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This is going to sound like I’m making fun of your desire to crossdress, but I mean this genuinely. I wish I could wear the outfit of an early medieval peasant. Maybe a relatively well-off peasant. From the depictions I’ve seen I think the clothes look cool and comfortable. An undershirt, a linen tunic, braies, leg wraps, turned leather shoe. A straw hat if you’re working out in the sun. Maybe a nice cotte for traveling, and a cloak. The same outfit but in wool for the winter time, with a wide-brimmed felt hat.
But there’s two reasons why I’ll probably never put together that outfit. One, I’d need to lose about 150 lbs or else instead of looking like a guy wearing a tunic I’ll look like Homer Simpson wearing a muumuu. Two, even if I wasn’t fat people would respond to it poorly. Unfortunately, dress is part of social language and I don’t think I’m brave enough to buck those norms. Younger people will ask where the ren faire is. Middle aged people would write me off as a weirdo. And older people would always be saying “Oh Wilfred, we missed you down the parish church on Sunday, Wilfred. Father Adelbert said Arthur’s coming back. Isn’t that wonderful, Wilfred? He’s coming back with his sword, oh won’t he have his sword, and he’ll build a perfect kingdom here on Earth just for us. That’ll be lovely. Don’t you agree,” and I never know what the fuck they’re talking about.
I know I did devolve into a bit of a joke there and I guess I should offer some support, but I don’t know what I would do if I wanted to crossdress. I wouldn’t be brave enough to wear a monk’s robe in public, let alone a flowy sundress. You should live your life however you want. But, you know, I don’t know where you live or how you present, so, like, stay safe too.
Nah, your fine. I didn't think that.
But really, fuck anyone that judges your style in the way you're describing. I get it, one does want to fit in, and I'm just as guilty of it in my post. But do remember that people that judge you for your looks fucking suck, and they're doing you a favour by telling you upfront how terrible they are. But if you need to fit in to survive, I understand.
I know what you mean, and you’re correct… but also incorrect. We all make judgements on looks for a reason. If you see me walking towards you with my beige combat trousers and my navy blue bomber jacket and beige baseball cap all with ‘patriot front’ logos on it and a white snood mask, you’re going to make certain assumptions about my character (like I need punching). If I wear a “Pride month by Ratheon” T-shirt you’re going to make assumptions too (that I’m an unbearable lib). These are good working assumptions that allow us to make shortcuts in mental processing, made because they’re often right, we don’t need to get to know a venomous snake’s character to know it shouldn’t be near my toddler. Like it or not clothing is a social signifier and it has meaning in the real world. Now how these shortcuts are used is different, if someone judges you negatively for your skin colour or wearing a female or male coded dress ‘inappropriately’ then you’re correct, they suck.
I guess that assumptions (obvious interpretations) that someone is a chud or lib is one thing. I've met many leftists tell me that they were hesitant to warm up to me as I'm petty clean cut, and I'm OK with that. I feel like judgements about "ugly" and all the synonyms are pretty bad as they're punching down.
Medieval clothing is 10,000% more comfortable, more stylish, and more utilitarian than modern clothes and i will not only die on that hill, i will take my enemies with me. I fucking hate modern clothing. It's ugly, it doesn't fit anyone, cotton is an awful textile. Pockets are just the worst idea when you can attach shit to your belt. I hate modern western clothes!