This is just plain liberalism of not having any actual convictions and not knowing why age gaps are actually bad in the "adulthood" beyond the reflexive and visceral "hurr pedo bad you're literally Jimmy Saville if you're 19 hanging out with 18"

[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 47 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

fr a 22 year old is still just a fuckin kid. I'm 40 this year and I would never ever consider dating a 22 year old. 30 maybe, but like how can you have anything in common with someone 20 years younger than you power dynamics aside. All that said 22 and 18 is a lot better than the relationships a lot of my girl friends as a teenager got into.

Edit: okay it was a troop fuck him he deserved the beating even if it was for the wrong reasons.

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 19 points 3 days ago

but like how can you have anything in common with someone 20 years younger than you power dynamics aside

20 is a lot but people with severe social disability or medical problems can easily lose a decade of life. I wouldn't try to date them but if i could manage to give college another shot i'd have more in common with those kids than i do with the people my age who have degrees and careers, housing, kids etc.

[–] Mardoniush@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've seen it work, people do fall in love with people very different from them.

But I do think literally everything else needs to look ok, and regardless "still in undergrad" should be a giant red flag.

[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

still in undergrad" should be a giant red flag.

???

[–] Mardoniush@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If you're more than a few years out of undergrad, that is. My personal line where I'll start critiquing friends actions is that. My own is way, way closer to my own age (old)

[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago

Oh okay. Thought you were shitting on people for entering/graduating late.