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[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (2 children)

I hate to say it, but now isn't the only time it's a problem.

This whole "you just need to practice more CBT skills" has been bullshit for like twenty fucking years or more.

I can "check the facts" all I want, if the facts are that things are irreparably and totally fucked and that this irreparability is hurting me directly I can't "happy thoughts" my fucking way out of it.

I'm really tired of being told "you can't change other people, so you need to work on yourself" when other people are allowed to be giant assholes their whole lives who never have to put one ounce of work into themselves and it's me and everyone else who is a halfway decent person who has to spend their lives fucking working on ourselves.

The system is god damned broken and has been god damned broken when we practically reward the worst of us with never having to try to do better while telling the best of us that we just have to do better.

I'm really, really over it.

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Overthrowing capitalism is a pretty effective coping mechanism from what I hear.

[–] RandomVideos@programming.dev 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Isnt that almost impossible? I wonder how many lotteries you would have to win in a row to be as lucky as you would need to convince billions of people capitalism may be worse than another system and to do something about it

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago

you dont have to convince people based on dry theory. revolution does not necessairily mean a momentary violent insurection that overthrows what was. a revolution can be the process in which you create the structures you wish to see in the future, in the here and now. you then convince people by showing them first hand that it works and that it benefits them.

here is a great video on how to construct the revolution. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9K6ISx8QEQ

it has a bit of a slow start, and feels academic but its very very insightful. absolute recomendation.

[–] the_q@lemm.ee 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Being anxious and depressed is directly related to your awareness of the world around you. It's not okay to be okay.

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 1 points 4 months ago

Sure, but now what? You don't have the power to change the world. So what do you do? You either develop a mind like a rock which sounds like dying on the inside to me or you actually just end it, right?
Like I want to find other solutions to this, but these are the only logical ones I can come up with.

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This is actually touching on a real new approach to mental healthcare, which is just accepting that "life is shit" and you're kinda on your own to find meaning in it, or get to the next high-point that makes it worth living.

We have to stop expecting things to be stable, normal and comfortable. We had a good, smooth run, things are going back to normal now.

[–] werty@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 months ago

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change what I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

Excellent psychological advice in the form of prayer. The fact that life is shit is one of things ypu cannot change. The wisdom to know the difference is the real skill.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This is an entirely different approach than most people are used to. My advice from a couple of combat deployments is to cultivate a task oriented mindset. What does that mean? It means worrying about the task you are doing right now and nothing else. That doesn't mean you never look at the bigger picture. But if you're at dinner, then you're at dinner and you enjoy that. You can check when the next protest is, after dinner. You take each day like this and before you know it we'll be voting Trump out of office.

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

before you know it we'll be voting Trump out of office.

No offense, but this is a weird comment. How are we going to vote him out of office? Are we just accepting that he's going to run for a third term? We can't let him do that.

[–] laserm@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

Next year are both senate and house elections. If we get blue 2/3ds in both chambers, we can pursue them to impeach Trump

[–] xpinchx@lemmy.world 0 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Hey guys this probably isn't the right place, but I'm new to mental health issues. About two weeks ago I started having crippling anxiety attacks, mostly at or right after work. I do intl logistics for my company so I've had a pulse on all this bullshit from the getgo.

At the same time I started having blood pressure issues, and the combination has a vicious feedback loop of anxiety > elevated heart issues > anxiety etc.

My doctor gave me 30 Xanax (and a plethora of heart meds), I've looked up self help type stuff to help with the anxiety... Mindfulness, breathing exercises, etc. Daily walks and exercise help the most but I feel so out of control of my emotions I don't really know what to do anymore.

Should I talk to my GP and get on something long term? Therapist? Keep trying self help?

I'm 38 and otherwise healthy, no depression, slightly overweight but physically active and eating healthy. I stopped all my vices (nicotine, alcohol, most weed I still take edibles CBD) and I don't know how to cope without being self destructive.

If anyone else is going through this and getting traction just let me know your experience I guess. I don't know anyone irl as affected as me so I mainly just want validation I'm not alone and there's a path forward.

[–] priapus@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 months ago

I would definitely recommend trying therapy. Self help and meds will both help, but, for me, therapy made the biggest difference in the long run.

[–] Gongin@sh.itjust.works -1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

BetterHelp. Download it and talk to someone.

[–] Hathaway@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

BetterHelp is not a good company.

[–] Gongin@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Any help is better than struggling alone which is what these people are doing. As someone who actually uses the platform I've not had a bad experience and have had the same therapist.

[–] Hathaway@lemmy.zip 1 points 4 months ago

Just because anecdotally, it’s okay for you, doesn’t make the company or its practices good. Nor will I excuse them. They have also ruined therapy for many, many people, who won’t go back or struggle to go to a therapist after getting “dumped” by BetterHelp. Or worse. I will not and would not advocate BetterHelp for anyone first therapy experience.

[–] desktop_user@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 4 months ago

this is exactly why therapists seem to be total nutjobs in my opinion, they don't have actual solutions that work for any case where the symptoms are justified by the climate other than "leave the climate that's justifying it".