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[–] Babs@hexbear.net 2 points 20 minutes ago

I never used tiktok before but some of these gals on 小纒书 have really cool winter outfits and now I wanna up my fashion game.

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 9 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Having to misgender and deadname yourself at the marriage office sucks doggirl-gloom

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 5 points 45 minutes ago
[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 1 hour ago

I love winter, had such a nice soft blue morning glow with a gentle snowfall while I was walking to school today. Just wish I had more fem winter clothes to wear so I can be as pretty as everything else.

[–] buh@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

My metabolic panel results are back and everything is within β€œnormal” range (except CO2 which was low? IDK what that’s supposed to mean). AST and chloride are also kinda high but still within normal range

Honestly the most shocking thing is that my glucose level is 84 even though my diet is painfully amerikkkan and I come from a family (extended, not just immediate) of diabetics

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 6 hours ago

bit idea: t4t straight couple where the boyfriend is complaining that his GF keeps leaving the toilet seat up

[–] Edie@hexbear.net 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)
[–] Eco@hexbear.net 2 points 44 minutes ago

oh shit there's a sequel

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 5 points 8 hours ago

Been watching apothecary diaries and this is so my jam, Mao Mao is such a mood catgirl-heart she's so creature

[–] KatGirl@hexbear.net 13 points 10 hours ago

Upsides of wearing a dress: looking and feeling cute

Downside: I now want to get ripped so I can have giant arms

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 21 points 13 hours ago

Upvote to put me back to sleep doggirl-sleep

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 10 points 12 hours ago
[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 10 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (2 children)

CW mild NSFW. This is wild. So Facetune has an AI for roasting your outfits. There appears to be some guardrails around nudity but not for...... softcore Bdsm photos. So it's generating responses to some pics I submitted like

"this look says 'kidnapped tourist' chic meets ultimate basement lounging disaster, the gag is the only accessory, and it's a choice"

Obviously AI bad. But it can be funny when these cracks gets exploited.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 11 hours ago

who needs AI to roast my outfits when i can do it just fine on my own by looking in the mirror?

[–] ComradeMonotreme@hexbear.net 7 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

another

Who knew duct tape and desperation could be a fashion statement? This looks more cry for help than haute couture.

Okay that was a banger too.

[–] SadArtemis@hexbear.net 14 points 15 hours ago

Just took my morning meds and it's almost 8pm, powerful doggirl-thumbsup knight-nod bridget-vibe

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 11 points 14 hours ago

Once nice thing about RedNote is I have a place to post self pics that have an effectively 0% chance of being seen by my (anti-China) family.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (2 children)

dysphoria"self care" actually sucks ass and I remember why I neglect myself. Holy shit I never want to shave again. Fucking awful. Now that my clothes are back on I think I'm stabilizing but I went from "okay" to very much not okay.

Didn't even get half done kitty-cri-potato god I have to force myself to do that again don't I. And soon all that work will be gone.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 14 hours ago

spoilerFor all the talking up self care gets, a lot of it isn't strictly fun or easy. I can understand you're feeling overwhelmed.

Years ago, when my dad and I were still talking to each other before I came out to any family, he was going to barber school. I'd grow out what I had and go to the school for him to shave me, as a dutiful "son" and someone who felt obligated and wanted private time with me and my dad. I did have to stop eventually, it was really bad for my mental health and dysphoria to keep growing my facial hair. Even as a teen, ages before I cracked my egg, I couldn't do no shave November and would always crack in the first week - I would not have been able to tell you why because part of the charm was our goofy ugly teen quasi staches. On this side of egg crack, it's very obvious why lol

A lot of self care stuff like exercising or eating healthy can feel quite onerous. It's not all having warm baths with candles or self-compassion and being gentle with oneself (although those are still important). It's good that you did what you could about shaving, that's a very good sign and it's good progress. Maybe you can figure out a different system that works, get laser, Nair (hair removal cream, you can get gentle stuff for face so not use the harsh leg stuff or pube stuff on your face), even waxing. Even if you end up needing to shave to help your dysphoria, it will likely feel better than the alternative of not shaving despite the awful middle stage. Also, struggles with facial hair does unite a lot of women - cis or trans - you are not alone. Number one users of laser hair removal for facial hair is cis women.

