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When a person of color, especially if they're black like me, affirms their support for causes such as queer liberation, feminism, animal rights, or socialism, I immediately feel that I can believe, with minimal doubt, that they're truly convicted and principled in what they're advocating for.

However, when a white person claims to support leftism, until my skepticism is proven wrong, I immediately assume they're a dishonest and performative libshit. I then proceed to interact with them with hefty amounts of caution. If my assumptions are proven true, I'm never shocked.

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[–] Greenleaf@hexbear.net 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

When you grow up white in America, there’s so much that you have to deprogram from your brain before you can even move left. I had some really shitty views as a kid and I know I held to those just because it was coconut tree in which I fell out of. And beyond that, so much of society is geared towards privileging whiteness, you have to actively work to break out of it.

That said, I am grateful for people in my life who have called me out of stuff and have helped me be better. This is a reminder to all the white folks, if you get called out on something… apologize, understand - actually understand - where you went wrong, and be better.

[–] DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 7 months ago

That said, I am grateful for people in my life who have called me out of stuff and have helped me be better. This is a reminder to all the white folks, if you get called out on something… apologize, understand - actually understand - where you went wrong, and be better.

Agreed. I'm much rather feel bad for a day because someone called me out, then make other people feel bad the rest of my life because of my ignorant and hurtful behaviour.

[–] Erika3sis@hexbear.net 5 points 7 months ago

My friend you fucking know why, it's the same reason why I don't trust self-proclaimed "progressive/leftist whites" until they prove themselves also, and it's also the reason why I tend to go out of my way to prove myself early on too. Like, I have touched grass and I have been to predominantly white activist spaces, I have seen white bullshit and I have done white bullshit. I have learned through all practical experience not to trust whites for even a second, especially not those who refers to whites as a """we""" or in any way identify with whiteness, as if "white" is an actual meaningful group identity rather than a fucking Indiana Jones sandbag of a """culture""" whose continued existence is inherently destructive and antithetical to decolonization, anti-imperialism, Black liberation, and socialism.

You do not have to ask "why" you lack an ability to trust whites, you are in fact very wise to do so. It is not something you should feel guilty about, as if you're being racist by "judging books by their covers", it is in fact whites who are racist and it is on whites to prove themselves to you.

[–] CommunistCuddlefish@hexbear.net 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Because that's how it keeps going. I have tried time and time again to ignore the little danger signs from White people and kept getting burned by some, even by self-professed leftists. Not by all, of course, but by enough to be wary. It's unpleasant; this hypervigilance around White people is a real burden and I wish it hadn't been forcibly inflicted on me, but that's what living in a White Supremacist society does.

I find it helpful to differentiate between "White" and "white" people.
Capital-W "White" means the person exhibits a lot of the toxic settler-colonial, imperialist, and casually racist behaviors that Amerikkkan society perpetuates.

Lower-case w "white" means the person has skin tones that make them look like the Capital W's but they don't do that shit. They're actively antiracist, they're vigilant and purge any trace of white supremacy from themself, they're learning, and they support people of color in our fight against white supremacist fascism.

It's not about skin color, and it's not even essential to who they are -- White people who rehabilitate themselves can become white people, that is, people whose skin is light but aren't being toxic or shitty in any way.

A pretty basic litmus test I've found is checking how they feel about American Imperialism. If I say, "Joe Biden belongs in prison for what he did to Iraq" and they agree, then they probably understand on a visceral level that brown people are people. If they argue, that tells me they don't actually value our lives -- because it is fundamentally impossible to care about nonWhite lives and also be ok with any of these genocidal fucks.

[–] SerLava@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

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[–] Othello@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago

You absolutely should not trust white people based off of the words they say.

[–] Xx_Aru_xX@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago

This is how I feel about French people, unless they've explicitly clarified that they've read works by anti-colonial writers and have read the history of their evil empire and recognize the current imperialism of it today, they're a Nazi in my eyes.

[–] Site_Hating_Moid@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

because white people can't be trusted, simple as

[–] Site_Hating_Moid@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I shouldn't say more because this is what got my last account banned

[–] HexbearGPT@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] Nakoichi@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

Very weird, very cringe account that got banned for going way over the line with the white guilt and self-hate.

They really really need to log off for an extended period of time.

[–] aaaaaaadjsf@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

When a person of color, especially if they're black like me, affirms their support for causes such as queer liberation, feminism, animal rights, or socialism, I immediately feel that I can believe, with minimal doubt, that they're truly convicted and principled in what they're advocating for. However, when a white person claims to support leftism, until my skepticism is proven wrong, I immediately assume they're a dishonest and performative libshit.

