The ability to utilize my passion and drive to do things.
Just absorbing knowledge is starting to be a drag.
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The ability to utilize my passion and drive to do things.
Just absorbing knowledge is starting to be a drag.
Having the ability to see images in my mind. Sounds like a cool ability, not sure if it would be a curse though.
One time I did mushrooms and thought about an apple and I kinda saw it and was amazed. I've never been able to do it again though
I was in hospital earlier in the year for surgery, they gave me ketamine afterwards....started seeing shit.
It was weird.
Hated it for the dissociative effect; but the seeing shit for a few hours after was strange, but ok.
Ability to feel slightly deeper while watching emotional films
I thought I had one but I read everyone else's first and after each one thought, yeah that would be good. Thank you for making me fully grasp just how inadequate I am. Just sign me up for any of these.
Maintain eye contact.
Shit makes me so uncomfortable. Look at me all you want, that's fine. I'm going to look at that plant.
If you want to look at that plant, I'll look at you, but you can't have both.
Unless we both look at the plant. That's fine too.
Out of curiosity, how does it feel for you to look at someoneβs nose while they are looking in your eyes?
I wish I could bang ass for longer than a minute :/
I have ADHD. Anyone telling you it is a super power is either lying or has a drastically different experience with it than I do.
Its a super power in battle/reaction situations. In all aplicable areas of modern age, its a nightmare.
Nope. Absolutely not. That is your experience with it. Not mine. It's a disability. Please don't describe my experience with a disability as a super power.
I say because I have ADHD too. My reaction are more thoughtful and cold in stress situations like theft assaults or accidents are way better that neurotypical ones (I'm from latinamerica so they are very common). But I have so much problems to do normal things daily and they are ruining my life.
Is that directly related to ADHD or just an independent character trait?
I have ADHD too and in those few high stress / life or death situations I've been in, I suddenly felt super calm and focused while some other people were just screaming. I read somewhere that people with ADHD are overrepresented in first responders and similar jobs and I can believe that.
That being said, I very much agree with JackByDev. Yeah, ADHD is a disability. It has caused much pain and suffering for me and I wish I could get rid of it.
Thanks for the insight, thatβs pretty interesting. But yes, it does not sound like it would be worth the trade-offs, if one got the chance to choose
Sleep instantly and without interruption
What up insomnia gang? Coming to you love from the bed at 6 AM. Too late to fall back asleep, too early to get up.
I wish I could have a baseline functional understanding of human interaction & relationships.
As someone who transitioned from a deeply introverted anxious young adult with a persistent stammer, to a relatively outgoing person who is capable of clear communication, the secret is caring less and forgetting that you exist.
There are steps though to get there:
This should hopefully get you along the way to forgetting that you exist in a conversation, and it should become second nature after a while.
I wish I could actually listen to what is being said to me for more than 5 minutes. Instead of having my attention drift off and me starting to daydream about something the other said.
I wish I could just live in the present without having to completely fake a personality to hide the fact I don't have one.
I wish it didn't take me so long to understand things that other people seem to get easily.
Not a common ability but some people have photographic memory.
I can't remember shit. Photographic memory would be life changing.
Afaik no one has ever been proven to have photographic memory (e.g. being able to remember random dots on an image is used as a test, if memory serves right). So for the most part it is just a nice little character trait for movies and the likes.
I noticed that a lot of people I know are significantly better at remembering some things, in this case numbers, but worse at other parts (e.g. conversations). So oftentimes its also a matter of what exactly you are good and bad at remembering.
Depending on the context, it also comes with experience. Think of games like chess, poker, etc. Experienced players are often able to replay an entire match, which in large part comes from their experience and the context of the many games theyβve played. If you met the same people in their first few matches, that ability would probably have been a lot less developed (if that makes sense).
No scientific backing on these statements, it's just based on my personal experience and impressions.
Your wish has been granted! You will now keenly remember old photographs π
As someone with ADHD. My brain remembering things would be a game changer.
To be consistent on a physical level.
I play guitar and games like rocket league, things that require excellent physical dexterity, and consistency is a big factor. I struggle to repeat physical actions the same way every time. I practice lots, and I'm reasonably good at both things (imho), but I know I screw up more than most people because I can't repeat things the same way every time.
Thatβs absolutely normal, especially as people tend to compare their general performance with their peak performance (βI managed to play that without errors once, why am I not managing it every time?β).
You can do a number of things to improve your mental consistency within the limits of your current abilities by forming healthy habits around it, if it is very important. E.g. a balanced lifestyle of sorts and a good warmup routine when playing your instrument, but even then you will have off days.
If you want to nail that section consistently, you will have to increase your skill ceiling quite a bit, way beyond βnailing it onceβ. Usually you donβt notice that progress as much with instruments, because ideally the things you are working on are always challenging you at your current level, but try going back to something you played one or two years ago. You may have to refresh the piece until it sounds good again, but then you will probably be way more consistent about your performance than the first time around.
Rocket league is a completely different skill set, but the concepts apply in the same way. Structuring your life around being in ideal mental and physical condition to perform in a video game is probably a lot less useful for your life, but Iβd bet every professional player does it.
Executive functioning.
To do things at the proper time, and not procrastinate.
I truly don't know how some people work if not in a manic state for 10 hrs straight because you have a bunch of stuff due at the same time
I guess I could spread out the work, but sometimes I'm passively thinking of the best way to tackle it and other times it's a task I don't like doing.
Pretending to give a shit when I don't
Don't compare your blooper reel with other people's highlights.
Also, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie split up about twenty years ago and that relationship is still creating drama
Do you mean Pitt and Jennifer Aniston? The Brangelina split was in 2019.
I would love to be able to say the most ridiculous, warped, ignorant, crazy ass shit, and have everyone else believe me to the point they are willing to fight on my behalf.
Oh wait..
People who are very good at instruments. I wish I just knew guitar to be able to shred on demand, but I just could not put in the time and effort to get there myself.
Not being anxious about almost everything.
I wish I could form intimate relationships.
To get what I want by just being cute. Like little kids or cute girls. Or to be automatically excluded from manual labor/heavy lifting for the same reason.
If you're a healthy boy, the moment you become a teenager is the moment you're just expected to be performing manual labor or other hot, sweaty activities. At least in the US π€·
Have you considered trying to dress cute or paint your nails?
It'd be ineffective and in fact, decrease the likelihood of obtaining that default assumption of innocence that cuteness provides. It'd be like tying a pink ribbon to the tail of a tiger. The ribbon itself would be cute but the tiger would still be viewed as a dangerous predator.
Might help with getting out of manual labor though π€ π€£
The sort of natural looking and sincere charm that someone like Robert Downey Jr. can just turn on and work the whole room at once, not that fake or smarmy shit that has people commenting that it fake after the fact.
I've worked with accounts guys who can do it, I've watched them work close up, but I be damned if I cant just naturally do that.