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I was bordering suicidal this morning due to some of the dark feelings I felt. Slowly coming away from that now, but still feel like hangovers just destroy me now

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[–] emizeko@hexbear.net 29 points 9 months ago (1 children)

drink at least one pint glass of water for every alcoholic drink

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 16 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Actually very good advice. I just got so shit faced this time I forgot to drink water and pace myself and I paid for it today.

[–] emizeko@hexbear.net 17 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

if you forget at the time, second best is to slam a whole bunch of water before sleeping (wait to pee before you crash though)

[–] Frank@hexbear.net 23 points 9 months ago (4 children)

I haven't had that issue but yeah, pretty much everything is harder to recover from and takes longer to recover at 38 than it did at 30. Age is real and it sucks and people who say ":I can't wait to be old" are extremely strange people.

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 17 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I have a scab on my hand from where it hit a metal rack while I was stocking a few days ago. A decade ago it would have been healed by now.

Shit sucks dude

[–] Frank@hexbear.net 21 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Utter bullshit. Just utter bullshit. Aging is criminal and we should abolish it.

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

If aging didn’t exist Kissinger would yet live. I’m willing to die so that the people I hate also share that fate. Just wish it wasn’t so slow and humiliating.

[–] Frank@hexbear.net 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yes but consider - Countless millions of people victimized by Kissinger would have remained young, virile, healthy, and capable of carrying out unlikely political assassinations. Imagine a world where every old, broken communist could bench their own weight and run a ten minute mile and would bring all their hatred, rage, and sorrow to war with all the vitality they had when they were 20?

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago (8 children)

There would be more permanently young ghouls.

Our main obstacle is our lack of numbers. Granting eternal youth to all would only magnify that.

So long as death and crippling are on the table it advantages us because asymmetrical warfare and terrorism are our tools: a stratagem that allows a single person to affect hundreds.

Look at that anarchist who had a convoluted shoved and accomplished nothing, dying doesn’t matter unless you get an x+1:x ratio out of it.

Just my opinion though.

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[–] viva_la_juche@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago (9 children)

Counterpoint I wanna vibe forever and I need to be young and healthy to do it

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[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah this shit ain't fun. I just am starting to not be able to do what I could when I was young

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[–] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 20 points 9 months ago (4 children)

Here's how I do it:

Do not, under any circumstances, drink beer, wine or mixed spirits to get drunk. Guinness as a meal substitute is ok, as a source of getting drunk is not.

Just sip straight spirits out of the bottle, preferably while ranting about something. If at a bar, get XYZ on the rocks. Gin & Soda water if you want to drink slower.

Drink 2-5 liters of water before passing out anywhere that's not a bed. In the last 5 weeks, I have passed out on: A lawn, a different lawn, the back seat of a car, the floor (carpeted), the floor (hardwood, with a persian rug), a couch, a computer chair and leaning against a tree.

[–] idkmybffjoeysteel@hexbear.net 15 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Let me get this straight, your advice to cope with post-drink depression is to get so shit faced that you pass out and wake up some place else?

[–] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 6 points 9 months ago

Yeah idk I've made it work, although that could just be the line cook's special ability. Like closing after dinner service, downing 5-700mLs of Tequila to catch up with friends so you have some semblance of a social life, wake up at 9 to get to work by 10 for post church Sunday brunch. The usual.

[–] sevenapples@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Guinness as a meal substitute is ok

What? Please elaborate.

[–] bubbalu@hexbear.net 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Like you can have a pint in lieu of dinner, but DO NOT drink enough to get drunk. Several pints of guinness will fill you up like a sponge in a bucket.

[–] sevenapples@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Who drinks beer instead of eating? Even a 330mL can will increase my hunger if I haven't eaten before.

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 8 points 9 months ago

true alcoholics. i used to regularly forgo eating so there'd be more room for booze

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[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 16 points 9 months ago (4 children)

I was hungover a few days ago watching young couples shop as I stocked the store. I’m partially convinced (or telling myself at least) that the minor alcohol withdrawal of a hangover is why I felt like a failure and wanted to die knowing that isn’t on the cards for me.

