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In my defense she did tell me it lights up her day whenever I text her and that she wanted to be part of my life "no matter what" so I don't think that was an unreasonable thing to do on my part, its just that romance has always ended badly for me and I really really love this girl and I need someone to tell me its gonna be fine.
Please help I need advice.
From the information in this post it seems like you're fine, I don't think you crossed any inappropriate boundaries and it seems she's receptive. You'll be ok.
Thank you. It has been a while and the only two serious relationships I ever had ended badly and both times were mostly my fault. I'm not afraid of rejection I'm afraid of getting into another romantic relationship.
Go for it, Nako... At least you've tried!
I'm not afraid of rejection I'm afraid of her wanting to be in a relationship lol.
Rejection I can shrug off, it's falling in love again that terrifies me.
This is going to be corny af, but falling in love is like a roller-coaster: it's supposed to be scary but exciting and crazy and it all happens so fast.
Sending you the best vibes so you can enjoy the ride
Ohhh So, I'm kinda new here and not aware of your stories, but, I gotta say that, relationships can absolutely be healthy and beautiful, and you seem to be the perfect person to have them :)
You're careful, but thoughtful, decisive even if scared, ready to learn on your experiences, and you value whatever she can give to you. That's a good sign!
Sounds like the lights were pretty green
Fingers crossed thats so brave!!
Advice?
Breathe, chill, roll a j, vibe 💅
From the sounds of it you two are close and mean a lot to each other. You've said your peace and given her agency and choice. Cool beans.
If she says no and she meant as a friend will you still stay friends?
she says no and she meant as a friend will you still stay friends?
Definitely
Yey!!!!! Awwwh rooting so hard for you
Edit: to be a couple, I'm rooting for that. Not you being friends. Just to be very clear.
The only boundary you've crossed is being star-crossed 🥰💫
Going to give you some genuine, certified, very old guy advice:
You did the right thing, let the chips fall where they may. You told her how you feel, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Yea I am a somewhat old guy (I'm 39 she's 30) so I know I just gotta wait and see I just wanted some morale support, thank you all you helped a lot
I will not make a power dynamics joke and instead just wish you the best of luck
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things are gonna be okay ya dummy
You've passed the threshold of my experiences. I've loved this person for over half my life and I'm still scared to tell her that. Congratulations, it sounds like your fine though. Keep us updated
You've passed the threshold of my experiences.
how so?
I've loved this person for over half my life and I'm still scared to tell her that.
You got this. You're a good person, and the way you talk about your friend tells me you genuinely love her.
I’m in a really similar situation: I have a really good friend who I’ve known for like 10 years and who I’ve had feelings for for a long time and recently he kissed me when he was really drunk and I think he might like me but I’m not sure and I don’t know what to do 
I’m scared of telling him that I like him and I don’t know if he really likes me or if he was just drunk and he hasn’t mentioned it and I can’t tell if he even remembers it or if he’s just pretending it didn’t happen I’ve kinda been freaking out about this continuously since then
I don't have any advice other than you did exactly what I did, and I hope it works out better for you than it did me 
Update?
No word yet.
Pain, I can't imagine the nerves
Babes, you got this