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When it's a minor, it's called RAPE.
Fuck this cunt. bury her underneath the jail.
Why is the word "paedophile" not in that article? Can women not be nonces? I thought we had equality now.
Is that what that word means? I’ve heard British people use it in media and just thought it meant idiot or something 😂
Yep, toss that into an argument and you'd best be prepared to throw hands.
I suppose I just don't get it. She seems to be good looking. She could easily have an adult male with the mentality of a teenager, we know there are plenty of them. All I can see is opportunity/ease of access. Even the power dynamic would be the same with plenty of adult guys desperate to get laid.
Because she's a pedophile. I don't really understand the confusion.
Can we finally give up the whole "I wish I had a hot teacher who would have sex with me when I was his age" thing? Because I have heard some asshole say something like that every time a story like this comes out. Always with a female teacher and a male child, of course.
This is rape. Every single time.
To those downvoting, this entire South Park episode is very critical of people who claim it isn't rape
Oh, ok. She must not have raped him otherwise the article would have said so, right?
Just a little molestation that resulted in a pregnancy. Not rape, though.
...is facing at least 10 years in prison if found guilty of first-degree aggravated sexual assault, second-degree sexual assault, and second-degree endangerment to the welfare of a child...
Those are the legal terms for different kinds of rape.
Not using the word was a choice
Yes, a legal accuracy choice. "Rape" is a colloquial term, not commonly used in law any more. Most places name the crime "sexual assault".
And this is why I've raised my children to never to unconditionally trust people in a position of power, including even family. We had "the talk" early, made it abundantly clear what kind of behavior from an adult is never okay, watch interactions they have with people like a hawk, and check-in enough to know they are safe.
We don't have to live life afraid, but we mustn't ignore that predators can be anywhere and look like anyone.
I feel so terrible for this child and his siblings. The problems in their lives didn't begin with this rapist.
Life shouldn't have to be this way. 😭
watch interactions they have with people like a hawk,
This seems unhealthy on your part. Like paranoid or smthing.
It's a figure of speech. I simply mean being vigilant with interaction between my children and others (adults in particular). To not do so, wouldn't be good parenting IMO.
They are part of organizations and institutions that have troubled histories with child abuse. One of my children just spent the weekend on a trip with such an organization. They have strict policies ensuring youth are never alone with adults. One-on-one communication is forbidden. All adults participating are required to take youth protection training and look out for specific signs. If an adult needs to say something to a youth, then it's done publicly. If it's digital, then I as their parent am always included in the conversation. Etc etc.
Child abuse is widespread, not uncommon, and care must be taken seriously.
If you and everyone you know has been free of abuse, then I'm so so very glad for you and them. However, for millions and millions, that hasn't been the case. It's all too common and very hidden.
Being vigilant with child protection is not something I will be apologetic for.
Do you have adult friends, aunt, uncles, grandparents, whatever, that can spent quality time with your children or is every adult a potential abuser and you watch them all with the same level of scrutiny?
I simply mean being vigilant with interaction between my children and others
To be honest this is something what I'd expect to hear from survivor who hasn't processed their trauma. I'm not trying to tell you you're wrong to be vigilant, but to me this reads like a subconscious cry for help. I might be totally wrong, in which case I'm sorry.
Do you have adult friends, aunt, uncles, grandparents, whatever, that can spent quality time with your children
Yep.
is every adult a potential abuser
Yep.
you watch them all with the same level of scrutiny?
Nope.
Keep in mind that child abuse is most commonly perpetrated by someone the child knows, often a relative or a close family member. Access, proximity, trust, power dynamics, secrecy, and etc all play into it.
I don't have to be always present when my child is someone, with say, a grandparent. What is important is that communication between myself and my children remains open and that any compromising or inappropriate behavior is revealed when it happens.
Children need to be taught that certain behaviors are never permissible and certain areas of their body are absolutely off limits to anyone save their parents or doctor. Any adult that tells them to keep a secret is doing something that's absolutely not okay. I could elaborate more and give more details, but I'm hoping you get the premise. And yes, there's always exceptions to things.
Parents should keep an eye on people who interact with their children. Children should be prepared to know what is okay and what is not okay. Anything that falls outside those bounds should be reported to a parent. Perhaps it was nothing. Perhaps it was the start of something absolutely inappropriate. You don't know unless you communicate.
What happened to the kids in this article never should have been permitted to happen. And yet as the environment was created for abuse, it seems no one stepped in or did anything.
To be honest this is something what I'd expect to hear from survivor who hasn't processed their trauma. I'm not trying to tell you you're wrong to be vigilant, but to me this reads like a subconscious cry for help. I might be totally wrong, in which case I'm sorry.
I'd like to think you mean well by your comment, so no need to be sorry.
I absolutely hope that a victim of such abuse would be vigilant. Unfortunately, that might come out pretty distorted if they haven't processed things. For those who have suffered and got the help they needed, I would hope that they remain vigilant. And for those who've never been a victim, I would hope they also be vigilant.
There's a reason a lot of countries have mandatory reporting laws. There's a reason a lot of organizations have youth protection training now. There's also a reason numerous organizations have been sued to oblivion for allowing child abuse to persist and for not properly addressing it when it happens.
Take some time to look up child abuse statistics, the perpetrators, how it was allowed to happen, and etc. I think you might be surprised by how common it is and how some simple steps can very seriously mitigate it.
Vigilance means remaining watchful and being intentional, not paranoid.
The case came to light after the victim's father posted about the uncanny resemblance between Caron's son and his own.
There must be some strong genes for the victim's father to make that claim
