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Sending good vibes to all of my trans comrades 
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My laundry basket has been full for months and just functions as storage for boy clothes I don't use aymore, while my actual laundry is just stored on my bedroom floor. I should probably do something about this.
i wish i was a wife haver
made the most important step of transitioning today: officially changing my name for the customer rewards program at my local games shop
Watching an old mid-60s campus building get demolished by four excavators while listening to boards of canada. 
because I like mid 60s-late 70s modernism too much but also 
because fitting music (I’ve been staring at the whole process for ten minutes)
Love to live with your new name, get it put on your legal documents and birth certificate, only to start having doubts about it after ten years. 
Just had an interview for a big promotion, very nervous even though most of my coworkers have told me that they hope I get it. This shelter needs more trans people in leadership.
Starting today, I'm gonna try my best to smile more and overcome my anxieties more often!!
Sister might be getting back with her abusive ex and idk what to do about it. 
I'm mad, 
I have another 12 hour day but it's the day a game I was excited for comes out and I won't be able to play it until I'm fully done work at which point I'll probably be too tired to enjoy it
peer pressuring all of my AMAB friends into doing estrogen like an after school special
"What do you mean, girl? All the cool kids are doing it" 
Finally got my first shipment of girl clothes! Lacey boyshorts,cute chokers, comfy thigh-highs, and ruffley flowey floral skirt. Celebrated/prepared by shaving my thighs and surrounding area for the first time too. (Only got a shitty men's razor atm, and I was going through blades like crazy.)
Seeing myself without facial hair and that choker, I feel like I actually saw a woman in the mirror for the first time.
Can't tell what's more euphoric, doing spinnies in my pretty skirt or sitting around reading wearing nothing but stockings, panties, and a big shirt.
Still have one skirt waiting to come in, its this beautiful black pleated midi skirt that has the prettiest bow on it. I love how girly it is.
I can't believe how pretty and good I feel presenting as a woman. I don't want to go back. Before this I was still questioning my gender, but I think I feel certain now. I'm finally honestly starting to feel like an actual woman <3
oh hey, i've never posted in the trans mega before. let's change that! happy 4 year HRTiversary to me, God's gayest soldier
cw sex shit that's probably slightly tmi, playing with a brainworm concept
This "autogynephilia" thing, y'know... It's kinda cool, pretty funny.........
I don't necessarily mean getting off in a mirror or similar, although I really respect those who get that invested in self love, I think it's rad. I also don't really mean the stupid pathologised thing that the colonel-sanders-lookin quack advanced and which subsequently got rekt, thank u Julia Serano!!
What I mean properly is that being present and enjoying your actual body during sex is so cool and fun. It occured to me the other day that thoughts about myself and my own form take up almost as much mindspace in my goofy running monologue as thoughts about my partner, during. I am motivated to do stuff equally for my partner and equally because I feel good, because I am incredibly hot. When I don't bother pulling up the blanket afterword, I'm luxuriating happily and observing MYSELF, because I look fucking beautiful. Oh that's so troublesome, thinking I am sexy during sex, gosh. The users in reddit threads this time a decade ago would be reduced to hysterics at my utterly "gynephillic" enjoyment of my own body. Enbyphillic? I'll work on it.
I am pretty sure that the slight dissonance between myself and my identity was what caused the problem here, 'cause I feel so good now, which I did not think I would ever say. I've come a really long way since fretting over my ribcage or whatever after that /r9k/ guy called my figure "boyish", lmao.
I like what I see, which fucks. Even though "woman" is not a binding contract that has any measurement requirements, I think brainrot was causing me to feel weird about certain things when viewed in that context. This is waaaaaaaay better. Fuckin gender.
I have this light green bedsheet that I got for free from my old college (they had a free room where people could bring their unused stuff and I took a Lot of clothes and fabric from there). Remembered it again the other day as I was cleaning out my sewing room, and decided that I needed to use it for something. I wanted to do a light, romantic, yet summery dress and I sketched out a bunch of possible designs.
Ofc there's no pattern out there that really fits this garment, but that's okay because I want to learn pattern drafting anyways. I have never drafted a pattern before, but I'm definitely interested in doing it even as a novice sewist. This dress might not be the first pattern that I draft because a lot of the designs I've sketched are kind of complicated, but it's definitely a project I want to do down the line.
These designs are numbered in the order I made them. I think it's obvious that I really like bishop sleeves and flared skirts, haha. I think 4 is really fun, I basically thought "what if I took a poet shirt and made it a dress". Definitely one of the top candidates for what I go with. 6 looks pretty different from the others because it's inspired by hanfu, Wei/Jin dynasty hanfu in particular. I'm not usually a fan of the asymmetrical wrap-around style, but I love it in hanfu; and I'm definitely going to try to learn how to sew some hanfu (the patterns actually look relatively simple from what I could find.) Of course, 6 is not a traditional hanfu by any means; it's a single-piece and the skirt is short. I'm also a fan of 8, I wonder how drop-sleeved bishop sleeves could work.
Anyways I had a lot of fun thinking up these designs and hopefully I can make one (or maybe more, in other colors!) of them work eventually.
