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BIGGER AND MORE PRIDEFUL THAN EVER BEFORE 
That comment count 
What a great way to end this year's pride month!
Not long to go, think we will squeeze 850 
I need to just get a strong internal sense of gender. It's kinda hard when no one sees me :/
CW: Transphobia (but I'm laughing at transphobic quora chuds)
So I was looking into neopronouns, since I don't really know much about them (and I was considering possibly using a set of them), and I ended up on a Quora thread. One person explained (somewhat) what they were, but another thread was recommended. According to many on this thread, only he/Him and she/her are acceptable for an individual, anything else is grammatically incorrect. Luckily I'm simply ✨better✨, so my first thought was "but what if somebody loses their phone" (the one person I've spoken to on this went speechless and then did self-crit). I know it's grammatically correct it's just funny to watch wannabe English professors go on Quora and say with such confidence that something is grammatically incorrect when it's not and never has been.
anyway...
Can anybody tell me anything about neopronouns, if there are proper ways to use them, what specifically constitutes a neopronoun, etc.
Neopronouns are increasingly used in place of “she,” “he,” or “they” when referring to a person. For example xe/xem/xyr, ze/hir/hirs, and ey/em/eir. You'd generally use these like any other pronoun, singular or plural may vary given the grammar
Are they just generally gender-neutral or do they portray something else about someone (personality, sexuality, etc?)
Not always gender neutral, some can indicate xenogenders for example or they can equally be used by non binary people or agender people. I don't think they're actually locked. Personally I'd just say respect what the person would want to be referred as but I'm pretty laxed as far as pronouns for myself go. I'm from the void myself lol 
Thanks for helping me figure that out! I also had no idea xenogenders existed until just now (was able to find with a quick search). You learn something new every day 
You're welcome 
talking about bigots
So right now I'm on a bit of a kick watching right wing youtubers get dunked on, and one of the things this particular chud keeps bringing up is how happy traditional gender roles have made him, and how he wants the same for his kids. BUT HAVE YOU CONSIDERED THEY MIGHT BE HAPPIER GETTING TO PICK IF THEY WANT YOUR GENDER ROLES OR NOT?! Its all well and good that you're happy being the strong provider for your loving and dependent wife, and I'm genuinely happy for you (as long as she's happy being married to a chud), but why do you not consider that I would be happier in a different relationship? What if being "biologically able to have kids" is not important to other people?
Any way just kind of a thought I had about these sorts of people. Its their roles that make them happy, or nothing. I like dogs, so you liking cats pisses me off.
Misquoting The Gender Accelerationist Manifesto
They are upholding the cisheteropatriarchy, being happy in their goofy "trad" gender roles. Literally any possible alternative threatens the status quo and social control that the goofy "trad" gender roles allow, and so must be eradicated. Very regular part of fash life.
Thinking of making a resources / help / psa thread for condensing down some old pins into one post and just have it exist for a long time
I posted the other day about presenting femme in public, forgetting, and then catching myself in the mirror for a great surprise.
Well, the opposite just happened. I hade to take off my nail polish, and I looked down at my feet just now, and I'm like, "whose fucking feet are those!?"
Went in a black jumpsuit for pride, did my makeup, like Emma Ruth Rundle in this video
https://youtu.be/TXCjEKpwtRc?si=bXqBv_HnMtVzUT-7
I felt so hot, my ace ass kissed a bunch of shes, gays and theys. First pride was really nice.
I want to get a few jumpsuits for casual wear 
they'd go great with my military boots
Really hitting that Soviet aesthetic
I plan on getting a ushanka but looking for the right one is hard, want it to go with my mirrored aviators
Big Bud Press is amazing(expensive though) highly recommend shopping their sales and buying used. :)
I was also wearing my combat boots!
Thanks for the rec!
Awesome! 
depression vent (It's long)
Y'all I feel like shit (bland, dull, bad, idk how else to describe it). I'm hoping this is just because I'm on the tail end of my injection cycle, but if it's not I'm probably about to be put into the ringer. I really should look into therapy or something because I get the smallest wins (especially after starting E) and I say "wow E cured my depression I thought I had already gotten over" and then I get back into it and it feels worse than it did before. It could also be Bipolar or something of that vein, or even worse its just something fun that could possibly come from AuDHD (realizing as I am typing this that it would have been better for the neurodiverse comm but whatever I need to get it out there). Despite being on Hexbear now and getting to talk to all of you, I feel lonlier than I have probably ever felt. I got a taste of this almost a year ago when most of the people I know either moved or became too occupied, and I was like "this is fine, I like isolation anyway, I like my personal time" and then my family was gone and I realized how much I despise it. After my egg cracked though I suddenly found myself wanting to spend more time with other people. The issue is, after "preferring" isolation for so long (in combination with my AuDHD and whatever else is going on inside my head) I am left without (what I feel) are adequate skills to meet new people, make new friends, even talk to other peers. The farthest I can get in conversations was my (now ex) cashier job and in passing with strangers while walking/hiking because I have had a lot of time to hone scripts for these situations. When I don't have a script, however, and I try to do something, it sends me into an anxiety-ridden spiral (I struggle to learn because I just form scripts, these don't help me improve). This is so bad that it even happens on here; It's the reason I often don't know what to say, can't respond to others appropriately, etc (Y'all have just been getting a lot of this 
, I'm sorry I just haven't really been able to put much into words).
