Hiiii!
Today: a short yap about computer hardware:
Damn I love the AM4 socket its so upgradable yay, bought a Ryzen 9 5900X for our old desktop soon to be homelab and so excited for it.
Computers are fun! ~~(and expensive)~~
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I think it's a pretty common experience for trans people but trans women more often, I've heard it from a few people. I don't know why it is that we seem to work very hard to be hyper independent and to make our needs small, especially before transitioning. I thought I was being a dutiful son as well, maybe I was but the role of the kid is to be taken care of by the parent. I shouldn't have been so focused on protecting my mom from my needs when I was 5 or 10, which is probably part of why my mom feels so sad when I mention how hard a time I had at that young. She was busy, she was going to university and law school and working and raising 3 kids with a dead beat divorced dad.Getting past that and starting to claim your space, to ask for help, is so fraught for people like us. Because some people cab be quite unkind to adults asking for help, not merely rejecting (hard enough particularly if someone is sensitive to rejection) but like... harsh. Keep doing what you're doing! It's good that you vent, that you make your needs known (sorry if I've been misinterpreting them lol).
I'm glad losing your glasses ended up being alright. I can understand how it might feel like you were losing part of your ability to feminizie a little, glad you like your face though!! That's amazing!