Truth is the second option one is just a normal ass guy. Everyone has emotions and needs. The fact is it's still taboo to be a "man" and have emotions.

Like honestly tell me any other option on there is preferable to someone with emotions... She acting like women don't require the same thing? Gtfoh. It's not even a bad thing. It's just a human thing.

So she wants a guy with a low sex drive, who she doesnt have to have any emotional attachment to, but who emotionally invested in her, that doesnt have any self confidence, and doesnt know any feminist theory so he cant tell he's in a toxic relationship and doesnt treat her like "shit" (an equal)

That seems a bit hard on the dudes.

I have no idea who this chick is, but it aint exactly a string of hits for us guys out here either. People suck in general.

Well, if we're generalizing THAT much, the dating pool for guys is just as bad.

We've got:

-women who will go out with you just for a free dinner date, then never talk to you again

-women who are looking for sugar daddies

-women obsessed with their socials (IG, TikTok, etc)

-women so unnatural you question they can still be considered human (lip fillers, butt lifts, boob jobs, have you ever heard of the term "Bimbofication"?)

-all of the above

In reality, there are so many more people in this world that don't fit any of these categories on the men or women side. It's just that a lot of the "dating pool" she's talking about is centered around dating apps. The real world is so much more diverse.

So she's complaining about sensitive guys, but also doesn't want them to be emotionally distant.

Basically wants the guy to do the "emotional labour" but not do any herself.

Relationships are emotional labor on both sides

Maybe she should find someone outside those social media pools then.

Meanwhile the dating pool for men contains the following:

Crickets

Well, that post is a straight flush of red flags.

People calling the effort you put in to support your partners, friends and family "emotional labor" are either blatantly misinformed or people who want a pass on not giving a shit about their "close ones".

Emotional labor, as a term, was created to explain the difficulties and effort someone has to engage in to regulate their emotions when they're constantly dealing with the suffering of other people during work. It's valid, just as long as you use it in its appropriate context. This dumbass appropriation of the term by a certain branch of liberals is like if someone used the physical concept of entropy to justify why they're never getting out of depression.

If someone only wants emotionless relationships with people they only interact with for their own benefit, and never giving a care in turn, that's legitimate, as long as they don't lie about their intentions. But that might also explain why this Hannah at the OP cannot find a good partner.

I certainly dislike people who have neat little boxes to put other people in. I know it's a human thing, still think it's detrimental.

Easy, just go bi and date other women. You still have the option for men.

Edit also it’s unfair to say what she’s saying anyways. I almost feel like your dating pool options or choices are more a reflection of you than other people. Or idk, maybe some people get unlucky.

The dating pool for young men is literally

-OF models

-"Sensitive" girls you have to perform constant emotional labor for

-Narcissistic (if not sociopathic) insta models

-Emotionally abusive manipulators

-Spambots

I hate that I’m the second, and so aggressively that it’s hurt relationships before

Me, an emotionally distant narcissistic porn addict: get on my level nerds

Dating pool for young men is great tho. Women pick you literally if you're tall enough for their favourite shoes

Lemmy wins again. This time it's the dating game!

I thought the last one was just conservatives making stuff up until I joined Lemmy.
Don't get me wrong, the woman in the tweet is awful, especially the part about hating men who dare to have emotions, but I'm responding purely to the last thing on this list.
A lot of Lemmy users seem to think all they need to do to be immune to misogyny is to be leftist. It's just been getting real tiring for me browsing this site seeing men be praised for things they at the same time put women down for. Not that men shouldn't be praised for these things, but the double standard here is immense.
The major one I've noticed is putting down women for having a preference on height or even dick size, but men are allowed to only want big boobs or petite women because it's "a natural expression of human sexuality."
There's also that I've seen several times men on here complaining when women are given safe spaces and resources specifically for them, like job fairs and such, and the comments being filled with how it should have been open to men as well because not doing so is sexist, meanwhile being totally ok and even ecstatic when a resource is opened specifically for men.

Like, I'm trans. I've lived on the other side of the coin. I'm glad men around here have a safe space to display their frustrations and discuss men's issues that in most places you'd be crucified for even mentioning. I just wish this could be a safe space for both genders, not just the one who holds the majority. There are a lot of times I feel straight up unwelcome on Lemmy simply because I'm a women.

Gr8 b8 m8

There are probably also a lot of single autistic spectrums who are actively avoiding interacting with the rest of the pool.

That's why I date women

Uhh you can switch the genders and it wouldn’t be a lie. Except the last part would be “still treats other races like shit”. In my experience many “woke” women are covert racist, especially against Asian men. Even some “woke” Western Asian women can be pretty racist against Asian men.

Well yeah. The sane ones aren’t looking for relationships because of a combination of the world being on fire, money being worthless and nigh-impossible to obtain, and trauma from past toxic relationships. They decided to focus their efforts on their own lives rather than someone else’s.

Either that, or they don’t even need to date, because someone in their friend group snapped them up. Either or, really.