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[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 72 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I'd argue it's not comparison at all, but envy. Comparison is a simple act and can be done between two things no one gives a damn about. It's the envy that you generate yourself that ruins joy.

[–] pooberbee@lemmy.ml 85 points 6 months ago (5 children)

I'd argue that pedantry on the internet is the REAL thief, here.

[–] reev@sh.itjust.works 9 points 6 months ago

Certainly stole my will to live

[–] NightAuthor@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago

Pedantry is the main tool in my life-force theft kit

[–] areyouevenreal@lemm.ee 3 points 6 months ago

I think this is actually important to point out. Not pedantry at all. You can compare things without becoming envious.

[–] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I think we can all agree that pooberbee is the REALLY real thief of joy.

[–] DaddleDew@lemmy.world 13 points 6 months ago (1 children)

It is anecdotal, but I used to live in an area where there I was surrounded by people who were richer and more affluent than I was. I didn't envy their stupid luxury SUVs or their unnecessarily huge houses. But it constantly gave me a feeling that I wasn't as well as I could for myself and that I should seek more. Especially when I realized how dumb some of those people who make so much more money than I do are. This ceased the moment I moved to somewhere else where people around me were at my level.

I think ultimately you want to be at the level that you perceive as "normal". But if you constantly look at people who make more than you, and there always will be, it will be much more difficult to be happy with your situation.

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

I don't think dealing with the unjust nature of reality is the same as envy. That's ... a whole other situation far more than some tattoos.

[–] catch22@startrek.website 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)
[–] nifty@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Nothing against this or other stoic ideas, but if you’re the only “enlightened” one while everyone around you is a reptile who is out for themselves, then you just end up a chewed up loser.

[–] shrugs@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

So you are saying people like the dalai lama are chewed up losers?

I always find it interesting to which length people go to not accept simple logic if it would hurt their feelings.

[–] nifty@lemmy.world 1 points 6 months ago

People like the Dalai Lama are losers in the conventional sense. How much of international policy (of any country) is determined from the teachings of Dalai Lama? Or at a smaller scale, how much of your immediate environment is determined from such principles? Every place is different, but the defining characteristics of any dominating force in history has been injustice, unfairness, and violence (on some level). It’s sad but true, doesn’t mean it can’t be different tho

[–] HuntressHimbo@lemm.ee 31 points 6 months ago

Do it with a temporary tattoo and enlist your friend to setup the joke somewhere. Keep your friend and get the goofs

[–] stufkes@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

I only know that "compare and despair" variant

[–] FiniteBanjo -1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Just now realizing the meaning here, before I thought the quote was talking about how people look at an artist's work and immediately compare it to something else.

[–] lseif@sopuli.xyz 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

...is that not the meaning ?

[–] Tum@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

it's more saying that comparing yourself or your own accomplishments to those of others will leave you feeling joyless.