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(i ripped this off wikipedia real fast so sorry if it's lib)

In October 1776, the Public Universal Friend contracted an epidemic disease and was bedridden and near death with a high fever. Their family summoned a doctor from Attleboro, six miles away, and neighbors kept up a death-watch at night. The fever broke after several days. The Friend later reported that [deadname redacted] had died, receiving revelations from God through two archangels who proclaimed there was "Room, Room, Room, in the many Mansions of eternal glory for Thee and for everyone". The Friend further said that [deadname redacted]'s soul had ascended to heaven and the body had been reanimated with a new spirit charged by God with preaching his word, that of the "Publick Universal Friend", describing that name in the words of Isaiah 62:2 as "a new name which the mouth of the Lord hath named".

From that time on, the Friend refused to answer to their deadname, ignoring or chastising those who insisted on using it. When visitors asked if it was the name of the person they were addressing, the Friend simply quoted Luke 23:3 ("thou sayest it").  Identifying as neither male nor female, the Friend asked not to be referred to with gendered pronouns. Followers respected these wishes; they referred only to "the Public Universal Friend" or short forms such as "the Friend" or "P.U.F.", and many avoided gender-specific pronouns even in private diaries. When someone asked if the Friend was male or female, the preacher replied "I am that I am", saying the same thing to a man who criticized the Friend's manner of dress (adding, in the latter case, "there is nothing indecent or improper in my dress or appearance; I am not accountable to mortals").

editorial note: I think this is a very cool story and I really love hearing it. We've been around forever and we've been doing variations of this forever. It's really beautiful


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[–] Wendy_Pleakley@hexbear.net 7 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 19 minutes ago) (9 children)

Everyone is Mad At Me for Being Bad~~cis women are majestic and intimidating

It puts me in this state of reverence, like I forget I have corporeal form because how could I exist around someone with such a strong vibration~~

As someone who is male presenting, I feel fundamentally creepy approaching women. Like, as a guy, I don't feel like I can, doing so will label me as a creep

I thought I was describing gender envy and my sort of freeze response in social situations, but I made people mad

I wouldn't tell a Hexbearian to "grow up" or that you think "like a teenager". So it's confusing to be called out in that way, I guess. I thought talking about this stuff with other queer people would be constructive, but like some of you said, I have reflecting to do.

Next time you break it to someone that their Catholic upbringing has affected them, I'd ask you to be a bit friendlier as you drive my jaw into the curb. Thanks!

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

sadly holding a bag of bread in the checkout line

"this isn't what i wanted when i said i wanted to get bred" deeper-sadness

[–] Zvyozdochka@hexbear.net 7 points 1 hour ago

Forced to get bread instead because we live in a society... joker-shopping

[–] Yor@hexbear.net 14 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

coworker: you never respond to me

me: when have I ever ignored you?

coworker: yesterday I asked you three things and all you said was "I'm sleepy"

I don't even remember that kobeni-sweat

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 10 points 2 hours ago

Kinda dismayed that I could have missed being a fucking weeb. I wouldn't know what that fucking goddamn Demon Slayer reference means if I hadn't seen One Piece and Naruto on YTV, and then seen that there was a dumbass english-language manga magazine that serialised them. Goddamn, Shueisha.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

How do I make my wrists stop hurting? They are sore, when I turn them, exert straight force on them or hold something with weight.

[–] thirtymilliondeadfish@hexbear.net 7 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

what have you done to them/what do you do with them?

If you're using a phone or a keyboard too long that can fuck them up, if you're punching or impacting things that can fuck them up

If it's acute, rest, ice, neutral position (no flexion/torsion) etc.
If chronic, exercise/train them, be it mobility, strength or whatever.
If concerned, don't take advice from internet strangers and talk with a GP or physio if you can.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

My gp gave me an xray req and nothing else so I'm in lol/lmao town on that one. Think I'd be talking to internet strangers if my gp did anything?

I was actually lifting pretty consistently with like 5lbs weights but this has put pay to that for the moment. Idk what or how or when I did to them.

