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This is a great question!
When I was like 17, I was driving (the speed limit, no music playing) through my friend's neighborhood when I passed a woman out grabbing her mail. I gave a little wave and smiled, and she looked at me like I had just punted a fucking infant.
I felt so offended, and I've never forgotten that look on her face- I would love to know what her perspective on this is/was.
I'm just sitting here refreshing this thread waiting for more stories, so I'm gonna share another one.
I was talking to a black man with the most gorgeous blue eyes. I complimented him on his eyes, and he asked, genuinely, "you know how I got blue eyes?", and there's really only 3 options- 2 mixed parents, or 1 white and 1 mixed, so I took a stab at it and said "you got a white dad?" This man's eyes went WIDE like I was a damn witch. He got real serious and asked "how'd you know that??" I told him I just guessed, but it was clear he didn't believe me as he scratched his chin and put some distance between us
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When I was about 7/8yrs old, I ended up in an elevator alone with an elderly couple who proceeded to debate with one another whether I was a boy or a girl, while making direct eye contact with me.
The woman argued I must be a girl because of my pretty hair and face, while her husband was sure I must be a boy, given my... outfit and eyebrows? They never bothered to asked me, and I exited the elevator without saying a word to them
Sooo... have you decided yet, which one you want to be?
I settled for nonbinary actually lol
Honestly, that was the option I had hoped for when I made that joke. I‘m happy for you.
Just as an FYI don't need any white in there to have eye colors other than brown. Just increases the likelihood.
True, that's how blue eyes became a thing in the first place, I imagine lol
My interaction was WAAAY different but the same vein.
I was driving around, biting the backside of my fingernail. I turned a corner, and this gorgeous girl driving, waved, and smiled at me for no reason.
I was like, hot damn I still got it. Then, I realized biting the back of my nail, palm facing out, probably looked like I was waving at her.
To this day I don't know why it stuck with me.
Awe, that's cute! For her to smile and wave back though you must be fairly attractive yourself, even if she didn't do so unprompted!
My primary hypothesis is the woman somehow thought I flipped her off. Imagining a stranger smiling at me and showing me their middle finger, I might have a similar reaction lol