spent all weekend in recouperation and now that it's monday I'm like damn why doesn't anyone want to hang out
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I hate colds. They're the worst. Woke up feeling like crap. About 2 days of symptoms behind my wife, so I know this won't be a quick one.
Also, I'm 4 weeks away from my bottom surgery. You can tell I'm excited because my dreams are just constantly filled with dreams of that day. These next 4 weeks are going to draaaaag.
What the fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk I have a test today I definitely did not study for at all
its a miracle if I pass this class
saw them in the mirror just now, i t's a nice feeling, I hope everyone else is feeling great <3
Conversation with the goodreads lady has been stilted and painful which I guess is pretty normal. Why is talking to people so like pulling teeth? Interests too weird I guess.
Anyway I'm about to finish up this Lily Seabrooke novel and then start Unjust Depths, finally.
Currently unmewing π§ββοΈπ€«
Shoutouts to yall for all being extremely good at posting
*sigh* Guy I became friends with is well on his way on the fascist pipeline. Had a discussion with him tonight and he's very insistent on "glassing" the US's enemies among other things. When presented with evidence to the contrary on his talking points, he wished to change topics. Considering he knows he's talking to a transgirl, I can only imagine that he's on the pipeline rather than at the final stop. Not sure if I want to bother continuing to agitate or just drop it altogether. :\
I actually have a fair amount of experience with this. I've talked a few people off the pipeline in the past. I've made a lot of mistakes and lost some friends along the way, but I like to think I'm pretty good at it now. A few of biggest tips I can give are:
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Don't push too hard. This isn't a debate, and debate is for dweebs. This is a dialogue between friends. Keep it light, but persistent. You are teaching him to think critically, not what to think.
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Be prepared for burnout and pushback. If you push too hard they will shut down. It will turn into a debate, at which point they are no longer receptive to your attempts. If it happens, drop the subject and move on to something light. Give them time to think. This is more about planting seeds than it is about harvesting results.
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Learn the Socratic method. It's a powerful tool for this kind of stuff.
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Be prepared to land on and argue from softer opinions than what you actually believe. Be prepared to fight dirty. You don't have to be 100% in good faith all the time. The metaphor I use for this is that critical thought is like a building you're constructing with them. you've already climbed the stairs and know what the roof looks like. Even if you really want them to climb them with you, you're going to have to stop on lower floors. And you need to be ok with that. Small steps win the race here.
And above all else, your safety is top priority. If things go south, bail. You don't need to put yourself into danger.
Keep up the fight! One deradicalized fascist could mean dozens of lives improved.
I'm certainly going to try. Just makes me nervous since this guy lives fairly close to me. Never really attempted to pull someone away from the fascist pipeline before, so this'll be a journey for me. Hopefully not a bad one.
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I got called "Daughter" by a random woman in the market today
I split up with my boyfriend today. It hasn't hit me yet, but I'm probably going to be really sad later.
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new unjust depths chapter!
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the date is so good, shalikova gay af and the way it ended was heartbreaking. the meeting was great, i love erika and moravskyi getting drunk and bonding. the chapter ending is very distressing, given her faction's already established opinions on shmii decolonization efforts. i feel she may not be being entirely honest about the shmii hordes displacing and destroying the eloim homeland!
That voice group meeting was useful, also got a book suggestion from a coworker who moonlights as a voice actor, though it took him some convincing since he thinks sounding feminine in retail makes customers less mad or some silly shit. Naw, they were mad long before they got to the line.
Otherwise not doing so well, this sinus infection is kicking my ass and draining me, I know its related to that never ending dental abscess, it just took until this month to finally get scheduled to be seen by a somewhat affordable dentist, though still ouch. I hope when I finally get seen that's the resolution of it, it doesn't come back to pester.