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Final Fantasy XI

Final Fantasy XI is the eleventh numbered installment in the… Okay, you know what it is, I’m just going to tell you about one of the storylines!

During the Wings of the Goddess expansion, adventurers will be sent back in time to experience the events of the Crystal War, a cataclysmic event that is the foundation for conflicts of the modern-day timeline. Should an adventurer choose to serve the Kingdom of San d’Oria, they will be immersed in the story of the Young Griffons—a group of children who would see themselves knights, many of whom grow into prominent characters later in life.

Among the Young Griffons, the player will find Bistillot, a shy boy who doesn’t like to be seen. With his penchant for engineering, shy demeanor, and lack of combat potential, Bistillot prefers to spend his time inside of an orcish war machine that he was able to repair to working condition.

He is often seen before he is heard, with his signature phrase, “HAAAALLOOOOOOOOO” being used to hail the adventurer. Through the course of the story, Bistillot finds his way, even contributing to the war effort with his engineering skills.

However, when another member of the Young Griffons is kidnapped and taken to the present day, the adventurer must return to the present day and reunite with the Young Griffons’ present selves! The adventurer’s first contact in the present day is Bistillot. When the adventurer hears the signature “HAAAALLOOOOOOO,” Bistillot approaches the player, but what the player sees is… a woman?? She introduces herself as Bostilette, a “friend of Bistillot.”

After the rescue mission, Bostilette comes clean. She is, of course, the very same Bistillot who was a little boy twenty years earlier. She explains that she was very sick as a baby, so her parents gave her a boy’s name so that she would be stronger and survive the illness. Once she overcame the illness, she was comfortable to reclaim her name and gender. Well, that closes the book on that story, except… I’ve decided that’s bullshit!

I have unilaterally decided that Bostilette is trans, the sickness she had was dysphoria, she stayed in the orcish war machine because she was an egg, and I hope you all agree!

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

GenderIsOpSec (10/28 - 11/3)
Zvyozdochka (11/4 - 11/10)
oscardejarjayes* (11/11 - 11/17)
HelltakerHomosexual* (11/18 - 11/24)
GayTuckerCarlson* (11/25 - 12/1)
Luna* (12/2 - 12/8)
Eco* (12/9 - 12/15)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net 28 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's ridiculous when cishets get mad at you for suggesting that someone might be an trans-egg

How dare you push an innocent cishet to question their own gender and potentially find out that they're not cis. This is oppression. maybe-later-honey

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I mean you did punch a hole in cisnormativity for this poor cowardly dweeb. The cis will be furious at that, lol

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 27 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] buh@hexbear.net 25 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

sadpostingDearly missing someone I last spoke to years ago and I can’t tell whether it’s because we had a genuinely meaningful connection or it’s because I’ve been such a loner for most of my life that I form attachments to anyone who’s nice enough to be my friend lea-sad

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 25 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (11 children)

sicko-spinsicko-speeeeensicko-fem HAHAHAHA! YES! YEEEESSS!!! I GOT A FUCKING PRESCRIPTION FOR PROG!!! lets-fucking-gobridget-yoyo-walkparty-rocking

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

Ah fuck, I found it, in Whipping Girl! Here we go:

I have also met some people in the transgender community who feel that identifying outside of the male/female gender binary is superior to, or more enlightened than, identifying within it. Such people often express gender anxiety (binary-phobia?) at people who identify as either female or male.

che-smile I'm done, lmao.

Yes, Julia, I am certain that A) being non-binary is something people do purely as a "moral high ground" kind of thing, B) that their expressions of negativity toward the gender binary are exactly the fucking same as cisgender people imposing their belief that men should be masculine and women should be feminine on others. I am certain.

Binary-phobia madeline-deadpan This is where that weirdass bit about "genderqueer is a privileged identity only accessible to college students with punk rock haircuts" type shit in Nevada comes from, isn't it?

