so sick of feeling like a basic fundamental part of my identity is like a fun little quirk that's fine to fuck up and it's not a big deal to some of the only family that I'm out to and is 'supportive'

(Part of it is that they're boomers, and part of it is that they're libs, but they love being One Of The Good Ones and it can be exhausting not blowing up on them and alienating myself from some of the only IRL support I have)

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

oh no

I can never tell why I get quizzical glances from people in public? Is it that I'm anxious and socially awkward looking and they're concerned for me?

Oh god oh fuck, uh I just try not to worry about it, if I am feeling nice I smile, if I am feeling confrontational I stare. There's no knowing how or why people stare, but I don't think most people (or maybe anyone) stare with that intent, Idk. Fuckin people...

My cool(ish) queer relative I went with is sweet and supportive overall but I still get a mix of name/deadname and a random D3 roll on pronouns of he/they/she and it's maddening sometimes

well I've known you as (deadname) since you were a baby!"

Big "ish", like I know I have this baseball bat but I just want to talk to 'em... madeline-stare

I hate this too, I fought people over shit like this. You deserve better treatment and more respect than that at the least.

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 3 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

lmao libshit/Isntreal-PalestineLmao I was giving her directions driving and one of them was "past the place with the fuckin' 🇮🇱 flag" and she was like "well there's nothing wrong with a flag" and I compared it to the Third Reich's flag (her wife is German) and she was like maybe-later-kiddo "well you could say that about the amerikkka flag, you wouldn't do that, would you?!" and I was like chelsea-stare "I can, and do" and she was quiet for awhile huh

(she's usually motormouthed and chatting almost constantly)

She has "rules based international order" "humanitarian liberal interventionist" brainworms and still has positive views of obama-drone and paid-for-by-kamala-harris and thinks putin-wink is i-am-adolf-hitler and zelensky-pain is clark-kent-stare or whatever

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

ULYSSEST TYPE POST ALERT, EMOTE CITY stalin-approval

Glad you said this, absolutely based. Soak in that silence.

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 3 points 11 hours ago

dracula-flow made her STFU, soaked in the silence so hard they thought I went to BYU

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 3 points 12 hours ago

went a bit overboard with the emotes lol sorry but I was kinda On One