So, as some of you might know, I'm kinda struggling. I think starting my transition would make things easier. To do this now, unfortunately I have to come out. I don't think my family will be openly hostile but I don't expect them to understand.
How should I come out, and what questions should I plan for? What things should I not say? I don't know if I'll do it super soon but I want to prepare myself.
Something about how the setting of every "cozy game" is some sort of pocket dimension where the concepts of society and conflict don't exist is unnerving to me.
spoiler
Scheduled my first bottom surgery laser session! Not looking forward to the pain, but so hype for the eventual reward.
ok, transpeople on my computer. I'm going to start working out again today. I expect you to hold me to this promise. 
There should pounds for domless dog girls, cat girls too but theyre a lil more independent on account of the cat part
Honestly, I know getting the mega numbers up feels good, but I like the current pace more, it feels like I can reasonably see everything again and it's a comfy pace where there's one or two new convos when I check in but not too many.
Idk how I ever stood having body hair, the little that builds up after going a week without shaving/epilating makes me feel gross.
Better now tho 
Is it normal to be genderfluid in the sense that you get extreme transfeminine dysphoria due to puberty, identify as a girl/woman from like 13 to 20 or so, get nonbinary with it and even a bit masculine for a couple years, and then basically have a mental switch one day a month after graduating college where you're back to being a woman and can't imagine androgyny let alone masculinity again? 
Question for the computer transes:
Is using fedora linux instead of arch linux (as a transfem) reactionary? Asking for a friend, they really need to know.
non binary feels/dysphoria
Increasingly realizing my non binary-ness by how much I recoil at being called “doll,” “girl,” and other cutesy terms. Like, i’m almost 30, I get why folks do it, but I find it patronizing mostly for transfems.
Like one would never refer to a cis woman as girl constantly?
This is probably me being very autistic about this, idk
Wearable Collars Minecraft Mod
Add it to the modpack it will be funny.
Don't do it. What will the server owner think of it. What will the others think of me 
inspired by @ashinadash@hexbear.net curlposting i have decided to give my curls a bit more love. i ordered a nice hair care package of scrunchies, wide tooth comb, curly shampoo/conditioner and some oils and shit. i have a nice wave naturally, but i normally don't put too much work into my curls besides brushing in the shower, scromching with a towel and air drying. i need to get a trim too as my hair is well below shoulder length which isn't optimal for my curls, but i'm excited to curlmaxx some!!
in other news, i went to see I Saw the TV Glow and it was... good? i suppose it left me slightly underwhelmed because it definitely didn't resonate with me emotionally as much as i expected given what i had heard going in. it was still an enjoyable and clearly very well crafted movie, just didn't click with me in that way. i had some gripes with it, but the stuff i didn't like was largely in service of horror which i have to appreciate so my criticism is fairly soft. i think it's Good the movie exists and if it shakes some eggs out of the closet or illuminates the horror of dysphoria to some cissies, that marks it as an accomplished and transgressive work in my view. definitely better than the hot new queer story being about some gay english white boys which god knows we've seen enough of for a bit.
(spoilers) i guess
i was a little disappointed when i realised it was going to have a tragic ending. i wouldn't reduce the movie to "just another queer tragedy", it does stand on its own and like i mentioned the tragic elements are in service of horror which makes the formula a little more fresh... but it did ultimately feel like a tragedy. in the horror context, a happy ending was never on the cards. it wouldn't have made sense i guess. not asking it to be a different movie, but it did make me yearn a bit more for new queer stories that are more radically hopeful, which is something i strongly feel we need more of.
friday night vibes at the laundromat are quiet and much appreciated to the weekend vibes
Me spending 5 mins on a doodle: This is amazing I am an artistic genius
Me spending 10 hours on an illustration: This is terrible I am a fraud what am I doing with my life
I'm not giving up nor do I actually think it's bad. It's just that staring at the same work for so long makes me kinda hate it no matter the quality. I probably just need to take more breaks
I'm gay. Gay like you wouldn't believe, gay like you haven't seen before, you simply cannot comprehend how gay i am
Gf and I are back to being split up
sex stuff
I want a sexual relationship and she feels pressured if I even bring it up. When she feels pressured, she doesn't communicate and I get frustrated. Yesterday I asked if I should stop bringing it up, she said yes but today she says her motivation for that was to test me.
So it's not just not having sex. It's no room to even talk about it. And she tests me We've been together four years and it feels like she's still playing games rather than communicating.
So, I broke up with her this morning. Because I need space and don't want to be cuddling, hanging out, and getting turned on when that's not what we both want and there's no room for me to talk about it.
Feeling heart broken. My body is going through changes and I hoped to explore that with her. Now I feel like I can't even talk about those changes with her. I think I'm going to hide in my room all day (we have separate bedrooms). Take my shot of E. Play SDV and listen to The Left Hand of Darkness on audio while waiting for this edible to hit me.
Any advice on the gf situation or how to handle the break up with someone who I live with would be helpful. I'm pretty poor and don't have family out here, so need to make the room mate situation work if it can.
Mostly feeling sad as I type this.
Separated from my blåhaj for the next 7 days. That's okay, it's not like I have a deep emotional attachment to it or anything 