Blame the booze and keep drinking because I know it ain’t true….

deeper-sadness

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah a nasty hangover will bring those kinds of feelings out and then if there's more alcohol around, you end up drinking more to fix the anxiety and depression from being hung over.

It's pretty shitty.

[–] GinAndJuche@hexbear.net 12 points 9 months ago

You find a solution let me know lol

It’s not like the anxiety and depression aren’t there anyways.

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[–] skeletorsass@hexbear.net 14 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Alcohol is haram this is Allah (超绝万物) tell you to stop

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[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yes, it gets worse, stop drinking so much alcohol, also drink water (that said, if I'm having a severe low dopamine day, I get drunk, and have the worse hangovers and feel better overall. This is not medical advice)

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Don't tell me how to life my life! Old lady!

[–] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

hisses

I also recommend some light stretches and a hot shower to rinse the drinking sweat off.

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[–] moonlake@hexbear.net 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I don't need alcohol to feel like shit physically or mentally soviet-huff

my body feels like that while sober agony-yehaw

[–] Kuori@hexbear.net 8 points 9 months ago

yea my body is a temple to agony and decay

[–] comrade_pibb@hexbear.net 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I'm older and hangovers lay me out for like two days

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

Yeah it ain't worth it. For some reason I decide to do if anyways

[–] JuryNullification@hexbear.net 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Had a miserable hangover today. Completely wrecked me. Shit sucks

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yep I'm right there with you. If I have over 6 beers in a night of fun. I'm wrecked for at least 36 hours now.

All the anxiety and depression about what you may have done or said combined with your body just feeling icky.

It sucks ass

[–] JuryNullification@hexbear.net 6 points 9 months ago

Yeah, I usually avoid drinking these days because of it, but I seem to have to relearn this lesson every year.

[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 11 points 9 months ago

in my 20s i could snap back fast, but by mid 30s--even staying hydrated--the day after heavy drinking would be a bust. the day would be blown on napping, eating slop, and accomplishing nothing for myself just to get myself back to neutral. i also smoked tobacco when i drank, and made cutting back harder.

i quit both before i turned 40 and now i'm approaching like no tobacco for 4 years, and probably a single low-ABV beer in the last 5 years. and i remember distinctly how dehydrated that single beer made me, as a big water drinking guy. It definitely affirmed desire to not feel that way anymore. When I go to social events, I have soda water or like a diet soft drink. I definitely missed it at first, because I'm kinda awkward. But the drinking didn't really fix that so much as make me not notice it. And no amount of awkwardness bothers me more than feeling like crap the next day both physically and from being anxious about something I said/did.

When i see people my age who still drink like they are 20 years younger, it's clearly hard on their bodies. I see people who are literally the same age as me who i would guess are like 10-15 years older.

anyway, alcohol is fucked up. seems like one of the kinder things you can do for yourself is to not consume it. and it's one of those things where the body gives reliable feedback, unless you're like a hardcore juicer with tremors and shit.

[–] JoeByeThen@hexbear.net 11 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I spent most of my twenties drunk and by the time I got around to my thirties it was just too much to deal with the next day. Every morning just felt like I was gonna die for the first half of the day. Smoking weed actually helped me quit drinking and smoking cigarettes. Can't remember the last time I had a drink. More than ten years now, at least. There was a definite improvement in my health and mood not being hungover and stuck in constant recovery. Plus, 30 was around when my body started doing the whole "this is never going to fully heal" thing, so having one less massive stressor probably saved my ass from being in much worse condition now. Since you're still young, it would be in your best interest to start thinking about sobering up and getting in shape now before you get to a point where getting started is too physically overwhelming. And really, it doesn't take long. Within a few years of sobriety and working out, I was pretty happy with the differences. Life under capitalism is already hard as hell, drinking and putting your body through the wringer just massively increases the difficulty level.

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Aye than you know the feeling of a bad hangover and the anxiety and deep depression that comes with it.

