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Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

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[โ€“] buh@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago

Scientists studying entropy could learn a lot by analyzing my hair rn

[โ€“] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (2 children)

MasturbationOne mildly annoying thing is that after masturbaiting now that I'm on E, my clit will still be some level of sensitive for like 30-45 minutes, where if I walk or move around, I can feel my clit rub against my panties and its kinds itchy.

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[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago

Did some cleaning jesus-cleanse

Lol guess what everybodyFound my old scene kid socks and they still fit

They have a hole in the ankle from trying to learn impossibles when I was a skate kid but they're kinda fun

Sliding around the kitchen playing cat hockey and pretending they're ice skates this morning

Goggles is in the running for the James Norris Memorial Trophy, he's been playing some amazing defense tbh ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ†

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (10 children)

I can't sleep so I have come to ramble

aromantic ramblingsThe gush posts that happen in these threads get me thinking about my aromanticism or potential lack thereof again. I kind of low key hate never understanding this part of myself.

A while ago I thought I'd cracked the code with "you know what I think I just don't like the idea of dating as a guy," but then I slipped back into "no I'm definitely just aro."

I keep reading about the aromantic experience and relating heavily. Like for example, I couldn't even begin to tell you where the line is between platonic and romantic love. This is certainly muddied by the fact that I just simply do not have a sex drive at all, and thus sexual interest has never been a part of the equation for me.

But I often find myself wondering if I've actually never been flirted with, or if I'm just too aromantic to have ever picked up on it. And my thing is why do I care so much? Why do I keep asking myself that question? Honestly I think the answer is I want to be flirted with. I think it comes down to not feeling lovable and craving external validation to the contrary. But what's confusing is I don't want it to stop at flirting. I want to be continuously loved by someone and I want to love them back. I just don't know what that looks like, but it sounds like being into someone.

Reading the gush posts, I relate to them. I know I've felt those ways before about people. I think I'd describe all of my close friends in a similar way. I'd describe my sister that way. I love my sister so god damn much and would do anything for her, but obviously I'm not interested in dating her. I'm capable of love I just don't know what the fuck that looks like in a romantic context.

Maybe it's priority that I crave. Maybe I just want to be someone's priority and for them to be a priority of mine. I don't really care if they also have that kind of thing with someone else, so maybe I'm also poly?

Or maybe it really is just the simplest solution and I'm just aroace and I will never understand romantic attraction and all of my relationships will always and forever be platonic.

Idk. I'm not sure if I'm making much sense but this was mostly a journaling exercise anyway. Hopefully sleeping will come easier now that I've put some of this to words.

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[โ€“] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Had a nightmare that girltwinks stopped existing. During it someone told me I was a girltwink and I got scared, only to look in the mirror and start to see myself dissolve away into dust.

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[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (7 children)

nicotine, drugs, eatingGym closed for Thanksgiving I think

Don't really know what to do with myself since I don't have work and have nothing really going on

Feeling bad about smoking again and trying not to overeat and squander some of my gym progress

Shroomin' a little bit shroomjak

Might do a little spa day at home for myself but I don't wanna have a dysphoria spiral idk

Hope everyone has a lovely gay ass Thanksgiving

๐Ÿฆƒ๐Ÿฅง๐ŸŒฝ๐Ÿซ˜๐Ÿฅ”๐Ÿ‚

The kitties said you're all lovely and hope you eat a yummy lil feast for yourself

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[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago

blog, social anxiety, fitness/weightloss/gymrat shit, crushpostingHad a busy day yesterday, finally took care of a financial thing I've been putting off for ages and it was a stressful commute but I'm glad to have finally gotten it donemeow-bounce

Had my consultation with a personal trainer and a body composition scan, in better shape than I was expecting based on how I've only really been taking better care of myself for a couple weeks and had been pretty sedentary for a long time prior to that

Was really nervous about it but the trainer was pretty nice and accommodating to my nervousness and has good interpersonal skills and we had more in common talking about dealing with different injuries and our athletic backgrounds growing up than I was expecting and it went pretty well despite me being a little late to the meeting and being a little exasperated from doing shit and rushing to get ready for it by the time I got there

Saw crush, starting to think the interactions we had that I weren't sure if they were flirty or not weren't and they're just a friendly person, seemed less like that running into them yesterday and I don't think there's anything there which kinda made me sad, but I think it's better than having a false expectation and getting my hopes up to get hurt later

Who knows, maybe they were just having a bad day and weren't in a good mood to chat yesterday and there might still be potential there but I'm not gonna put too much hope in it and set myself up to be disappointed, but I do like seeing them

Idk they're really cute and sweet and I'm gay and lonely and weird

im-fuckin-gay

[โ€“] bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago

been going to a lot more concerts/shows since transitioning, turns out dressing up and going out can actually be fun lol

partner found a really cool artist. i've been listening to them and it turns out they're anti-cop, anti-monarchy, sang at a pro-palestine protest AND has a show in my city this Friday??

we bought some tickets and i really want to try to make some friends this time but idfk how ohnoes

[โ€“] WalrusDragonOnABike 11 points 6 months ago

Had a dream that I decided to get a surgery (I don't think the dream ever said what it was, but I'm sure we could guess), but sometime after starting the process I still haven't really heard anything and then they reached out and questioned if I was really committed because I hadn't done things like schedule a flight for an appointment I was never told of. Tbf, I was very much under-prepared in a lot of other ways, but those were not even the things I was being grilled on.

[โ€“] tamagotchicowboy@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (5 children)

Most things are going well in life minus health and my jobs are working me half to death. I didn't even know it was legal to be working 12hr days in retail, I'm so used to being scheduled like 6hrs daily at best. The pay isn't even there to justify this and there are no benefits. Tomorrow is going to be another fun 12hr day.

I found out my cats are afraid of googly eyes which I've used to protect my knockoff aliexpress 2.99 'roombas' from my cats swatting the bots off course or dragging them into places like the kitchen or litter box, so I made a biblically accurate angel themed Xmas tree, haven't had a tree since I was a small child, this was just a DT 5 dollar special with some glued on googley eyes and pipecleaner angel-biblical buddies on it. Eyes on everything, lol. They won't tip over this tree.

And health is an obvious CW warning for everything;

spoilerBody's war against other parts of itself continues. Had a uterine biopsy done the other day, one its painful AF, easy contender for top 10 most physically painful experiences so I have no idea why they don't drug you for them, two the fact I had to get a biopsy makes me nervous if I require a procedure the soonest it will be done will correspond to my yearly medical cut. Also, if I need a procedure of any kind I'll be let go from my main retail gig since I can't miss days or weeks like that, I worked yesterday a day after my biopsy and I left wanting to cry. I shouldn't have done that, but the way the doc made it sound like it was a mild procedure and I would have been fine yesterday to work, while in reality I was writhing around in pain unable to do anything notable.

At least I'll still have my online gig and my flipping laptops side gig that I hope will cover basic utilities and rent though I'll be hosed for medicines on the impending cut.

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[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 11 points 6 months ago (1 children)

@ashinadash@hexbear.net

sang St. Vincent to myself in the gym shower after leg day lady-doge

had a lil' moment getting dressed while achy and exhausted at the lyric "I'm so glad I came but I can't wait to leave" on Dancing With A Ghost catgirl-cry

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[โ€“] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 10 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Any recs for black Friday sales? I saw that Torrid was 50% off, so I ordered some boots.

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[โ€“] 0x2640@hexbear.net 10 points 6 months ago
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