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Hi! I've been extremely tired this week and nearly forgot that I was hosting one so I'm writing this last minute! I couldn't think of anything so I'm going to write about one of my hamsters who is not Biggs; Meredith

Meredith was another hamster of mine from a few years ago during the early days of COVID, and she was the absolute sweetest little creature I had ever met. Very friendly, very gentle. She loved exploring anywhere I put her into and never bit me ~~okay she did once ever~~. She was an absolute sweetheart and bundle of love and was with me during some of the rougher parts of my life

She unfortunately died very suddenly out of the blue one day at a terribly young age showing no symptoms of anything wrong with her prior, which breaks my heart to this very day

I never had her as long as any other hamster of mine but I don't think I had any other hamster touch my heart in quite the same way. I miss you, girl


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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago (7 children)

someone convince me not to apply to this care homeI don’t want to the old people to be mean to me.
Or have to give them sponge baths or change their diapers.
Or potentially have to wear an ugly uniform.
I want an easy job, but there is nothing close by. doggirl-gloom

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 8 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

WHERE

THE FUCK

DID ALL OF MY

F U C K I G N

SPOONS GO?????

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Happy-Sad Sincere Posting (CW Dysphoria, self loathing)Last week my partner and I had been listening to some Sufjan Stevens, so the algorithm hit me with the song Chicago while I was driving and I unexpectedly started sobbing. It's not really one of his sad songs (Romulus always fucking gets me), but it is a song I listened to a lot as a teen and one of the few things I guess I felt emotional about while I was quietly disassociating through high school. And I felt this profound sudden connection and understanding with my younger self.

And I reflected that for years I had really hated myself, as a teenager, as a young adult etc. I had chalked it up at the time to things like "hey maybe I am a piece of shit", "maybe I had undiagnosed mental illness" and later "maybe I had internalized homophobia from an insane Christian conservative upbringing" (which was partially true too). But like duh, I hated myself because I thought I was a man, really fucking obvious in hindsight! I felt overwhelming forgiveness and compassion to my old self, but especially that sad lost teenage girl.

So like I'm feeling pretty amazing in a raw AF way.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Follow up revelations from my self-reflection CW grooming SA. DysphoriaI also realized as a teenager ~16-17 I was groomed and sexually assault by a woman in her 30s that was part of a social organization I was involved with over the course of several months. Inappropriate stuff like groping, touching, cuddling, kissing, not things I considered at the time to be actual sex or sexual assault. Plus stuff like being bought gifts, frequent text messages and being given alcohol at social events etc. I didn't have a framework to understand that a woman could assault a "boy" and also how in hindsight I was additionally vulnerable as an unaware trans girl.

Though in a darkly funny way I think my dysphoria around sex and being perceived as masculine prevented me from being victimized further, because she'd be like "do you want to come to my place after school" and some male friends would be like "she wants to have sex with you, that's cool" and internally I'd go "oh I don't want that" and make some excuse every time.

I'm processing this and actually feeling okay because I feel more insightful too about my old self. Also in a deeply fucked up way it's kind of gender affirming.

[–] SockOlm@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

After what felt like years of using the same toothpaste, I finally opened a new one.

What I didn't prepare for was the taste being completly different - I had gotten so used to the taste of my old toothpaste that I forgot they came in different flavors and consistencies.

Spat it out, still haven't recovered from the shock doggirl-tears

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Think I'm on a new arc where I'm just not gonna correct my spelling no more, it shows hesitant and weakness to go back and edit things.

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

I’m coming around on my hair a bit, but I wish I knew how to style it or what products to use to achieve an effect.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I sometimes forget that bridget-vibe is british tbh, I like to keep forgetting if I could help it to be honest.

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[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

clocking in for another shift in the posting mines

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (14 children)

To the girl reading this, what color is your favorite color?

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Probably purple, like this kinda shade. Although it depends a lot on context too.

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[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (4 children)

Finally bought and played helldivers. Honestly I think this type of game isn't really for me. Better then payday or warframe though. There's so many of the exact same thing in these games though.

Also playing with "the guys" has lost all joy for me. I'm only out to one. Honestly forgot how much I hate being in a VC with a bunch of guys. I feel so drained.

Also the one I'm out to, and actually like, asked me my new name a while back because my old nickname felt weird. Still calls me that. My trans-ness still comes up basically every time we talk though which is nice and it feels affirming. Just a weird thing ig. If you didn't actually want to call me a fem name why'd you ask...

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

If I was a featherie instead of a furryI'd be a bird of bara-dise

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 7 points 4 weeks ago (7 children)

Skincare is so underrated. HRT is magic of course, but a good skincare routine has made such a difference

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

Dreamt I was fighting a witch vegan-seitan, was doing fine but should have pulled out more shinangans earlier in the fight, had I pulled the pretending to be a dweeb I could have finished it earlier. You gotta fight with shinangansbugs-stalin

[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 7 points 4 weeks ago

french karl marx isn't real, he can't hurt you

french karl marks

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

my appearance, dysphoria, drugs, hopeI recently realized I am very pretty :)

My hairline is trash, I'm like 40 lbs more than I want to be, my feet are huge, I've got bad skin, I often have visible stubble, I don't shave my body too often cuz it's a pain, I have crows feet, and lots more stuff like that.

All that stuff used to bother me a lot. But while on shrooms I decided I was pretty any way. And now I feel like I am pretty all the time.

And other people think I am too! People don't actually care about that shit. I literally have visible chest hair in my cleavage showing pics on my app profile. And shit is going great.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

finished Andor s2, im sad cuz that was perfect and i can never experience it again for the first time, Kleya is serious goals and the drip is immaculate, fuck negative

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Thursday when I looked I felt mixed and numb
Friday when I looked I wanted to die.
Today when I looked it’s feeling more like Thursday.

I don’t want to go out tbh, I don’t want people to see me.
This is the longest I’ve looked at myself in years and sometimes from some angles I look fine…but I still look like some awkward thing in the middle.
My lips and smile are so weird and idk how I would even fix it.
My hair is…idk how to even describe it.
I dunno…I won’t say it feels hopeless, but I feel pretty lost at what to do.

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

saw a guy i used to watch streaming and i thought he had low viewer count so i checked the history^1^ and now hour and a half later i went down a whole ass- memory lane to the 2010s and all the loser streamers i watched.

~1~ ~nah~ ~he's~ ~solidly~ ~a~ ~10k~ ~andy~

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

Been getting some good sleep with this cheap eye mask I got, it's real cute with various butterflies on it. Honestly should have gotten and used one sooner, part of me wants to be vigilant but the other part of me is catgirl-flop

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Bi-cycle is slowly turning towards women and I don't like it doggirl-gloom

sex and stuffFeels like I'm a lot more "compatible" with guys. I refuse to top anyone ever, and with guys that's just expected so I don't even have to discuss it, but last time I dated a girl it was kind of an issue and I felt selfish and it was just an awful situation and I don't want to experience it ever again.

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

I just know if I start saying "what the gender?" instead of "what the fuck" it'll be a week maybe less before I start doing it unironically that's how fast I develop my brainworms

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