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Not sure how you get this from erotador's post. It was more about how people have fantasies that don't take into account the autonomy of others, just assuming x type of person would automatically be them. There aren't any real immortal beings, but there are social groups that get fetishized based on their identity. It's not being into a type of person that's the problem, but ignoring that the person themselves need to choose you.
All this said, I do love your post! Things are rarely ever truly hopeless, so we might as well keep fighting to spite the forces that say we should die.
yis. i get it. bt also - the post says specificlli "u dun pull any women ur age" which lik - see - thads lik - sad.
yis, i get it, obvobv sexualizing peep-groups is nt cool- obvobv
n also obv a relationship has to be built on the double-sided willingness.... obvobv aswell.
kinda my point was: why say a sad thing to all the peeps while its actulli jus directed at a vrri smol subset of peeps... also swearing...
when i see posts which r intentionally made to mek peeps uncomf or sad... thad doesn spark joy to me n i also get sad.
also, i feel sayin someone wans a certain type of fantasy-gf isn... thad far fetched?... lik - i feel ive seen phrase "i wan catgrl gf" plenty times around here, evn by reasonabl peeps.
alsualsualsu - while i kno its nt gatekeepin - the fact thad its erotador... sharin a thing bout u nevr gettin the dream gf of ur life becuz u currntli cnt evn get real ones -... well see... thads nt a fair.... thing, thads like throwing stones from inside a brick-house towards peeps inside glass-houses...
to me - thads lik havin a job n goin "holi shid - stop talkin bout wantin to be rich! u cnt evn get a normal job! how do u think u could evr get rich?" bt obv its even worse becuz its about human connection, n not capitalism.
im prolli over-sensitized bout dis stff cuz i dun have any peeps my age around for a year-... thad lik... was and is rlli bad. lik jus-genuinely - no peeps. period. only elderly teacher cit-hets, usually men. so yis. thads prolli why im so upset.
am i overteactin? yis, obv i am. i do feel thad i have... at least som amount of point tho...
smorty is too kind of a soul for this cruel world. shes so hecking positive i don't know how she does it.
thanksies! <3
im - im onli positiv online mostli - bt im happi if i cn share stff which meks peeps comf ~ ~ or at least - a bit mor comf-
also heyyyyyy its u with the pfp which i keep comin back to becuz its so relatabl-
thank u for bein here ~ <3 (n alsuu thank u for callin me kind soul... thads vrri nice if u aswell)
Nooooooo Thank you for being here!! You bring way more here than i do. You are cute and kind spreading good vibes. I just kinda exist
<3 thank you 🥹
ur welcome dear zwiebel <3 🧅💖
You gotta cut the onion
nuuuu! zwiebel is a fren! nu cut!!
yis... i kno-
Are you kinda challenged or why do you talk like that?
it’s just how she types
nono im fine -
Hey Smorty, is cute post!
But the post you're referring to is really not saying that you won't suceed in things - more that some things are unattainable or out of aligment.
At least in my perspective - not aiming for something impossible might be uncomfortable and scary at first - but it'll save far more unhappiness in the future. Like how a walk in the park or forest can be exhausting, dirty and kinda scary - it'll still show you far more than just another internet post could ❤️
Hope this makes sense 😅
i made a cmnt bout my reasonin bout the referred post here on a comment so yea-
also, yesyes it does make sens <3
Thank you smorty!
I recently enrolled in school again, its been nearly a decade since I last tried. I'm trying to keep reminding myself I'm not the same person who flunked out before, I've grown and become more responsible.
Your post was a good reminder of that for me today. Regardless of our pasts, the future is still up to us to make. Just because I failed before doesn't mean I will again.
Much love Smorty, stay wholesome 🥰
Edit: I misspelled stuff, autocorrupt, YaKnow?
Thank u smorty ❤️❤️❤️
I took that other post as a riff on the kinds of people who put unrealistic and shallow demands on an idealized partner while offering little to nothing in the way of good partnership material themselves.