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I'm gonna give them the real answer and make them wish they never asked.

(context: i work in IT on help desk and talk to people on the phone)

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[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 28 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I say "hey how's it going" so naturally it's like breathing so, sorry

[–] Cummunism@hexbear.net 21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

and usually my answer is at least somewhat honest when i say "good" but right now im grieving over a dead friend and i just wanna be like "IT'S GOING SHITTILY"

[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 18 points 4 months ago

I would accept that answer

[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

Also if you want to vent I'm down. I slack off all day at work and check hexbear a lot

[–] anarchoilluminati@hexbear.net 6 points 4 months ago

Oh, damn. I'm so sorry for your loss, Comrade.

Please take care of yourself as best you can. I hope you have a good community for support.

[–] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 24 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] Cummunism@hexbear.net 18 points 4 months ago (1 children)

if society ever goes totally to video chat, im fucked. the faces i make when dealing with these morons...

[–] CyberSyndicalist@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

this is half the reason I'm still masking

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 20 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] Cummunism@hexbear.net 17 points 4 months ago

how dare you

[–] cypherpunks@lemmy.ml 19 points 4 months ago
[–] 2Password2Remember@hexbear.net 17 points 4 months ago (4 children)

why is it so hard for people to understand that "how are you doing" doesn't mean "tell me about your current mental state", but rather simply "hello"? i swear we have this thread at least once a month

Death to America

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)

because neurotypical people are lying scum constantly and habitually saying shit they don't mean

[–] AdlachGyfiawn@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Idioms aren't uncommon. They're a fact of language, which is inherently abstract.

[–] spacecadet@hexbear.net 7 points 4 months ago

Acting as if neurodivergent people are out there not literally spilling tea and not literally breaking legs /s

[–] 2Password2Remember@hexbear.net 3 points 4 months ago

normal!

Death to America

[–] Wolfman86@hexbear.net 3 points 4 months ago

Justt America, hey?

[–] stevatoo@hexbear.net 16 points 4 months ago

I remember telling a barista that my day wasn't really going that great and they put a smiley face with my name on the cup and I nearly started bawling.

[–] VapeNoir@hexbear.net 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'm less interested in how you are today than why you are today

[–] btfod@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] Tachanka@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago

manhattan when am i today ligma-2

[–] EmmaGoldman@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago

I ask this because I genuinely, actually care.

[–] Delphinium@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago
[–] Assian_Candor@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

I am called out

[–] abc@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

i just say "its going" and provide no elaboration. people think i am constantly standing with one foot off the ledge and honestly, good. highly recommend

[–] LaGG_3@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago

(context: i work in IT on help desk and talk to people on the phone)

I worked in a call center ages ago, and just accepted that I was really an improv actor and the person on the phone is a character I had to play.

Dunno if that'll help you, but it worked for me

[–] perishthethought@lemm.ee 10 points 4 months ago (5 children)

Is this just Americans or do other countries do this too? I know I do this, out of long habit.

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 13 points 4 months ago (1 children)

do other countries do this too?

Germans do this, in spite of there being a 70% chance that people will be halfway honest and answer something like "meh" or "it can't be helped"

[–] perishthethought@lemm.ee 11 points 4 months ago

OK, thanks. And yah, the response is not meant to always be, "fine". If you're having a bad day, you can tell me that without going into all the details. I usually want to know when that's the case so I can adjust how I talk to you.

[–] HamManBad@hexbear.net 12 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I know that it is definitely unusual to some Scandinavian cultures, they take the question literally

[–] Chronicon@hexbear.net 11 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I also take the question literally.

I don't understand neurotypicals.

[–] HamManBad@hexbear.net 9 points 4 months ago (1 children)

NT communication often has more to do with ritual and social cohesion than explicit meaning. I can see where it's evolutionarily useful but it can get really annoying

[–] Chronicon@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I don't mind the ritual and all that really, it's when people treat it as completely devoid of meaning that I get annoyed. Like it can be idle chit chat, I can be as responsive or generic as I want with it, I can just lie and say fine, or it can spur further conversation, that's all cool!

It's people that go "no you're supposed to completely ignore it and just treat it as if they said 'hey'" that drive me batty. Or who insist the only acceptable answer is "good"

[–] perishthethought@lemm.ee 8 points 4 months ago

Good to know, thanks

[–] Wolfman86@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

You alright mate?

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[–] anonochronomus@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

howdy doody!

[–] tripartitegraph@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago
[–] marxisthayaca@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago

When someone asked yesterday I was like "at least I'm not getting shot at"

[–] Alaskaball@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

How're y'doin' today?

[–] OptimusSubprime@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

i work in IT on help desk and talk to people on the phone

Oh you poor poor son of a motherless goat. My condolences. sadness

[–] Cummunism@hexbear.net 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Pro: the job pays great for help desk, and it's overall easy. And the company actually invests in technology

Con: it's a finance company so a large amount of people have titles like "wealth advisor" and those people don't fucking matter to humanity, and actually are a detriment to it.

[–] OptimusSubprime@hexbear.net 6 points 4 months ago

I bet you take a lot of calls from dumb asses.

Not people who don't know what they're doing and tell you but are willing to learn. I mean the ones that think they know what they're doing, try to tell you how to do your job, and end up making things worse.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 4 months ago

I started actually answering, people stopped asking. lol, lmao even

[–] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 4 points 4 months ago

I'm afraid to say this in retail because of that one person that pulls the lever to full fucking creepy.

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