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I told my friend I love her and wanted to kiss her again (we went on a date recently and we known each other for like 10 years)

I felt like the only responsible thing was to be honest and now I am losing my mind waiting to hear from her again.

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[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 38 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

In my defense she did tell me it lights up her day whenever I text her and that she wanted to be part of my life "no matter what" so I don't think that was an unreasonable thing to do on my part, its just that romance has always ended badly for me and I really really love this girl and I need someone to tell me its gonna be fine.

Please help I need advice.

[–] FunkyStuff@hexbear.net 37 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

From the information in this post it seems like you're fine, I don't think you crossed any inappropriate boundaries and it seems she's receptive. You'll be ok.

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 24 points 3 weeks ago

Thank you. It has been a while and the only two serious relationships I ever had ended badly and both times were mostly my fault. I'm not afraid of rejection I'm afraid of getting into another romantic relationship.

[–] Lemmygradwontallowme@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Go for it, Nako... At least you've tried!

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 20 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (2 children)

I'm not afraid of rejection I'm afraid of her wanting to be in a relationship lol.

Rejection I can shrug off, it's falling in love again that terrifies me.

[–] TraschcanOfIdeology@hexbear.net 10 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

This is going to be corny af, but falling in love is like a roller-coaster: it's supposed to be scary but exciting and crazy and it all happens so fast.

Sending you the best vibes so you can enjoy the ride

[–] Allero 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ohhh So, I'm kinda new here and not aware of your stories, but, I gotta say that, relationships can absolutely be healthy and beautiful, and you seem to be the perfect person to have them :)

You're careful, but thoughtful, decisive even if scared, ready to learn on your experiences, and you value whatever she can give to you. That's a good sign!

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 11 points 3 weeks ago

Sounds like the lights were pretty green

[–] Verenata@hexbear.net 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Fingers crossed thats so brave!!

Advice?

Breathe, chill, roll a j, vibe 💅

From the sounds of it you two are close and mean a lot to each other. You've said your peace and given her agency and choice. Cool beans.

If she says no and she meant as a friend will you still stay friends?

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

she says no and she meant as a friend will you still stay friends?

Definitely

[–] Verenata@hexbear.net 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Yey!!!!! Awwwh rooting so hard for you

tony-cheer

Edit: to be a couple, I'm rooting for that. Not you being friends. Just to be very clear.

[–] alexandra_kollontai@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

The only boundary you've crossed is being star-crossed 🥰💫