I would say most marriages throughout history are basically exactly that. I may be won't, but honestly I don't think I'm wrong. It has a lot more to do with availability than compatibility (which can be developed, tbf)

[–] TheDoctor@hexbear.net 11 points 3 months ago

(which can be developed, tbf)

I think this is a sticking point for me. My wife and I have worked hard and paid a lot of attention to make sure we’re both growing and that we’re growing closer instead of apart. I understand statistically that if I could somehow review billions of people that I could find someone more immediately compatible with me, so availability was a major factor for us. But we consistently have been told people are jealous of our relationship and we were barrels of red flags when we first got together. By the time we married we were excellent communicators who adored each other.

I don’t want to shame people who haven’t had this experience because I’ve clearly missed out on a lot and I’m not so naive as to think everyone could just git gud at relationships. The whole discussion just seems foreign to me as a result.