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[–] OrlandoDeCabron@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I would say it is gender neutral to male coded, diminutive in nature.

You call a child "buddy." It is male coded, but because it refers to children it becomes more androgynous in nature.

I've been in social contexts where in the local dialect it was gender neutral and status neutral, but in other contexts it is not so much male coded as it was to belittle.

[–] anarchoilluminati@hexbear.net 14 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Honestly, I hate when people use the word buddy—whether it's directed at me or not. It's such a pejorative to me.

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 11 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I’ve been complaining on here about similar things recently. Unless a dear friend is calling me that I’m taking it as a jab.

[–] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 5 points 11 months ago

another day volunteering at the betsy ross museum....

[–] anarchoilluminati@hexbear.net 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Even then. One of my best friends says buddy and bud to me and pretty much everyone—his other friends, bartenders, servers, anyone—but I still can't stand it. I just don't say anything because I know he means well but, damn, I find it so annoying. Who knows where he picked that shit up.

I don't know how anyone wouldn't interpret it as an insult, like "boy".

[–] insufferableninja@lemdro.id 3 points 11 months ago
[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I thought it wasn't but I have never heard it used for anyone but dudes.

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 15 points 11 months ago

Same, one of those not actually gendered but gendered in practice words.

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'd be more concerned about inflection cuz "buddy" can either be the most affectionate OR the most aggressive thing to call someone lol

[–] AdlachGyfiawn@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It's always 'bud' in the vocative usage for me unless I'm trying to fight someone

[–] janus2@lemmy.zip 1 points 11 months ago

I'm also a fan of "listen, PAL..."

[–] autism_2@hexbear.net 13 points 11 months ago

Buddy is puppygender

[–] Septimaeus@infosec.pub 11 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Most of the fem-coded equivalents (sis, girlfriend, galpal, etc) are a bit too gum-smack anyway. Let’s feminize buddy.

[–] Septimaeus@infosec.pub 7 points 11 months ago

(Buddy backs away slowly…)

[–] Othello@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Have heard buddy (or more often bud) used for women frequently. Gender neutral. I call all my friends bud.

[–] someone@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago (2 children)

It was my grandfather's affectionate nickname for my grandmother, and she loved it.

[–] Othello@hexbear.net 6 points 11 months ago

Plz tell me she called hin sport or something like that.

[–] Acute_Engles@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago

I'm Canadian so I'm allowed to say it

[–] Sons_of_Ferrix@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

How gendered is the word "fuckface"?

[–] theblueredditrefugee@hexbear.net 4 points 11 months ago

fuckface is only a permissible pronoun for bottoms

[–] Crucible@hexbear.net 8 points 11 months ago

It's Canadian gendered

[–] RyanGosling@hexbear.net 8 points 11 months ago

It’s neutral, but I only hear it being used towards guys. Might be different if your from the Midwest. When I hear girls saying it it’s usually towards a pet or child lol

[–] macabrett@lemmy.ml 5 points 11 months ago

The buddy system does not discriminate on gender.

[–] Owl@hexbear.net 4 points 11 months ago