TL;DR (CW: excessive swearing)
Fuck my AuDHD, Fuck Depression (or Bipolar or whatever the fuck), Fuck Social Anxiety (and anxiety in general), and of course, I'm extremely sorry I haven't been present. How horrible is it that I disassociate from an internet forum and just enter lurker mode again. It makes me feel horrible and like a stalker 
So that you all don't have to read these if you don't want to (or try to respond to it), or just want some positivity out of me, I can still give it. One of my friends is using my new name now, and I starting voice training today! I thought I would enjoy it, since I like singing and all, but it is a different beast. I'm used to vocalizing, but I'm rusty, haven't had to do it in a while, and I sound like some sort of combination between a dead animal and voice cracks (the voice cracks aren't bad, I know, but it's jarring).
Death to cis, Luna
dissociation, depersonalization, depression/anxiety
I also dissociated from hexbear for several weeks and honestly I'm still a little bit out of it. And I also feel anxious about responding to people, not because of what people say but because of a combination of ADHD and social anxiety. RSD doesn't help either. I've dissociated from responding to multiple friends and comrades recently because I heavily depersonalized and then got severe anxiety about catching back up, even though I know the messages are probably nothing but supportive. It's a big issue with me.
Sorry, I hope this isn't too heavy of a response. Guess I just wanted to say... I hope you know you aren't alone. You don't need to feel pressure about responding to this comment either, I just wanted to say that I can relate to a lot of what you're discussing and that your experiences are valid. These things are tough 
It's not too heavy, and thank you. I hope your anxiety isn't causing too much pain as you get back into things 
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As someone with a filthy mouth, not that filthy.. I tend to swear a lot.. I'm also very autistic I feel you.. I also know what it's like to want to hide and withdraw when you feel like dogshit. I'm only back after a long hiatus because I was going through something similar.. it's easy to withdraw. But I'm glad you posted or at least were able to voice it.. It's one of the hardest things to do.
Just know you aren't alone and there are people here who are going through similar things or have done.. you aren't alone and always welcome here
Thank you
Why could almost all of this have been written by me the anxiety spiral when no script, not knowing how to respond, this is me all the fucking time. I Relate.
How horrible is it that I disassociate from an internet forum and just enter lurker mode again.
Hey I've done it too, I'm just back from a many weeks long break from bear website. It's goddamn strenuous sometimes... I love this place and talking here, but I also second and third guess what I say like twenty times a day. Anxiety 
excuse my sad/wistful posting
thinking of cooking something nice for a partner or even just grabbing our favourite meals and hanging out on vc, planning the next time we'll be close
not a great pride month this year, but maybe next 🙁
That sounds nice, what would be your favourite meals?
I really like making curry and rice. curry can go quite a few ways and the combination of the two is comfy and makes enough for another meal too
Hot curry I enjoy a lot c: And I agree, can make a few batches if need be too
yeah, fun to cook together too. thanks for asking, that helped me focus on something positive instead of moping lol
You're welcome, anytime ^^
I have to get a safe and routine medical procedure (that I've had before) done today, but I'll need to be put under anesthesia. This is a really huge trigger for my anxiety, so I'm really scared. Tbh, I want to just cancel it and run. Could hardly sleep last night because I was so panicked.
Tomorrow, when this is all done, I think I want to tell my wife my new name and "officially" start transition
Being tired for something like that just makes it worse Hoping it goes easily for you since the procedure itself should be a non-issue
Also woah, let's fuckin go!!! You're getting a lot done this week 
Hope talking to your wife goes well too!!
Hope talking to your wife goes well too!!
It will. She's awesome :)
Good luck! I've had to be put under before, they'll take care of you. Good luck with your wife too!
Good luck with your wife too!
She'll be cool :) she's already giving me she/her pronouns, and she has been buying women's clothing for me for years, so this is just one more thing.
Also, it's nice to see you around recently. Happy to have you here 
she's already giving me she/her pronouns, and she has been buying women's clothing for me for years
Awwh that's awesome 
Thank you for saying I've just been lurking mainly asking Ash what's up on hexbear all the time, I had been in a bit of a slump and thought I'd come back on here to pull myself out of it 
I told you it was doable, We're going over 800 today
I like how many mods this comm has
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