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[–] Bytemeister@lemmy.world 7 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

If you are in the US... Learn how to drive already. The vast majority of adults are going to drive every day, and most of those are going to drive at least twice a day. The degree of competency in driving seems to fall to a new low every year.

Signals - Use them. If you don't have time to check, signal, check, maneuver, then you don't have time to make that turn/lane change. If you don't signal, you're not driving, you're just fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.

Distracted driving - it's a myth. You're either driving, or you are fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.

Turning from wrong lane/driving across onramp shoulder - know where where the fuck you are, and if you make a wrong turn, don't endanger your life, your passengers lives, and every else's on the road. A good driver rarely misses their turn, a bad driver never misses their turn. If you are cutting people off to make your ramp or turn, you're not driving, you're fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.

Frankly, I'm of the opinion that speeding should not be a primary offense. If the road is clear and some dude checking his lanes, using signals and paying attention to the road wants to drive 110 on the freeway, let him. They've never almost killed me, but idiots in cars fucking around on the road like they are the only people on the road nearly cause me an accident almost every day I drive now. I rarely get through the day without using my horn to wake up some jackass about to kill someone, and those people should get pulled over, fined, and have their behavior corrected.

Edit: Also automatic lights were a mistake and they should be banned.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

I would add proper lane usage and following distance. If you're on a multi-lane road you should be passing the people on your right. If you're not, get over to the right lane. Leave enough space in front of you to stop in case of an emergency, this also helps with congestion as the space allows you to keep rolling at a slower speed rather than having to stop and go which propagates to everyone behind you (unless they leave enough space to not have to stop) and causes a bigger delay.

[–] MothmanDelorian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Remember heavier cars take longer to stop so you need that 18 wheeler in front if you passing things 10+ seconds before you so that you don’t collide ifvthey suddenly hit the brakes.

[–] Bytemeister@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I should, but I had to stop somewhere, rather than just post a cranky version of the DMV driver education manual, So I arbitrarily stopped where I did. Feel free to chime in and gripe about idiots almost killing us daily though.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry if my reply came off as argumentative. I thought your post was very good.

[–] Bytemeister@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

No, no, you're fine. I just stopped where I stopped. You're spot on that bunching up in lanes causes jams.

I try to drive with the mentality that lanes should be "permeable", cars should have sufficient space to make easy moves between lanes. When you get a solid line of cars, people start driving the same way deer try to cross a highway.

[–] meyotch@slrpnk.net 6 points 8 hours ago

You must know when to hold them, and when to fold them.

I am certain this pertains to every aspect of life, but am still figuring out exactly what to hold or fold, and when.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 16 points 14 hours ago

Meditation. It helps with self-control, emotional regulation, stress, and builds discipline. Screen addiction is real, and meditation helps.

[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 32 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

Polite conversation

Knowing when silence is damaging

Knowing when to shut up

[–] Truffle@lemmy.ml 10 points 18 hours ago

Knowing when to leave a conversation, a room, a party, a relationship, etc.

[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 6 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

I always feel like if you're spending time with someone new, it's OK to have stints of silence. It's one thing to get along with someone by having easy conversation. At the same time it's nice to know that you don't always have to fill up every moment with dialog. To just exist in someone else's presence is sometimes enough.

[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

That's something I struggle to internalize, even when I'm with my best friends. I dunno how to be comfortable with silence, with a lull in the hangout sesh, it just eats me up and makes me feel like a bad friend.

[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

If I notice it, I just say to myself, "silence is good, quiet is peaceful. If they're comfortable I am comfortable."

[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

Good tip, thanks.

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[–] WhatSay@slrpnk.net 10 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Try living off grid, without power, phone, internet. Heat with a wood stove, carry your water. Then reflect on your standards for life.

[–] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 1 points 3 hours ago

I can already do that, I'm an autistic bastard that can make up languages for 14 hours a day and still have fun

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 26 points 18 hours ago (6 children)

Sewing

You'll save yourself so much money and time mending clothes, blankets, and doing your own mods instead of buying new things.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I started mending my clothes a while back. I'm not great at it but for the most part it's passable enough to wear out in public and the process of sewing it is actually really relaxing. It's nice to be able to save something that would otherwise be tossed out. Also I was able to turn an old t-shirt into dust covers for some of my PC peripherals I don't use all the time which I was pretty proud of.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Yeah, I have a pair of jeans where the crotch wore out recently. Took me ten minutes to add a double-seam to it. Saved me at least $50. (All by hand, no machine.)

It's such a useful skill!

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I've got a hoodie that looks like Frankenstein at this point but it's my comfort clothes. I think all the stitches give it character.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

I love not having to throw old things I love away. I have a Star Wars shirt I've worn hundreds of times over the last ten years and the pits are wearing away. I just keep stitching them up, but probably should just patch them.

[–] FeloniousPunk 11 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

My wife laughs at me for mending clothes. I often darn socks, jeans, sweaters, etc. - takes about 10 minutes but dang, I just saved $80 on a new pair of jeans. DUH.

My jr high school made the boys take ‘home economics’ and the girls had to take shop class. We all thought it was a joke but, 40 years later, I can still sew and shank a button, fix a tear in jeans, and make a pan of muffins with the best of them.

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

Jeans maybe but socks would bother me soo much...

[–] FeloniousPunk 1 points 2 hours ago

I feel you but honestly, you don’t even notice.

[–] nickiwest@lemmy.world 3 points 6 hours ago

A properly darned sock doesn't feel any different from a new sock. And if you match the color of the yarn, it can be nearly invisible.

I think visible mending is more fun -- my husband's socks have colorful little patches that make us both smile.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

Pretty great, huh?

[–] Libb@jlai.lu 5 points 15 hours ago

I learned to sew in my early 50s. Very helpful. I also leaned to... solder (small electronics) which is also a great way to save a lot of money, and to generate so much less waste.

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[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 56 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (10 children)

Cooking.

Following a recipe is a good start, and at least allows you to feed yourself beyond microwaved bullshit or going out to a restaurant. Knowing the science behind it, however, can open up new avenues to making dishes you love even if you can't get all of the usual ingredients because you will know what you can use instead without compromising the taste or texture.

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[–] Libb@jlai.lu 11 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

listening to the other(s).

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 1 points 6 hours ago

Reflective listening is a good way to learn that skill.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Truffle@lemmy.ml 17 points 18 hours ago

How to cook. Even if it is only a pair of eggs or a simple sandwich.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 30 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 15 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (5 children)

Everyone has wildly varying emotions

Emotional regulation is the ability to steer the ship ~~sheep~~ during a storm.

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[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 17 points 19 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Dasus@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

The only answer here I agree with.

There's no specific task, job or skill everyone needs to master. Everyone should know the basics of a lot of things, but the only thing you really need to master is yourself.

Good comment 5/5 would give free silver

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