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I'll let you in on something you may or may not be aware of.

Fwiw in the US and other western societies, men are generally expected to make the first move. So don't sell yourself short. Especially if you've caught them checking you out or staring at you.

Go up and say hi, introduce yourself and feel things out.

You won't know if they want to talk to you if you never try man

Edit:Man is expected not the woman

if you're really a leftist, you'd have to be somewhat compassionate, generous, empathetic, and understanding. That makes you a better partner than a lot of people out there.

Being into politics also shows a level of intrigue in the world that a lot people really just don't have, and it makes for good conversation and an interesting personality (to those who are also politically inclined).

That matters a lot. When you're younger, you fuck people because they're hot. Quite often the personality isn't quite there. As you get older, you realise that it's just not worth the boring hours of conversation for sex where theres no chemistry (because youre not truly comfortable with each other). If you've got banter and things in common with someone that you're passionate about, sex and relationships can feel like they're just destiny. It just happens, and it feels right, because you're genuinely connected and enjoying someone's company.

I mean seriously, a sizeable number of guys still expect women to cook them a meal and wash up afterwards every day.

Anyway if you've got a stern or disinterested look about you (which you will have, if you're clocked out), no one will come up to you. Like, I'm an attractive guy, I put a fair bit of effort into how I look, but if I go to a party I don't want to be at I'll stand there with a stern face wishing I was somewhere else. No one will really come talk to me. If I'm smiling, dancing, or even just being chatty with people, I'll get hit on a lot. It makes a world of difference.

Being autistic, I feel this so hard.

It is, to put it lightly, not a recipe for confidence in approaching women.

Well, if you don’t believe they’ll ever reciprocate, then what’s the harm in saying hi? There’s no pressure if you already know the outcome. It’s like a fixed sale vs. a flash sale.

Kristina. I always like the anecdotes you have.

You've been doing this trans leftist thing for awhile and I appreciate your insight on shit.

What is your method for coaxing?

How do I do that direct action thing with you where you were dressed in that ape suit and screaming weird sounds at the wall?

The guy I met was in treatment with me

That feels like multiple bad choices

It's absolutely false. Go outside and look at couples walking around or in restaurants. Our perceptions of actual romance are so skewed. Most people are just kindof normal looking. In reality its like the top 90 percent of men get 90 percent of women

For women on dating apps there is a huge amount of risk to their safety tied to any match. So if the vibes aren't immaculate or the vibes are good but the person is just pretty cute then it might not be worth the risk.

For men seeking women there is a question of whether the match will be a disspointment or a waste of money. But for women it's am I going to die. So of course only a tiny percent of men on effectively anonymous dating apps pass the vibes and initial attraction tests to be worth that risk.

There's literally a couple soft ones in this thread unfortunately. "Women only like brick jaw chads"