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I agree. I've grown less allergic to getting they / themed over the years, i understand when it is used by people who do not know my pronouns, i stick to using gender-neutral language whenever i'm talking in general or about people i don't know the pronouns of, but when you state your pronouns are she / her, that's not optional. People have to stick to your pronouns if they want to treat you with just the barest minimum of respect, and when these pronouns do not include they / them, you do not use they / them.
The problem is that people who do not respect pronouns in my experience do not get better on their own. You have to keep reminding them, in some cases that's enough, in some cases you need to escalate things and shame or ridicule them or make a scene to drive the point home that they're hurting you. What of this is appropriate depends on the people and the context, but when you never correct people misgendering you, they will assume it's ok. A lot of trans people are understandably overwhelmed with this need to assert themselves, and it is tiresome to have all these struggles and fights, and you obviously have to pick your battles sometimes, but with people you will deal with again, there's really no way around calling them out on their BS.
I need to get better at standing up for myself
Are you saying they'll assume its okay to constantly use the wrong pronouns for trans people (and that its socially acceptable to treat trans people that way) or that its okay, as in trans people aren't bugged by that? I always thought cis people knew it bothered trans people, but just actively don't care about our feelings.
I have no idea what goes in the heads of cis people and i'm unsure if i want to know, what i'm saying is just that they keep doing it if you don't push back on that.
One of the sweetest experiences I had as a baby trans was someone else standing up for my pronouns 🥹 that was so sweet of her
Yea, you're right. Honestly I should think about cis people less.
there's maybe not that much going on there besides "i identify with whatever some doctor said when i was a baby and they briefly looked at my junk" and "that forest fire at the gender reveal party kinda kicked ass"
You can have some of these to give em: