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one thing most any leftist will say about china despite supporting the country is that they're a very traditionalist culture, and so LGBTQ issues in particular are a blight on leftist westerner's otherwise positive view of china.

upon scrolling thru rednote, i think that's bullshit now. i really don't think you're worse off being LGBTQ in china than you are in america. yeah, you can't get married, but that right is under constant threat of being taken away in the US anyway and let's be real- it probably will be taken away. meanwhile, china is making progress on that front, the US wants to regress.

i saw multiple LGBTQ people on rednote. i saw a lesbian couple, one of the girls even said "LGBT is completely normal in china now, especially in the cities. even the older generations who might not accept it mind their own business". can that be said about america? how many queer people here have been accosted by some boomer who couldn't mind their own business? i saw the gayest fucking dude i've ever seen in my life (that's a compliment). he was also wearing makeup and sassily singing along with destiny's child. completely comfortable in his skin and with his identity, and while all of the comments and his speaking were in mandarin that i couldn't understand, you can tell by the vibe it was all positive. meanwhile in progressive america, if you're a guy who wants to put on makeup and go live on tiktok you're gonna face all sorts of homophobia and bigotry.

one of the few things western liberals could really say about china, that even those of us who are left wing and pro china thought to be at least somewhat true, appears to just straight up not be true.

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[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 96 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (7 children)

I saw an independent poll from China once that I wished I’d saved which highlighted the nuance of the issue and the bullshit nature of polls. So grain of salt, this is my rough memory.

It had a question like “what is your opinion on homosexuality?” Slim majority negative

“What is your opinion of homosexuality in people you don’t know” overwhelmingly answered “none of my business”

“Would you be happy if your child was homosexual?” Large majority no.

But here’s the kicker there was a question “would you prefer your child be single, childless and heterosexual or married, have children and homosexual?” Overwhelmingly the latter option.

Like even if there’s homophobia it has different material roots and manifestations than it does in the west.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 71 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

i can confirm this, i know a trans woman who was pressured into getting with a cis lesbian by family so they could have kids. they didnt care that it looked gay they just wanted kids, and the assumption with most gay relationships is there will be no children. many families dont even care if theyre adopted its all about growing the family for their very frequent gatherings. lesbian relationships are generally more accepted because of things like IVF and sperm donors.

also the secret to finding trans women on most chinese social media is to search for the fishcake swirl emoji https://emojipedia.org/fish-cake-with-swirl

also the secret to finding trans women on most chinese social media is to search for the fishcake swirl emoji https://emojipedia.org/fish-cake-with-swirl

Ah, I see the trans Debian user stereotype transcends borders and languages.

Kind of misguided and wrong, but also wholesome in a way... Trans acceptance with Chinese characteristics? 🤷‍♀️

Also, the swirl cake things is adorable, figures that those would be one of my favorite things in ramen lol.

[–] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Makes me wonder what life is like for aro-ace people in China.

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 27 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] Flyberius@hexbear.net 24 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was watching this show in the hostel I'm staying at. My Chinese friends explained to me that the show was cancelled after the first episode was aired because the two male leads could be construed as being in a relationship. To be clear there is nothing overtly gay, they are just two attractive men who care about each other and who do not have any female love interests in the show.

When I remarked how ridiculous that was I got push back from two women who told me that it is wrong to expose children to the idea of being gay. I continued to say they were being ridiculous and that China can do better than that.

[–] Joncash2@lemmy.ml 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) (1 children)

Huh? Boy Love movies are incredibly popular in China. Mostly by women for some reason.

https://dearstraightpeople.com/2022/08/17/top-chinese-bl-dramas/

They can't do overtly sexual things, but having to romantic male leads is a hugely popular genre in China.

*Edit: Here's an even bigger list

https://mydramalist.com/list/45GE2qBL

[–] Flyberius@hexbear.net 2 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

Well that flies in the face of what I was told about this show. How strange. They were all fairly adamant as to why the show has been cancelled.

I can't remember the name of the show, but the premise is that every episode the characters are transported to a world/dimension where they have to solve a puzzle or mystery in order to open a door and get to the next world.

[–] Joncash2@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

That's the craziest thing about Chinese censorship. They actually censor far less than anyone is aware of. However because they're not transparent about the why, people just start assuming. The wildest part is this is all part of the plan. They want everyone to think the government is overly sensitive so people will start self censoring and the government doesn't have to lift a finger.

So why that show got censored? Who knows.