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago (9 children)

Guess who has an HRT consultation scheduled 👀

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[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago (6 children)

you can tell my wife is from a settler colony by tthe way this mfer hogs the blanket and rolls over to the middle of the bed every damn time

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Been here less than a day and my wife is already trying to put me in the kitchen badeline-disgust

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[–] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Wweeeeee my parents are visiting weeee I'm getting misgendered constantly weeee they are making weird comments about my body

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (8 children)

Finally got around to reading the Gender Accelerationist Manifesto. It's a very good introductory text, and it's good the bear site recommends it so heavily, but i mostly had the feeling i was already aware of what was being discussed. The totality wraps up a communist, non-liberal view on intersectionality in a useful way, tho, and i found the statement that the trans experience isn't transhistorical because our conception of transness specifically exists in a post-colonial framework of gender quite eye-opening.

edit: i spoke too soon, the gender accelerationism intensifies gui-trans

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Owwwwww I hate life. I have no spoons, they areb't refilling, chronic pain is probably making it worse, going outside for groceries is getting hard. Also I got on sickness benefits and it is only $228. Super over.

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[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

Turns out I am a switch after all. So I can describe myself as “non binary, bisexual, versatile, switch, never made a decision in my life”

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago (2 children)

my wife flies over tomorrow possum-party

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

my wife. my girlwife. my doggirlwife. puppywife

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

work related good feelsso i work at a preschool (every rightwinger in 50km radius just got really mad but doesn't understand why) and today one of the teachers told all the children of her class to thank me, by name, for the food that we gave for them.

It's actually really affirming to get a string of like 20 kids come up to you and thank you while also mentioning your name meow-melt

10/10 would recommend

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[–] Starlet@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (4 children)
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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (28 children)

What if I started using some neopronouns thonk-trans

I;m thinking about thos pronouns

bean-think meemaw

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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Disappointing to encounter a cool trans woman in a hot Halloween costume dressed as Jadzia dax-stoked and have her go on a rant about “authoritarian tankies.” Why are so many self described anarchists like this? kitty-birthday-sad

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (8 children)

My facial hair says Assad must go

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

Cannot wait for the US election cycle to finally be over. I hate how this farce dominates the consciousness of so much of the world whenever it is held. amerikkka

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (4 children)

It's so nice to be free of the "what if I'm not actually trans" thoughts that used to plague this girl's noggin. Having the freedom to just to the shit I want to do and not do the shit I don't is actually the best thing ever. I've done so much gender stuff lately that I would have never done with those fears rotting me.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Did my nails a cool bronze like color. screm-pretty

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (3 children)
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[–] buh@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (7 children)

mopey blogposting

Been trying to avoid trans spaces/content online (including here, though I’ve posted in the megathread a few times) for the last few weeks, trying to convince myself that I can just live as a feminine cis man, but now I realize I can’t do it. It’s not what I want for myself, and if anything my dysphoric feelings get worse from intentionally ignoring that.

I finally bought an article of girl clothes - a pair of gym shorts. Is that weird? Shorts? I want something fitted and the most fitted men’s shorts I’ve been able to try were still too baggy for my liking (though that’s probably for a reason that might become a problem with my new purchase… we’ll see when it arrives).

I’m still off the booze, will be a full 30 days tomorrow. I try to tell myself I started this for vague health reasons, but really it’s because I know orally administered HRT can be hard on your liver, and even though there are other ways, I want to at least have a chance of keeping it an option. This is probably the longest I’ve abstained for the past decade, so the damage might be irreversible, but it’s worth trying.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Also, folks, I'm back on my she/her grind.

For the first time, exclusively~

Hope I'm here for a while!

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (2 children)

idk, internalized transphobia? romantic attraction brainworms about being perceived/not perceived as transHow do I deworm myself of the brainworms where I make myself uncomfortable every time I even notice myself attracted to someone?