Thanks for the long post man. I appreciate the thought and advice you put into jt

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[–] GarfGirl@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

im a zoomer so like ngl, hangovers are basically nothing to me. my consolations that your body is starting to break down

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 11 points 9 months ago

As a school teacher, I want to chime in. Every time I've seen problem issues where students (aged 14-18) get passed out drunk, they're always 100% the next day for parent meetings. I am indeed jealous.

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[–] oktherebuddy@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Don't understand people who drink more than a couple drinks in an evening after turning, like, 30 at most.

[–] 7bicycles@hexbear.net 15 points 9 months ago

oh look at mr. mental health over here /s

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

I'm middle aged now. A few years back, I got really really drunk on a Friday, and literally had a hangover till Wednesday. Ever since then, I've never gone beyond two drinks in an evening.

[–] GarfieldOfficial@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Cw- talks of excessive drinking and suicidal ideation dubois-dance tequila-sunset

https://.clevelandclinic.org/emotional-hangover-why-alcohol-can-give-you-anxiety

spoiler___ Alcohol is a depressant and messes with your serotonin and causes a laundry list of related issues. By the time you’ve aged, your body is unable to process this literal poison as effectively as when you were younger. When you’re coming up from a hangover it is intensely important to remember that it amplifies thoughts associated what that depressant classification- suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety- and worsens how essentially every one of your major organ systems function.

I used to be a problem drinker-still am given the opportunity-in order to cope with anxiety/de-mask in social situations/de-stress. I’ve heard it described as paying for tonight’s fun with tomorrow’s happiness. For me, it’s been essential to understand why I’m drinking, and in addition to regular water drinking, take regular mental check-ins. When I drink a pint or two with friends it’s usually as a social lubricant. When I stay at the bar after for another 8 by myself-there’s usually something else going on.

Frankly it’s literal self-harm. It’s only legal because capitalists use it to exploit the proletariat to great effect.

That said too, 4 pints in a night now give me the equivalent hangover that a case would- aka the enshittification of my liver- and yes it will happen to young folks too- faster than you think. I’ve heard 100% agave tequila doesn’t have the same depressant effect. Idk if it’s true, but if I wanna get blasted that’s usually my drink of choice.

I try to stick to thc edibles now when I want a buzz- in a legal state so unfortunately isn’t the case for everyone.

Final moralizing point- take care of yourself, friend. Treat yourself like you would a dear friend. Drink water, talk about what’s bothering you, and pace yourself. We live in a hell world, and can only persist together. The capitalists want you to drink yourself to death-don’t give them that pleasure.

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[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 9 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Stopped drinking alcohol years ago. LSD and MDMA are cheaper, give a better experience and I'm functional the next day.

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[–] flan@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Yeah I definitely feel them a lot more now that I'm older than when I was in my 20s. Or at least before they would be gone by noon, now I'll get an occasional one that lasts until like 5pm. The water tip someone else posted is crucial but doesn't always work.

[–] idkmybffjoeysteel@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I come away from anything more than light drinking with serious regret and anxiety, like I have unlocked some dark shit that I am very content to never think about ever when sober.

[–] FearsomeJoeandmac@hexbear.net 6 points 9 months ago

Yeah exactly the same thing here.

[–] pastalicious@hexbear.net 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Re: Those dark feelings. In December I lost a beloved pet years before his time after a weeks long struggle. Learned that I have an OCD like reaction to crisis and trauma. The cliche is people drink to forget but alcohol didn’t feel appealing at all for that purpose. I started doing intense strength building workouts and those help in a limited capacity. It basically forces your mind into the present and into your body. And the chemicals it floods your brain with will improve your mood and clarity very noticeably for an hour maybe?

I was hoping dry January would be a life raft but I don’t feel anything profound. Maybe if you binge drink it’ll have a bigger effect, my problem is/was having a 2-3 every night.

To directly answer the question; Hangovers are definitely worse when you get older but you can also know your body better from years of experience and learn how to avoid them.

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[–] bigboopballs@hexbear.net 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I've never drank enough to notice the difference between teenage or college aged hangovers and later in my life hangovers shrug-outta-hecks

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