In my case my mother had known there was something off about me from young as I would try to wear makeup, play with my sisters toys, try to wear my sisters clothes and such.. But I'd be punished for it, that included verbal and physical abuse. I won't go into more but that is some of the tells from me growing up and I had years of abuse between being trans and autistic.

I'd mulled over how to tell her and my family for years and I repressed and disassociated for a long time because of what I was put through growing up.

I thought this too if I was a parent, I think I'd feel bad if my hypothetical child felt like they had to keep something like that a secret from me. I'd thought stupidly her mothering instinct would kick in. But my mother was an abuser.

When I told her I was going to transition, she pulled that grieving for my death phrase. (I've mentioned above I lost my brother when I was a kid) so it was a shock to hear this, I had known it fairly common for a parent to say something like that or feel loss but I didn't think it would feel the same. I felt incredibly guilty.

She pointed out my age said I am a man and a load of other transphobic shit, along with using my brothers death as a bludgeon to try to guilt me out of transitioning. She also denied that I showed any signs of being trans..

This was the ongoing end to our relationship because I'd taken years of abuse from my parents and she tried to dissuade me and invalidated me on top of that

I'm sorry for dumping that here and its super negative..