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I'm not even trans, but damn I want to wear women's clothes (hexbear.net)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by ButtBidet@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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Clothes for dudes basically comes down to t-shirts and trousers. And for shirts, one's mostly limited to brands, bands, and sports teams. Or, even fucking worse, some pithy comment like "not married and happy", or "have drink, me good", or whatever the feck people find clever these days. I oftentimes default to the H&M look, as it's the least corny looking style I see, and that's not saying much.

Women's clothes have all these cute tops with no shit written on it. There's more variation in colours and shape. You can mix it up by having a half top (whatever you call those). Don't want to wear a top and trousers that day, then wear a dress or a skirt.

Obviously the huge advantage of being a guy is that you can be ugly af, indeed I am an ugly fecking dude, and you're accepted. I assume it's harder for women in this regard, let me know if I'm wrong.

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[–] Palacegalleryratio@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

people that judge you for your looks fucking suck

I know what you mean, and you’re correct… but also incorrect. We all make judgements on looks for a reason. If you see me walking towards you with my beige combat trousers and my navy blue bomber jacket and beige baseball cap all with ‘patriot front’ logos on it and a white snood mask, you’re going to make certain assumptions about my character (like I need punching). If I wear a “Pride month by Ratheon” T-shirt you’re going to make assumptions too (that I’m an unbearable lib). These are good working assumptions that allow us to make shortcuts in mental processing, made because they’re often right, we don’t need to get to know a venomous snake’s character to know it shouldn’t be near my toddler. Like it or not clothing is a social signifier and it has meaning in the real world. Now how these shortcuts are used is different, if someone judges you negatively for your skin colour or wearing a female or male coded dress ‘inappropriately’ then you’re correct, they suck.

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I guess that assumptions (obvious interpretations) that someone is a chud or lib is one thing. I've met many leftists tell me that they were hesitant to warm up to me as I'm petty clean cut, and I'm OK with that. I feel like judgements about "ugly" and all the synonyms are pretty bad as they're punching down.