If it's a woman I'm attracted to, I'm worried about being perceived either as a weirdo effeminate bi guy and misgendered or the transphobic chud trope of trans women all being predatory lesbians doing Bathroom Crime or whatever

If it's a guy, I'm worried about either being misgendered by a queer cis guy thinking I'm a femmy cis gay, or a straight guy expecting a woman reacting badly and either being harassed or potential violence

All of these scenarios start like automatically in my head just from seeing an attractive (binary cis) person on TV or a stranger in public and realizing I'm attracted to them

My brain sucks ass dude

Maybe I really should be exclusively t4t and just completely dissuade myself of the notion of paying cis people any attention at all romantically

Seeing a pretty lady on TV and thinking about how she might get creeped out by me or a handsome guy and thinking he might kick my ass can't be healthy

lea-breakdown

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[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago
[–] Moss@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (7 children)

I know Moss is the most generic agender name, on the same level as Kai, but the funny thing is I didn't even choose this name. My friends started calling me Moss as a nickname long before I realized I am agender. Assigned Moss By Friends

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[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

You think Stalin would look better as a trans woman?

Edit I forgot what my account name was

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Airport employee ma’am me madeline-shock

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[–] autismdragon@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

My girlfriend invited me to her steam family with her other girlfriends but I'm already in a steam family with MY other girlfriend and HER other girlfriends and you cant be in more than one. My massive library is in demand! But it sucks this is polyphobic!!!!!!!!!!!!

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[–] Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (5 children)

misery hourBeing bedbound sucks. Being bedbound and lonely sucks even more. doggirl-gloom

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I got approved for a bridge welfare payment while my disability application processes lets-fucking-go have to jump through some more bureaucratic hoops to get at the money which is a pain but I have payments building up starting today!!!! happened way quicker than I thought, really happy:)

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[–] Zvyozdochka@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

cw: autism sensory issues, genitals, shavingI must be cursed with the most unlucky body hair genes ever, I shave my bits and bobs and my butt and the next morning it's already grown back enough to have a little stubble and if I don't shave again that morning it ends up rubbing against my panties and really bothers me, like, bleh. kitty-birthday-sad Makes me want to just stop shaving so I don't have to deal with the sensory problems but then ✨gender ✨ happens and it gets at me the same amount, if not worse. I hate my brain sometimes doggirl-tears

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[–] CyborgMarx@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (6 children)

A trans man ambushed and wrecked Ben Shabibo on a jubilee debate

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

breaking: trans man clocks cis man nazi-punching

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (7 children)

Did @EstraDoll@hexbear.net ever clean her room? I never got to play legos. screm-pretty

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Finally started using a recorder for voice training. Game changer.

Wtf! That's a girl in the recording! That sounds like a girl! Who recorded thAt omg!?

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (11 children)

autism yappingRunning out of instant ramen leads me to reflect that they jacked the prices on all the instant stuff with low prep/cook requirements. I used to buy those Sidekicks-style pasta things, you're supposed to use them as part of like fettucine alfredo and stuff, but I would just eat them, autism. Microwaveable even. Used to be four for five bucks, now it's three for seven. Actual crime.

So this is probably why everything food related feels like a crushing depressing weight lately. Everything has to be cooked from fresh ingredients and then has three days in the fridge. It's exhausting I think, when I'm low on spoons I just wanna put something in the oven or microwave Idk. Putting soya sauce in the stir fry made me want those fucking instant teriyaki things again.

So screech, I hate everything, reee etc

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

just reminding people that need help with healthcare (or know someone who does) please dm me on matrix and i'll do what i can, i got all the deets cat-trans

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

coming out stuffI'm planning to visit my family soon, and I've been thinking about what to do regarding my grandparents. They're old, rural Europeans and I doubt they even know what a trans person is. When I saw them this summer it that was the last time I boymoded, and that just made me feel bad, and I can't just wear a sports bra and a sweater to hide things now, like I could then. What I've decided to so far is to just present fem like I normally do, and if they have questions I'll answer honestly, but I won't have a big coming out moment or be particularly insistent that they gender me correctly (at least for now).

Maybe it's a bit cowardly, but I feel like it's a good compromise so far, not actively hiding who I am, but hopefully not overwhelming them either. They probably won't say anything either way, because they're so ingrained in this annoying cultural idea that asking people anything that could in any way feel uncomfortable for you or for them is better left unsaid in every situation.

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