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BIGGER AND MORE PRIDEFUL THAN EVER BEFORE 
Looks like my husband might tell his best friend and best friends wife about me next weekend. We will be seeing them for the holiday and he really wants to tell his friend. I'm ok with it I just hope it goes well. His wife is low-key one of the biggest sources of gender envy for me. I really hope we can still be friends. I doubt it'll be a problem but you know anxiety and all.
catastrophizing about work
I'm really stressed about my job. I like my job, and I like the work. But I'm worried about the future when it becomes hard to ignore my transition. Its not a big place, there is only 15 of us. More than half are boomers who will be retiring in the next few years. Most of the rest of my coworkers are your standard variety Gen x Cartman wannabe types. But a few are really cool and probably won't be a problem. Both my foreman and the big boss really like me. I'm super productive compared to the boomers and I know things no one else does.
But the work culture is shitty blue collar in a shitty Midwestern state. 80% of the work I do, I am in the field and alone for, but I do have to spend time at the shop. The city where work is located has some really strong anti-discrimination laws and they can't just fire me. Especially since I've had nothing but exemplary reviews every 6 months for the last 3 years. I'm outside of my apprenticeship, I'm outside of any probationary time.
I guess I really don't want to be a target and I really don't want to get fired. Sure, I'm positive I'd win the lawsuit if I got fired but still I am stressed about the potential stress of it. 
Thinking about how I might possibly still have a little bit of time where if I was on hrt my bone structure might change a little tiny bit a completely normal amount (I'm guessing cis people think about this every day)
complaining about my therapist, detrans, generally not really believing me
The cw kind of sums it all up but this week's session really didn't make me feel better about them. They brought up detrans people and how important it was to make sure before doing anything (I mean I guess?). Talked about how many of their clients stopped after two weeks. They talked about how I never ha e really put effort into how I look and should try that more before deciding to transition.
Another big thing they brought up was influence, as if I was being influenced into being trans. They talked about that for a little while.
I'm sure they said some affirming stuff too, like about how small things can be really helpful (like plushies/nails).
I don't know. I'm so insecure in my identity already I just wish they weren't like this. I know some of it seems really bad but this is how they are about other things too, just likes to explore all the options I guess.
And yes I'm pretty stuck with this one, at least for now. It just really sucks this is the best I have irl (I know having a therapist at all is a huge privilege but I do wish I had some trans/ally friends)
I mean, transition is indeed a process, but also I don't think you should focus on how hard it would be to detransition if you're wrong or something. Focus on figuring out what you actually like, try different things, try hormones if you want (you can stop before 3 months with basically no permanent changes).
For me, I did a partial social transition before I got on E for my own reasons. But also, it's really hard. That being said it does build up your skin for it though lol.
I guess, I'd say if you're unsure, just do some exploration. Nails, plushies, grooming, clothes, wigs (if you want), breast forms, all sorts of things. If you're in a city there is probably some support group around? Check your local lgbt center if you have one.
Hormones can come later if you want. But that absolute, 100% knowledge that I'm trans didn't come for me and I think never would come for me without just trying hormones. Even still idk it's weird. I'm pretty damn sure but also dysphoria is a bitch and always has me second guessing.
Went to a filmshowing that was advertised as being organised by one of the local queer groups. Well, very few people were there, but the film was ok. Later managed to talk with an organizer, and found out that none of the 3 local groups do anything for trans people.
He even said, that he was ""too old"(he was like 35) for the topic, and that the biggest community (from like 1970) is "certainly" not helpful for me.
So it seems like the local organizers treat trans-issues as a modern phenomen, and that the biggest and oldest queer org, looks to be some conservative "LGB" bullshit.
Also the city council is deeply reactionary, from what I've heard, doing everything short of outright illegalizing pride, to keep it from being organized.
I got the number of a local transwoman of him though, and I will try to contact her to actually get somewhere.
Just finished my second individual session 0 with my group for Pathfinder. So far, two successes out of two sessions. Getting pretty big compliments from the two people I've run for thus far and it feels awesome. They're having fun and I hope that session 1 goes just as great for everyone. And I must say, I'm having a great time thus far DMing. It's fantastic.
>try chilling with a comfy book in pride month
>>>protag has queerphobic parents who get large amounts of screentime
Okay look, right, here's a hot new rule I want all writers, directors, gamedevs, and more to follow. If you make things, this is your new directive: If you are going to put queerphobic parents in your story, they must die violently on-screen. Comfy reading.
stop constantly comparing yourself to cis women and making yourself feel bad CHALLENGE: LEVEL: IMPOSSIBLE
:')
Someday I'll learn to tuck, maybe, if I can be fucked at all and ever want to stop wearing jeans all the time. Yoga pants? More like, not outside the fucking house pants.
Since I don't want to end up in an actually dangerous situation, I tell all the possible appartments(with flatmates) that I am trans in the first message. I do however get like a 5th of the invitations to physical meetings that I got before. (or less, I wrote 7 applications and got invited to one place, and there the vibes were very off)
A small 1 room place might be smarter for now, till I am more established and know people again.
Appartment hunting clearly doesn't work the same for me anymore. I used to work as a cleaner and in a kitchen, so I could sell myself as a flatmate very consitently.
Fuck my Landlord for evicting everyone, so his nephew can move in.
Wanna see me do 175 ~~km~~post/h? [insert missing emoji here]
I got a sleeping cap for my hair from my possibly-transphobic-flatmate (at this point I assume that she just does not think, like at all. She just doesn't get things), but I always wake up having rubbed it off during the night. Maybe I should sew on a chin strap.
Went in a black jumpsuit for pride, did my makeup, like Emma Ruth Rundle in this video
https://youtu.be/TXCjEKpwtRc?si=bXqBv_HnMtVzUT-7
I felt so hot, my ace ass kissed a bunch of shes, gays and theys. First pride was really nice.
A year ago I choose they/them pronouns with much hemming and hawing about if it was okay because I was totally cis. Eventually I settled on yes, but with a note in my bio that I was totally cishet. And uh, now here we are, in the biggest trans thread on lemmy.
i've seen many big tiddies before, but i never knew what they looked like POV. fucking hell
What I realised watching the new Pyramid Inu video is that even if I wasn't raised to be a filthy otaku, I'm probably incapable of escaping being a massive fuckin weeb. It just seems to be a thing, stuck with this intense love-hate with anime & manga.
Good thing I have apocalyptically bad taste 
I wish I were better at dealing with conflicts. Mainly I just hide, to an almost ridicoulous degree.
