fr a 22 year old is still just a fuckin kid. I'm 40 this year and I would never ever consider dating a 22 year old. 30 maybe, but like how can you have anything in common with someone 20 years younger than you power dynamics aside. All that said 22 and 18 is a lot better than the relationships a lot of my girl friends as a teenager got into.

Edit: okay it was a troop fuck him he deserved the beating even if it was for the wrong reasons.

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 19 points 3 days ago

but like how can you have anything in common with someone 20 years younger than you power dynamics aside

20 is a lot but people with severe social disability or medical problems can easily lose a decade of life. I wouldn't try to date them but if i could manage to give college another shot i'd have more in common with those kids than i do with the people my age who have degrees and careers, housing, kids etc.

[–] Mardoniush@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've seen it work, people do fall in love with people very different from them.

But I do think literally everything else needs to look ok, and regardless "still in undergrad" should be a giant red flag.

[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

still in undergrad" should be a giant red flag.

???

[–] Mardoniush@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If you're more than a few years out of undergrad, that is. My personal line where I'll start critiquing friends actions is that. My own is way, way closer to my own age (old)

[–] Riffraffintheroom@hexbear.net 1 points 3 days ago

Oh okay. Thought you were shitting on people for entering/graduating late.