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The Sudoku puzzle format consists of (usually) a 9 by 9 grid that must be filled with numbers. The classical Sudoku rules are as follows

  1. Each row must contain all of the digits from 1 to 9, with no repetitions
  2. Each column must contain all of the digits from 1 to 9, with no repetitions
  3. Each sub square (3x3 grids marked by bold lines) must contain all of the digits from 1 to 9, with no repetitions

The historical inspiration of Sudoku begins with the Latin square, a type of grid problem similar to Sudoku in that it consists of an N by N grid where N digits (or letters) must be arranged in accordance with rules 1 and 2 of Sudoku (the sub square had yet to be invented). The first known example of a 9 by 9 Latin Square is from a monograph over 300 years ago, written by the Korean mathematician Choi Seok-Jeong. However, the Latin Square was popularized in the west by the legendary mathematician Leonhard Euler, who independently invented it almost 70 years after Choi Seok-Jeong.

According to Christian Boyer (idk who this is), on July 6th, 1895, the french newspaper La France published the earliest known example of a "true" Sudoku puzzle following all 3 rules of modern Sudokus, although french newspapers had previously been publishing similar (but different) puzzles prior. The name "Sudoku" itself (meaning "single digit") comes from Japanese magazines in which the game was popular during the 80s and 90s.

In Modern times, the Sudoku puzzle scene has been blessed with the addition of numerous variants, that add on additional rules, elevating the puzzle. The puzzle in the provided image is one such example, known as the "miracle Sudoku". It comes with 3 additional rules on top of the 3 original.

  1. If 2 digits are separated by a knight's move in chess, then they cannot be the same
  2. If 2 digits are separated by a king's move in chess, then they cannot be the same
  3. If 2 digits are adjacent (left, right, down or top, none of the diagonal directions), then they cannot be consecutive (ex - 5 and 6, or 7 and 8)

As can be seen from the fact that only 2 digits have been provided to start with, modern Sudoku authors are big fans of making puzzles that appear to be impossible to solve. This of course, is my favorite part about modern Sudoku. If you want to try to solve the miracle Sudoku, here is the link.

Some of the other example variants add new rules, such as German whispers, Dutch whispers, Renban lines, Entropy lines, Thermometer lines, killer cages and many more. You can find a massive collection of these puzzles on the logic-masters website.


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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago (4 children)

MenOkay so I'm irl trading some of my items in this game to this random guy. We've been at it for like a week and he was messaging me about it earlier. I had told him when I got off work and I'd get on then to give him his stuff. I ended up hanging out with someone after so I was delayed.

u off yet gang?

Uh ended up hanging out with someone after, it'll be a bit later sorry

And then he proceeds to send me a bunch of really crude messages about sex and hooking up?? Like I'd just assume they were a friend. Maybe I could have been more clear but that shocked me

Also does anyone have advice for explaining dysphoria to someone who isn't interested in transition? (I don't know how to explain her, no desire for hrt or anything, sounds agender but doesn't like any labels other then lesbian. Says she's not nonbinary or cis). I've tried explaining and it just seems like she doesn't get it.

She kinda often boils it down to "Do you think if you had tits and a vagina you'd really be that much happier?" and like, idk- I do want those things but that's definitely not the focus for me. I want to look like a woman, be treated like a woman, sound like a woman... but I don't think she gets it. She'll also say things like not to care what other people think, and like yea that's true, but I'm still going to feel dysphoric if people see me as a man or not a woman.

Other then that its been good getting to know her. That's just going to be a point of frustration for me and any non dysphoric person I think...

