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Being bi rules pretty hard. Also read a survey (like 750 bi respondents) and it looks like 84% of them would date a non-op trans woman which is pretty cool. Like that's way higher than any other group od people and a solid majority. Honestly I've always gravitated towards bi women but bi guys are cool too and can get it. Also, bi people wont judge me for being bi (common problem even today).
This was all set off by me looking up data on trans dating stuff (
) but honestly this made me feel pretty good.
I love looking up trans related things, expecting to be depressed but comin out bloomer about it. Researching "trans sexuality" once led me to this cute study :) My fav stat from it is that adherence to "traditional" gender binary ideology correlated very directly with unhappiness, lmao.
Bad vibes behind us
my experience with a bi ex tells me this is not the case
Oh no
is there a link you can drop for a survey like that? i'd like to read it too
It's just a reddit survey but
https://www.reddit.com/r/SampleSize/s/FGNzXLFQDT
Be wary though, I am particularly interested in dating other bi people so this was positive for me but it may be upsetting to others
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Have you dated or fucked a cis bi person before? Did they treat you in ways that were gender affirming? This may just be my own insecurities but I'm so afraid of dating cis bi women because I'm scared that they'll mostly be attracted to my masculine traits or view me less of a woman than cis woman
Also I'm kind a special case because idk if it's internalized transphobia or something but like If I perceive a woman to be more femme than me, I basically just want to top them or at most like... side. Which puts me in a weird spot in my head but like what ya gonna do. I'll really only bottom with men. But then also my friends tell me I'm pretty femme it's just that it sounds like I'm a woman talking through a Low voice. But idk I feel really weird about sex atm haha especially because I do have fun and I'm quite good at topping also trans tops are like in high demand...
What is side?
And yea, I think that is part of the problem for me :S
I've noticed trans tops are in demand for men because a lot are chasers and popular for lesbians because women trend towards subs/bottoms so it's like, there's too much ambiguity for me how much my tool factors into them liking me 😥
I totally get that yeah. Like I will say I have been with some people who actually seem to see me (not as just some girl with a dick or some.. thing with a dick) and I have been with one person who definitely kinda fetishized me and that felt GROSS. The first person who I felt saw me was actually a hookup but he definitely treated me like a feminine person and wasn't overly interested in my dick (honestly, he wasn't really that interested at all either way in my dick. He mostly wanted to fuck me).
The woman I saw Teo days ago also, idk. It felt like she mostly just saw me as a woman, or a trans woman. She never gendered me wrong. She didn't make me feel fetishized.
I guess that's really it though, I think it just depends on how someone makes you feel. Do they pass the vibe test. Unfortunately you'll only know I'd you go out with people though.
Idk if this matters but like... I dont pass at all. I'm hot, sure, but I don't pass. Most people think I'm a guy, in fact I got man'd on my date by some guy. But maybe this keeps extreme chasers away idk
This is actually quite reassuring because I'm in the same position haha
Idk how but hormones keep making my face more attractive but in more masculine ways 💀
Well at least you're getting hotter?? Haha my face is pretty masculine but idk.... I found out I can get ffs through my insurance and I'm like really thinking aboit it
Nice! Hope you're happy with whatever you choose
I wasn't planning on getting ffs but now that I'm getting close to leaving my job, I'm feeling very tempted to get it if I can before going too just cause it'll be free
Ok so it's kinda weird for me because yes I've fucked a bi woman however I was topping but that was also my choice. So, kinda hard to say what she was into about me. But I will say we went on a whole date beforehand and I felt pretty affirmed in my gender. So idk. I need more experience I think
I'd be pretty skeptical of assuming bi people will treat you well. Sexuality isn't a great indicator. I've had bi people revert to heteronormativity the moment they realize I have a cock. I've had bi people who are attracted to my masculine presence and broad shouldered 6'4 stature who had no desire to treat me like a woman. And basically everyone expects me to take the lead.
In my experience lesbians are a bit more reliable but not so much that I feel automatically safe around cis lesbians.