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mental health
anyone else struggle with impostor syndrome to a degree?anything I do I find that I'm never good enough at it, that I'm a fraud, that I'm faking my mental health issues and I could just choose not to, it's permanent self gaslighting. I cannot appreciate compliments because in my mind they are lies to make me feel better while the other person doesn't like me, even if it's from someone close, and such.
i suppose it's also my, what i think is, OCD thoughts, I'm self gaslighting a lot of the time regarding my own identity, existence, relationships, everything and it sucks
it's like i have an internalized redditor mf
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Definitely, for all my big issues.
I remember thinking before I transitioned, before my egg cracked, having that background feeling that "hey, maybe I'm just really dumb and they're all just accommodating me, maybe this is all some elaborate scheme to placate me and think I'm doing okay or even well."
Learning to accept compliments is not easy when you feel you're worthless. You should have been taught that you are worthy of love and you deserve to be treated like a respected human being. Self-love doesn't come easy if you've been through a lot - including being closeted trans. It's possible. You might need some therapy to work through it. If you want, you can try what my therapist suggested. Every time you have a bad thought or self-degrading though, you have to say or think 3 positive ones. Some could be resilience and inner strength, kindnss/compassion, intelligence, hard worker/disciplined, empathy, adventurousness/openness, etc. It's easier when you can think of a few on your own, whatever you vibe with. Chances are you are pretty resilient compared to the average person, comes with the territory but you have to feel it and it's easier when you come up with them yourself ahead of time.
Mm, I'm doing something similar that my therapist suggested, making a list of positive traits I know about myself and looking at those when self doubt kicks in
It's ehh, weird to say the least, some of the days I drown completely the inner voice by supressing it or "faking" being very secure I think
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Same, I don't accept them well. I struggle to believe them.
I've spent most of my life basically treated like dirt.. Growing up isolated due to abuse and autism and not able to socialse normally I was very alienated into my 20s. I was never shown anyone cared growing up. Never got hugs from parents and such. Everything had always been sterile and cold.
Then being in an abusive relationship after that..
It can be hard
In my case, I guess I don't see any value in myself most of the time because I'm so self critical in a negative way, so it easily obstructs if others would see that value or not.
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I still struggle but I'm in a better place. I have zero self confidence and have issues with self worth.spoiler
Same tbh,spoiler