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[–] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 22 points 3 months ago
[–] Frank@hexbear.net 19 points 3 months ago

Were they attached to someone you like? And were they thrilled you were touching boobs? Touching boobs is like a cake you need all the parts not just flour.

[–] Grownbravy@hexbear.net 15 points 3 months ago

Overrated, they’re more fun if the other consenting party enjoys it

[–] Cowbee@hexbear.net 14 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Try men and see if there's a spark that was missing 👍

Or you could be Asexual, or express sexuality in a less standard manner, which is fine as well!

[–] EmoThugInMyPhase@hexbear.net 18 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

Well, I don’t think so. I still get hard from just walking at a funny angle and think about being with women all day. I think I was just nervous and didn’t know what I was doing rather and thinking about myself too much instead of being in the moment. But you may be right on the non standard expression. She ran her hand through my hair and kissed me which got me going but then she stopped and I’m just laying there like puzzled

[–] Cowbee@hexbear.net 21 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Having a strong emotional connection makes sexual acts a lot better for me, along with buildup and foreplay. If those weren't important for most people, then stress balls would be far more popular, but sex is a combination of various emotional factors, kinda like getting good sleep or eating good food.

[–] EmoThugInMyPhase@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

kinda like getting good sleep

time: 6 AM. Hours slept: 0

Haha yeah

[–] Cowbee@hexbear.net 14 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Haha, that makes sense.

Still, plenty of people on the Asexual spectrum enioy thinking of sex, but don't like doing it in practice, and some people only enjoy it after extremely strong emotional connections. It's a spectrum, after all.

Don't get too caught up in one interaction.

[–] booty@hexbear.net 12 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Oh, yeah, first time notoriously sucks no matter what. Especially if you're both inexperienced. Next time will be better.

[–] someone@hexbear.net 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

My first time was amazing. My childhood best friend's girlfriend and I made a mess of a hotel room paid on his credit card without his prior knowledge.

In our mutual defence, she and I were both getting sick of his MGTOW/men's rights shit, and we were both creeped out by his behaviour towards my recently-acquired 10-year-old step-niece.

[–] booty@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago

lol, yeah I admit I was being hyperbolic. Some people have great first times. But it's definitely rare.

[–] Cowbee@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago

Having an experienced partner definitely helps, for sure.

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 14 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Did you try the Konami code?

[–] Beetle_O_Rourke@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Oglaf is still fire, but I miss when it had a narrative.

[–] someone@hexbear.net 13 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Try I Roved Out In Search Of Truth And Love. It has something for everybody. And the art is amazing. Oglaf : I Roved Out :: The Hobbit : Lord of the Rings.

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago

Ah, I've read that, been a while though. Enough that I've forgotten plot. I'll have to check it out again, thanks for the reminder!

[–] marxisthayaca@hexbear.net 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

oh my god I'm not the only one that knows about that comic.

[–] Yor@hexbear.net 13 points 3 months ago

now find your makima

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 13 points 3 months ago

volcel-judge for the last time

[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 12 points 3 months ago

Now try touching grass. Or eating ass

[–] Packet@hexbear.net 11 points 3 months ago

Hello Denji that is communist

[–] Beetle_O_Rourke@hexbear.net 10 points 3 months ago

You're gay now, I don't make the rules.

See you at pride, queer.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Did you have goals other than touching boob?

[–] GeorgeZBush@hexbear.net 9 points 3 months ago

tbh most things in life are underwhelming

[–] nocturnedragonite@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 3 months ago

Welcome to the booty club 😎

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 4 points 3 months ago

People hype these things too much. It's good, but it's also not all that. Find what you like and do that, but also, deeper connection means it also feels better