*Edit: And while what I wrote sounds dystopian, and in many ways it is so I won't go further into how it hurts some people, but it also creates a strange benefit for it's citizens. You know how USA has internet trolls that run around creating havoc? The internet trolls in China all bind together to defend China. Because they think the censorship is in THEIR favor. Let me give you an example. Dolce and Gabbana made what was considered a racist video in China. China itself said nothing about it. The people however, convinced this is something China should censor started massive internet campaigns. Ultimately leading to a gigantic boycott that still affects Dolce and Gabbana to this day. The strange self censorship has in many ways become a badge of pride for many Chinese people.

[–] UmbraVivi@hexbear.net 58 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

I remember when my chinese language partner sent me a little text she wrote in English about her home city Chengdu. There was a line in there about the city's culture where she said that in Chengdu, "you will often see homosexuals holding hands!"

She 100% meant this as a positive thing btw, she's a total sweetheart.

[–] baaaaaaaaaaah@hexbear.net 42 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Chengdu has a (positive) reputation of being China's most queer-friendly city, I guess she was drawing attention to that?

[–] UmbraVivi@hexbear.net 33 points 1 day ago

Yeah that's for sure what she meant, just phrased it in a funny way

[–] sawne128@hexbear.net 31 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Folks look at this, the homosexuals are walking down the streets of Chengdu in the middle of the night holding hands, look at them they feel so safe, tremendously safe. What does that leave them? Serenity.

[–] lil_tank@hexbear.net 20 points 1 day ago (2 children)

We could use an emoji of this Trump impersonator

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[–] crime@hexbear.net 32 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

in Chengdu, "you will often see homosexuals holding hands!"

Haha, that's cute.

The phrasing reminds me of visiting my now-wife in the tier-3 city in the midwestern US where she lived at the time — apparently you would not often see homosexuals holding hands there, as evidenced by this other queer girl who got so excited to see us holding hands that she yelled "equality!!!" at us as we walked past holding hands, then seemed super embarrassed about the outburst and sheepishly added "me too" and gave us a thumbs up. Wholesome and memorable tbh

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[–] baaaaaaaaaaah@hexbear.net 53 points 1 day ago (2 children)

XHS is a platform dominated by young urban liberal women and isn't going to be particularly representative of Chinese society as a whole.

Like I don't think it's showing lies or anything, queer people can and do live safely and openly in China's cities, but the app might not show realities of rural conservatism, or the fact that homophobia is still very common within family units if not in broader society. Just something to be aware of.

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[–] Joncash2@lemmy.ml 59 points 1 day ago (3 children)

While there's no gay marriage, China does have civil unions. Which gives gay people equal rights in the eyes of the law. It was China's way to placate both sides. The conservatives and the liberals. Imagine, a country that works with and negotiates with its citizens to try to improve the outcome for everyone. Crazy right?

https://news.cgtn.com/news/2019-08-09/LGBT-couples-in-China-file-for-voluntary-guardianship-J15eC8QcrC/index.html

[–] regul@hexbear.net 45 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I think it's worth pointing out that the same critiques that American LGBT advocates levied at civil unions in the states (which were common pre-Obergfell) are applicable to China. Namely that it's still a pointless othering and that the goal should be full equality.

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 34 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

On the topic, I just came across an informative post here outlining proper lgbtq terms in Chinese:

[EDIT: Removed link because link tracker bot is threatening to delete my post, and I have no idea how to change the link and have it still work. I give up. Can we maybe add Xiaohongshu to a whitelist or something? Seems like this bot is preventing any links from that site being posted.]

EDIT 2: http://xhslink.com/a/CQUBvMecxdX3 apparently comments don’t actually get removed, so here’s the link.

I can’t copy and paste text from there on mobile so here are screenshots:

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[–] Fishroot@hexbear.net 20 points 1 day ago (5 children)

The App is not really a good standard in gauging the sentiment nor the policies of the whole country.

The understanding of systematic discrimination is abysmal for the common people especially in Guangzhou in my personal experience.

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[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

XHS is infested with terfs though.

[–] NotLuigi@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago

I’ve seen a lot of people arguing that trans people push gender transition on children. Many citing English speaking news media to justify their claims.

[–] xiaohongshu@hexbear.net 22 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

Generally people don’t give a damn about what you do in private, but you won’t see LGBT stuff on mainstream media etc.

Sometimes there are some subtly implied relationships but nowhere near as liberal as you’d see in the West. Chinese censorship is very strict (many TV shows had to be re-written because the censorship does not approve certain parts in them) and it has gotten worse since Covid because of a lot of racist propaganda against China.

My personal experience has been that LGBT spaces have regressed since Covid, but we’ll see what happens after Biden.

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 50 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Makes sense. Cuba had some great strides on LGBTQ issues too.

