“Don’t take that raise, it’ll put you in a higher tax bracket!”
Some people who don’t understand tax brackets actually believe this is good advice.
this post was submitted on 27 Nov 2024
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I'd say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.
My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it ... but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn't actually discussed finances with them.
Maybe not poor at its core, but poor phrasing nonetheless: "just be yourself!"
What we should say is: stop trying to force yourself to fit in. You are enough as you are. Embrace your quirks, passions, and individuality without feeling the need to conform to what others expect. It's not about "just being yourself" in a vacuum; it's about freeing yourself from the pressure to mold into something you're not.
The beauty of authenticity is in the courage to show up as you are, without apology.
All one liner advice is a shortening of a much more complex idea and people rarely pass along the complexity. I think you nailed the goal of the saying, that fitting in shouldn't require losing their individuality.
Sadly some people use the saying to justify being an asshole, because they don't understand that they can be a decent person and still be themselves.
I think "Just be the best version of yourself" is a better phrasing.
Not sure I like the word "just" though. Not as empowering as it could be.
I really like this answer! Absolutely gorgeous response. Confidence is massively important for being happy with oneself, and that starts by understanding you are a singular original human.
You have one soul mate out there. One true love. One person, so you better compromise to make sure it works. Especially when the alleged "one" is telling you to comply. That way lies abuse.
"God will bring the right person into your life"
I know someone who believes this so strongly that they don't even really go out or date or anything. They legit believe that somehow their soulmate, chosen by God, will show up at their doorstep while they sit at home every night watching TV? I don't understand.
I guess maybe if it's the pizza delivery guy or something...
"I've sent Bill, who's a really great guy btw, back to Home Depot three times to buy a part that he already has two of at home but your dumb ass just sits on the couch every night instead of thinking 'gee, I should probably repaint my hideous living room.' But you know what? It's fine. Bill deserves someone who will actually take some initiative instead of sitting there binging Grey's Anatomy every night like 'GoD wIlL bRiNg ThE rIgHt PeRsOn InTo My LiFe'. --God (Probably)
Getting married, thinking it’ll improve your situation. Nope it’ll just solidify what’s there.
a good marriage drastically improves your life. a bad marriage will obliterate it.
Sorry for your luck.
"Listen to your body" No, that's how you get fat. Your body wants to build up fat! That's how we survived famines. Famines that don't happen anymore.
Listen to your doctor instead 👍
Listen to your body, assess how its feedback comports with your goals, then use your brain to decide what to do.
Listening to the body is a rule of thumb. If you feel bad after eating/drinking something it's probably not good for you. If you cough from something in the air it's not healthy to inhale.
It's especially true in high octane workout culture like cross-fit, if it hurts then don't continue, this is how you end up with a herniated disc.
That being said, if you're on heroin you shouldn't listen to the body. Same with cigarettes, junk food, sugary drinks, candy etc. because the body is a dopamine whore.
famines are increasingly likely.
Listening to your body is meant in the context of over-exercising though. It’s not a blanket get out of exercise card. That’s called “listening to your brain”.
That is not bad advice
You want to listen to your body because it tells you way more things than just feeling hungry. That is a gross simplification of that suggestion, almost assuming human bodies are machines.
Bad advice in this context is saying "you are gonna be happier if you lost weight" or "you are gonna look better if you lost weight". That is extremely personal and changes person to person, some might even feel worse.
Listening to a doctor's concerns is for everyone with no exclusions, but feeling good in oneself's body is another different topic that needs to be tackled appropriately.
Don't listen to food adverts. Broccoli doesn't have a marketing budget.
Obligatory: "YOLO", it is true we only live once -- so make it count.
"Big boys/girls don't cry"
This is some archaic-level advice similar to "pull up your bootstraps" that most people may have these already ingrained as part of growing up. It is fine to cry and show others [you trust] your feelings, no matter how old you are. More importantly, the better advice is to "take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being" and "be kind to yourself".
if it moves, bet on it. if it doesnt, eat it.
Follow your dreams
This episode is pure gold!
Compare yourself to the people you see in the movies.
You never see Lara Croft or John Wick get the hiccups. If you do it's because you're a jerk and everyone will laugh at you.
creatural realism. thats why i love die hard, hero gets hurt a lot.
Runs 100 yards barefoot through broken glass.
Eat less, move more