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

you'd really be that much happier?

not to care what other people think

these are really invalidating and callous things to say, she needs to be made to understand this.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

How do I explain to her that they are invalidating and callous? I don't know if you remember I'm autistic, I'm looking for how to say it and make her understand. I feel like what I'm saying already isn't working

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

i understand the difficulty, i am autistic as well but asserting myself this way is something i have gotten better at to some extent. usually a good structure is like, "hey, when you say things like [x], it makes me feel upset and invalidated." try to explain that you don't want your problems reframed, you want support and sympathy and understanding (i assume); that having someone else reframe your problems when it's not what you asked for can feel like they're downplaying and invalidating them, can feel dismissive.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Maybe this is getting into vent territory now but it was really frustrating trying to explain to her I want to look like a woman, I wasn't like listing features or anything but like- I want people to look at me and think woman. And when I asked her how she assumed if she was talking to a woman or not she said she's way beyond gender. Okay, but like you do still assume pronouns. You understand what I mean. I want people to look at me and think she/her are my pronouns. That is not a dramatic, crazy thing to want. I'm not trying to say I need to be a 10/10 model- I want people to meet me and think I'm a woman without me telling them. Like, I look at the women at my work who are my age and I'd be pretty thrilled looking like any of them. I don't understand how this is a hard desire for someone to understand. There are some specific traits that bother me most obviously, but I don't know how to explain it.

[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

re: menI'm really sorry that happened :(

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honestly my faith that there are cis men who aren't creeps kind of erodes more and more every day...

re: talking about dysphoriait probably wouldn't be a pleasant conversation, but maybe there could be more understanding if you were to talk about not just comfort from a future state but also active discomfort in the current state? It can still take a lot to kind of get it through to people who don't have dysphoria what that feels like, but maybe it's worth a shot?

She'll also say things like not to care what other people think

it really annoys me when that's people's take... like, it's a nice sentiment but unfortunately What Other People Think has a material effect on trans people's existence right now soooo

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

dysphoriaThat's a good idea, I've tried a little bit. Any idea how to explain the discomfort/pain to them though? Its honestly hard for me to explain how it feels even to other trans people.

Exactly! Also like- even by myself I'm uncomfortable, its not entirely about how I'm perceived by others, its how I literally am on the outside.

dysphoriayeah, it can be really difficult to precisely nail down how dysphoria feels, especially because everybody is gonna feel it a little differently. I think how to talk about it is also gonna be dependent on how close you are to the person you're talking to. Getting very detailed about how dysphoria feels (at least for me) is a pretty vulnerable state and can be pretty uncomfortable, so a lot of the time I'm more broad when talking about it.

One way that I've had some success with cracking through a little bit on it is describing it as having an adversarial relationship with your own body, that your body is something that's working against your mental well-being instead of towards it. At least for me, an apt metaphor is that when I'm very dysphoric my body is like a cage that I'm trapped in and need to break out of as opposed to an actual part of me.

I think if there's a component of physical sensation to the dysphoria that can also be helpful to describe for someone to get it. For example, when I have bad general dysphoria I physically feel like an oppressive weight is on my shoulders the pushes down and like permeates my body, like I'm wrapped in an extraordinarily heavy coat that my being constantly has to push and fight against. Sure it's psychosomatic or whatever, but it's a very real tangible feeling of discomfort just everywhere and most people can get that.

spoiler graphic descriptions I do think that for preliminary conversations with someone you're not necessarily really very close to, it's better to keep things kind of broad and tame like that. I know feelings of dysphoria can get incredibly visceral and graphic, but it's probably best not to have the be the first description given unless someone is REALLY not getting it. When my dysphoria is at its peak I very literally want to rip and tear my skin, not in a self-harm kind of way but just because of how alien and invasive it feels - a description like that is very precise to my feeling but is probably gonna be a little much for most people. :::

I know all of this can be a different experience for everyone, but I hope it's even a bit helpful cat-trans

She’ll also say things like not to care what other people think

She kinda often boils it down to β€œDo you think if you had tits and a vagina you’d really be that much happier?”

I'm pretty sure I used to basically be in that camp. I never would have said that to another person because its obviously rude. But when finding out people are trans, that was my sort of reaction. In my case, it was clearly cope. I don't think there's much, if anything, you could have said to change my mind directly since my reason for believing them was based solely on their ability to keep the thoughts away from myself. The only thing that really has convinced my bodily changes just make me baseline happier is experiencing it (granted, no bottom surgery). πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

I'm still in "idc about socially transitioning" but given transphobia is a thing, being able to present in public in ways I'd like to occasionally without worried about how others behave would be nice (granted, a lot of people's behavior around women could be better too...)