[–] godlessworm@hexbear.net 58 points 1 day ago (2 children)

i still see libs trying to ride on that "THEY SENT GAYS TO CAMPS!!!" first of all no they didn't, second of all to the extent gay people were mistreated in cuba at the time, every other country was doing the same if not worse and cuban leadership is the only one to come out and say they were wrong for marginalizing gay people. and thirdly, as you pointed out, now cuba has some of if not THE best protections for lgbtq people in the world, so it's hilarious they're trying to smear them with half a century old propaganda

[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 39 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Leslie Feinberg’s book Rainbow Solidarity : in defense of Cuba, really takes all of those criticisms to pieces and points out the hypocrisy. Like the USA having to temporary suspend a ban on gay immigration to let in some Cuban exiles.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 38 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They’re doing that because it works. That’s the sad part. The propaganda is low effort because that’s all it needs to be for westerners to believe it.

[–] BeamBrain@hexbear.net 33 points 1 day ago (4 children)

See: literally anything they say about North Korea.

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[–] TheDrink@hexbear.net 39 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Just wanna add that China's a really big country so I'm sure there's a lot of degrees to it the same as there is in the US, but all we have as outsiders looking towards China is kind of a vague notion that is painted for us by mainstream media narratives which generally skew towards portraying old fashioned or bigoted attitudes, which clashes with the specific community that we can see and interact with on internet melting pots like what XHS has suddenly turned into.

But I guess what I'm saying is that if it were America, we would know that there's a big cultural difference between the Deep South and the Northeast, California and Texas, etc. We know that the culture and politics in general are a reactionary backlash right now, and that parts of the LGBT community (especially trans comrades in conservative areas) are worse off now than they were five years ago.

But all of that subtlety of understanding is lost when looking at China unless you really study it or you grew up immersed in it or you live and immerse yourself in it for long enough to pick up on them. So while seeing progressive Chinese people on XHS does give me warm fuzzies and hopefully push my own perception of Chinese LGBT attitudes towards a more correct understanding, I also try to keep in mind that I'm only looking at a small section of a very big picture.

edit: To use an example in reverse, imagine a Chinese person on TikTok seeing all of the pro-Palestinian sentiment and concluding that Americans are very pro-Palestine.

[–] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Just wanna add that China's a really big country

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I have some questions on LGBT content in Chinese webcomics, since English-speaking yuri communities always bring this up when they bash China:
1: what exactly happened to Tamen de Gushi? The story I always hear is that the CCP banned the webcomic because they showed the characters kiss.
2: I noticed some Chinese webcomics (specifically Straight Girl Trap and I Got a Girlfriend From a Shooting Star), whenever the characters kiss, would draw white spots/ have convenient light rays covering where the lips touch. For me it feels weird since these stories already have the characters in an official romantic relationship. Why do kisses get covered even when they have no issue showing a same-sex relationship in the same comic?

[–] CrawlMarks@hexbear.net 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I knew. Real china fan hours rn.

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[–] gay_king_prince_charles@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago (7 children)

The most substantial predudice I've seen on xhs has been antisemitism, which was surprising due to how few Jewish people live in China

[–] xiaohongshu@hexbear.net 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Not sure about xiaohongshu cos I don’t use it (ironic I know lol, too bourgeois/lib for me), but I think the most common on Chinese social media is casual racism against Indians.

It’s one of the few things I really dislike about the Chinese social media spaces.

[–] Fishroot@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Racism against Indians is mostly geopolitical. Most of the stuff that they point out on India are: the people are dirty, full of slums and full of pollutions

Chinese chauvinists really need to remember how bad the inequality when liberalization happened in the 90s and it is not dissimilar to nowadays India (and how some of the shit we throw at India still persist in the least developed area of China). Sometime it is helpful to think twice before spitting into the air.

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[–] CliffordBigRedDog@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago

There's no indigenous Antisemitism in China all of that shit you see online is imported from shitty english speaking edgelords who learnt it off 4chan

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[–] NotLuigi@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago

Apparently the #le tag is very popular but has been censored in the past. Now they also have #wuhluhwuh. Half my explore page is queer content so it hasn’t been censored for me thus far. Far from, I just keep getting pushed more of it.

[–] Hermes@hexbear.net 29 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Nearly all the LGBTQ people I have seen on XHS have been Chinese. I have not been seeking LGBTQ content out, so results could differ if you search for it.

CW: transphobicI saw one Chinese person telling "Mixed-gender" people not to post about it, I don't remember much besides confusion in the comments. The post did not have much engagement.

[–] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 32 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I also saw that comment. The vast majority of homophobia and transphobia I've seen comes from Americans, basically nothing from Chinese people that is obvious.

That being said, as I understand it, xiaohongshu is quite queer and dominated by women, so maybe it's not super representative of the country

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