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what's that, some kind of porn site?

Cannot recommend this move enough. Unplugging permanently from social media toxicity is one of the best things you can do for your mental health, especially as a queer person.

Had the urge to upbear immediately without even reading the thread. I'm glad for you that you made that decision, i can say for myself that getting off all the hellsites was a pretty big improvement for my mental health, general mood and blood pressure.

Been waiting for you to do this!! Shoutouts to putting trash in the trash!!

I never understood the appeal of TikTok.

I abandoned pretty much all social media because my time could be better spent reading or watching something more long form.

RIP to your discord account but I still got friends on there

I wish i could remove some socials, but i kinda need one for work.

its healthy to get rid of tech bros actively trying to addict you. it did me good to cut off most of that garbage and will do you too.

dont beat yourself if you relapse, mainstream social media is like drugs now.

I used to use Unsocial Media like Instagram to find trans+queer creators that I really liked but I had to stop because they kept getting shadowbanned off the platform. Once a queer person gets any sort of traction they face so much shit.

I wish I could completely disengage from social media, but being stuck in a shitty stuffy small town makes it tough

Got banned from reddit for ~~calling out some liberal's eugenics rhetoric~~ "suspicious activity". That was the last of the corporate platforms I was on. From now on, its good clean browsing with my trans owl red volcel polycule whom I can never meet unless the empire dies

All you need is an archive.org account. Thank me later for the free books and movies. Start with Ursula K. Guinn's "The Book of Earthsea".

I've barely any social media, discord being it (though I don't talk in any servers and I have no friends bar my wife) but I agree it's better to remove things of no use to you

I should stop posting from my lemm.ee account as well...

I am going to say something controversial, which is that while it is totally appropriate for some of us to completely avoid spaces online where there is misogyny, racism, and transphobia to protect our mental well being, we can't afford to all do this at all times, unless we want to just let the hate toward marginalized groups multiply in this culture.

There are plenty of irredeemably hateful people online but there are also a lot of people who are just suggestible, or have only ever been presented one side of an issue, and if leftists do not actually wade into at least some online discussions veering toward bigotry, in order to unapologetically state a pro case for the humanity of marginalized groups and win over these on-the-fence people, then pretty soon they could find bigotry becoming so ubiquitious that no amount of blocking accounts will make it avoidable.

The only people I regularly see these days actually wading into hateful/reactionary spaces to unyieldingly and pointedly defend things like LGBT rights, polyamory/promiscuity, social justice, etc. are libertarians, Evo Psych people, and fucking Mr. Beast and Will Stancil. They readily face the ratio-ing and barrage of hateful responses to do this. A lot of leftists/liberals, on the other hand, just shy away from directly addressing any prejudicial talking points that they don't feel they can counter with sufficient resonance, allowing those talking points to grow in popularity and cause new panics unabated. It's sad that Shane Gillis and Joe Rogan made the point to their chud audience that it's unfair to smear all gay people by publicizing individual incidents of a gay guy behaving inappropriately with someone, and we are too invested in thinking that that sentiment should be self-explanatory to also try saying it sometime to the politically uninitiated.

The people on the left, who supposedly support the marginalized the most, tend to observe their most prominent defamers from a distance, and tell just tell one another "OMG, can you believe what xyz said about so and so?" That, or they exclusively call out people in their in-group for being problematic. Not saying those things don't have their place, but until we have people who can stand proud and undaunted in online and real-life environments where we might get triggered by ignorant and hateful people, and make persuasive arguments directly countering the false-but-salient attacks on the humanity of the marginalized, our movement of love will only contract while theirs of hate grows.

And if you can't withstand the heat of something like defending the people you cherish unvarnished in the face of a ratio by Nazis, you can at least go out of your way to leave some earnest, positive comments on the posts of people who face harassment from bigots. You possibly even leave your comments as replies their harassers. It doesn't feel like this will do anything, but if a ton of people all do this, the hateful voices will find themselves outgunned and drowned out.

People really underestimate the power of unbridled and sincere positivity toward, and arguments in favor of something, or maybe are too afraid to put themselves out there to demonstrate such. But such might be our most effective tool against this newly burgeoning wave of bigotry, and at least some of us need to stop being afraid to enter proverbial lion's dens to put it forward.

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