[–] thirtymilliondeadfish@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

:yea:

Is this a sudden/new pain? Can you attribute it to anything in particular? If you're relatively active/mobile already I'd probably just rest it for the time being, until you can get results back from the xray.

It's hard to know (and worse to pretend to) without seeing it, whether it's muscle, bone, ligament etc.
If you regularly use/move it though, and it's a new/sudden pain, yeah I'd just be resting it. If you don't regularly use/move them though, then you'd probably want to build it up but that doesn't sound like the issue in your case.

I hope you can find some relief though?

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 2 hours ago (4 children)

I have had wrist pains on and off for a good while (hence talking to my doc) but no I don't think this is due to anything, unless 5lbs weights destroyed my wrists. I will try to rest em...

Normally they are at least okay, but straight pressure has hurt for a year or two now. I was hoping I could build em up... I had my beautiful voidgoblin put a tensor bandage on the one that hurts the most which feels okay.

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[–] sneak100@hexbear.net 8 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

So tired all day today, barely got out of bed toriel-snooze

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (3 children)

Okay I obviously have a lot to learn about this puppy girl thing to say it lightly lmao

spoilerI literally have only ever encountered it in terms of pet play, I didn't know y'all had a whole other thing going on and that's on me for not knowing

[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 9 points 2 hours ago (7 children)

this is how you can tell you're an older trans :p. I've dated several puppy girls , 2 rabbit girls, and a cat girl. you'd think the cat would be more than bunny

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Not enough time on tumblr, I see brow

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

My time on tumblr is spent drooling over girl twinks and hot guys also

spoilerBlood play and knife play and hard vore lol

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

That's only like two or three degrees removed from the doggirl communities, how did you miss this kel-sad

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago

Too many degrees, simple as

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 8 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Oh shoot should I spoiler something??? I'm so bad about it aaaaaa

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 5 points 2 hours ago

spoilerI just lean toward spoilering anything in discussions that could be triggering for folks! Not like it takes much time. ^^

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 3 hours ago (3 children)

In a lot of Anglo cultures/communities, which most of you are from so this won't be a surprise, wives take their husbands' last names. In queer couples, they sometimes do it sometimes one takes the other etc. Even in hetero cultures, occasionally the husband takes the wifes' last name (very rare). In Quebec and France and probably a bunch of other Franco places, it's not legal to take your spouses last name lol. Best you can do is double barrel.

I have NO attachment to my last name. It's from my dad, who was and remains an asshole. But I wanna be a good strong feminist and also not buy into this Anglo tradition 😭 At least it's not an actual problem, I am at no risk of getting married anytime soon lol but I would be tempted to take my future spouses last name just to cut off that last bit of my dad.

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 5 points 1 hour ago

You can always make up a new last name and have it be ~~stalin~~ steel

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 11 points 3 hours ago (6 children)

Kinda wish there were catgirl equivalents to the puppygirl line emotes...

[–] Luna@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

I'm so pushing this through now

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 2 hours ago
[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 7 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (2 children)
[–] Luna@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago
[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 3 hours ago

waow-based I would never nick these...

Also though pay for emotes? What is this, discord?

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 8 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

damn. i regret my choice of girl name today after realizing i could have named myself Ligma

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 15 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

drunk cis woman was wildly transphobic to me and my gf in the supermarket:/ not particularly upset by it, but definitely went fight or flight and coming down from that is no fun, end up getting dissociated for a while. they're always with the sidling up and muttering under their breath, like say it with your chest coward. anyway proud of myself cause I chose to just say something dismissive and move us away and she fucked off to go antagonise other people in the supermarket(???). couple years ago I might have escalated to a fight so I'm proud of myself for making what I think was the wise choice, even if a part of me is unsatisfied by avoiding confrontation.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

One time some drunk lady came stumbling by my old place and asked if I was indigenous, I am, and she got mad and said "oh why couldn't you say you were ITALIAN"

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