[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 9 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

CW: Transphobia, identification documents, health insurance, forced outingMore fuckery with my passport application. After sending it in for a correction after they failed to put the correct gender marker on it, they now sent me a letter (which took a week to arrive) that I need to send in my birth certificate. As far as I can tell from the state department website, there is no requirement to send in proof of citizenship with a DS-5504, so I am annoyed and nervous. I am including another letter with the relevant web pages about the data correction and gender marker change policies, but I am beginning to despair. I am now worried that the policy could change before the processing of the passport is complete.

Health insurance at work is also starting to be a nightmare. The HR system allows you not to disclose gender/sex, but that's fake because you have to pick a binary sex for the health insurance. The HR representative also used transphobic language in the email letting me know about this, so that's pretty bad as well. I put it down as female, and then updated my gender identity info as well to make it clear. Not adding pronouns yet since that pops up without digging into the profile, so at least I can avoid that involuntary outing, but it really sucks overall.

I am now worried that the insurance company is going to ask for proof of sex at some point, and until I get my passport I don't have any IDs that have the correct gender marker (updating state ID is out of the question).

meow-tableflip

agony-deep

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I can't log into my teams account and the only error message I'm getting is "something went wrong"

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 7 points 15 hours ago

In honor of Microsoft, I'm aliasing python to this program in bash

[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 11 points 17 hours ago

I feel so cool for having broken the chains of enforced traditional gender and choosing my own now. It makes me way cooler than most other people and my community is the greatest. Can’t imagine living life without the freedom of choosing one’s own gender and some understanding of what gender means to oneself. Must be pretty boring!

[–] french_stinkmas@hexbear.net 19 points 20 hours ago

I finally got back on HRT last week lesgooo

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 13 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

Microplastics fuck with your hormones so I think it's fair to say everyone on Earth is on HRT

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 10 points 18 hours ago

Feelin' tired and sad today

catgirl-flop

Keep thinking about a stranger I ran into yesterday and wish I had been more outgoing and friendly, they seemed cool but I was stressed out and probably seemed bitchy and not very approachable

I feel like such a fuckin' goober a lot of the time in public but worry that I come across as intimidating or something

[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 16 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

Bif of a mixed bag on Xiaohongshu regarding trans people. I see a lot of "Don't ask don't tell" sort of responses, including some "We don't care, but it's not for kids" type talk. When it comes to non-binary, there are a lot of "we don't have 96 genders in China" type responses.

On posts by trans and gnc people, I don't really see any negative comments.

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 18 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

My department is renovating my department's building and apparently one of the changes they're making is turning our gender neutral restrooms into larger gendered restrooms even though literally no one asked for that. Their rationale is "none of the other departments have gender neutral restrooms" 😞

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 11 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Gender neutral restrooms are good, actually, and the other departments should have them.

If the rest of the department is willing, you all should continue to treat them as gender neutral bathrooms (easier said than done).

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 8 points 19 hours ago

I would love to see that happen, but I'm going to be gone from this place by the time the renovations happen

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I noticed about a week ago that being soft spoken is a trait I find really attractive, and now I'm considering changing myself to be more soft spoken.

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Also I cut my hair shorter than it has been for the past few years and got new clothes and am getting new glasses which are round, unlike my current square set. So 2025 might just be a complete overhaul for Moss

[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 5 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Everything's coming up Moss! milhouse

(Not saying you look like Milhouse lol sorry, it's just a fun phrase)

[–] Moss@hexbear.net 6 points 16 hours ago

Milhouse is agender transition goals

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 9 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

i swear to god every time i see office workers reminiscing on the time they got to stay home and bake sourdough or whatever while there was a plague i want to injure them

[–] WIIHAPPYFEW@hexbear.net 5 points 18 hours ago

One hour on xiaohongshu and I’m already submerged under a deluge of murder drones posts lol

[–] buh@hexbear.net 12 points 23 hours ago

There were like 10 boomers posted up outside the planned parenthood with nothing better to do than annoy people going in πŸ™„

[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 10 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

unlimited rice on the hexbear world

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 4 points 18 hours ago

It's not Friday...

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 9 points 22 hours ago

facebook ceo, mark dinkleberg

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