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Due to some events in my life I really don't have any friends or partners, my only real social connection is my sister and her husband who I hang out with infrequently. And for a while this made me really depressed, but now, I'm finding myself enjoying the solitude. I've gotten really good at keeping myself entertained, I take long walks, I read books, I watch movies. Sometimes I'll just lay down and meditate for an hour or two.

If anything I wish I had a bit MORE solitude right now. I'm living with two roommates and have a retail job but wish I could just get a cabin and a remote job.

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[–] OldSoulHippie@hexbear.net 7 points 19 hours ago

With a serious lack of third spaces, and the way everything is monetized and subscription based, there's really no reason to go out there. I mostly only leave my house to go be in nature. I have a vacation coming up and we are going somewhere even less populated than the little town of 400 we live in. The cell service is terrible there too. I can't wait

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 10 points 21 hours ago

I will be the old trans witch in the bog that the young queers come to for communist wisdom

[–] TommyBeans@hexbear.net 7 points 22 hours ago

Hermit life with a spouse that has a good friend group is an awesome compromise. As the spouse I’m almost expected to drop in or out and nobody questions if they don’t see me for months, this behavior has destroyed almost all my other friendships.

Even with a spouse that I’m basically attached at the hip to, I still prefer long stretches of alone time. When my spouse visits their family and I stay at home with the pets, I’m truly in my lane. Those are my ideal vacations.

[–] miz@hexbear.net 6 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

internet delenda est

(then I could be a real hermit)

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 26 points 1 day ago (3 children)

When I worked retail I found that I would get socially overwhelmed by the end of the day too. Shits exhausting

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago

Came here to say this. After a day of teaching, I don't want to converse with a single person.

[–] Sinisterium@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

by the end of the day too

It took me 4 hours max.

[–] T34_69@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago

There are days when it's as soon as you get there

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 8 points 1 day ago

Kitchen and I'm.thr guy calling orders and talking to front of house. Yeah

Sup hermit buddy. you’re not the only one, I find the outside world exhausting and prefer to putter around my house and garden.

[–] 9to5@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I’ve been a hermit long stretches of my life , late nights, screens, solitude, the whole deal. Recently gave relationships a shot, and hey, it was actually pretty neato, even if it didn’t last.

Keep an open mind. Try stuff. If flying solo turns out to be your vibe, that’s totally cool too.

The truth is I could legit spend 3 months just in my flat without any outside contact if food and basic daily stuff was taken care off. Its probably good that I see 2-3 people at least on normal days though.

[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 17 points 1 day ago

I get it. I'm often the only company I want to keep

[–] Alaskaball@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] D61@hexbear.net 14 points 1 day ago
[–] Meltyheartlove@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago

I wish for the same thing cri

[–] Comrade_Mushroom@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago

hell yeah

every day I miss living alone

Me too buddy, me too.