It depends, I do not trust any person of any race immediately when it comes to topics like LGBT rights or feminism for example. There are many homophobic and sexist people of all races. There are many performative people of all races. People are people, after all. However, when it does come to issues around race, I agree with you. I think most white people simply do not understand the concept of structural racial discrimination as they have no experience with being on the side that gets discriminated against because of their skin colour and/or ethnic group. Obviously there are exceptions, but as a whole Eurocentric thought, which includes white supremacy, has been dominant throughout the past couple of centuries.

With regards to socialism, I find that in South Africa black people in general tend to have a much better understanding of what socialism is. I would say that is because part of the struggle against apartheid was based on socialism, and people from other racial groups, in general, have been influenced heavily by red scare propaganda or a comparador mindset.

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I absolutely agree with that take. I was raised in a devout Catholic, Afro-Caribbean immigrant family who I had to completely cut ties with due to their very staunch opposition to LGBT people literally just existing.

One thing I will say, though, is that within the queer community, black queer people certainly tend to treat me better than white queer people do, and that's for sure. I've noticed that white queer people seem to be more likely to have an exclusionary mindset, in having a higher chance of being one of those "LGB drop the T" people but also being racist towards queer people of color. It's horrifying how their lack of intersectionality can really lead to this kind of behavior.

[–] aaaaaaadjsf@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I've noticed that white queer people seem to be more likely to have an exclusionary mindset ... but also being racist towards queer people of color

Unfortunately this definitely exists, many white gays that want nothing to do with LGBT+ people of other races. I've seen it in South Africa. It's very sad. As the LGBT+ community, we're already a minority and further division over racist nonsense is just going to make us weaker and easier to oppress.

[–] Ho_Chi_Chungus@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I'm white and I still give a massive eyebrow raise to any other white person who claims to be leftist if I don't really feel like I know them

[–] duderium@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I’m a white communist and I sometimes feel like a vampire who’s trying not to be a vampire. White people in the west have so much to lose (at least in the short term, until the destruction of whiteness) from communism that it’s not unusual at all to distrust us. I don’t trust us either.

2020 is on my mind all the time actually, and I think a lot about how many people were marching at one point, and then how most of us stopped marching. Like…the problems are still there. They’re even worse than they were in 2020. Marching didn’t solve them, marching by itself is not going to solve them, but a lot of people were marching for a left cause (even if a lot of it was fucking lib shit), and then we stopped.

[–] HumanBehaviorByBjork@hexbear.net 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

they made a movie where you're played by wesley snipes and it owns

[–] duderium@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

I haven’t seen it, but I will watch it now.

[–] blakeus12@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

i can't really blame you at all. most progressive white people i've met start saying wild shit once they think you trust them enough.

[–] HumanBehaviorByBjork@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

i mean it doesn't make them less trustworthy than the average white person

[–] nohaybanda@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

Cause you have object permanence?

[–] OgdenTO@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

Yeah as a white person, don't believe anything I say. Please judge me and other white "leftists" by our actions. Look at what we actually do and care about, only then can you tell if we're communists or socialists or anarchists, or if we are just using the words and performing. I know real and fake white leftists - the good ones do lots of great organizing and the bad ones talk a lot and end up derailing plans.

[–] dkr567@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

All I know is when over half of these white "progressives" I met throughout my life in the west openly mock east and southeast asians and at the same time telling us that we are somehow the most racist group while also saying that they love and support the minorities to other non asian minorities, all that trust was immediately gone. Malcolm X's comment on liberals pretty much confirmed to me with regards to my experiences with them.

[–] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

East Asians seem to be left out of most “racial Justice” discussions in Western progressive circles. It’s always purely “black and brown” while leaving out various Asian groups that fit neither category.

[–] dkr567@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

It's quite astounding how they pick and choose being progressive as if they're picking out ice cream flavours instead of doing the normal thing of supporting everyone equally.

[–] sweeney@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Idk I try not to view people so suspiciously unless they've given me reason to. It's worked out alright so far.

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

unless they've given me reason to

Being white. Being white is a reason. Thanks!

[–] sweeney@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I don't judge people based on things they can't change

[–] frauddogg@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 7 months ago

Doesn't stop Anglos from judging the tone of my skin, the size of my lips, or the coarseness of my hair when they first see me. I'm just returning the favor at this point. The experiment is failed-- the only way we can coexist is if we govern ourselves under our own self-determination. The plantation empire will never be worthy of our labors; hasn't even started paying us back for all that they stole.

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Don't view it as a "judgement" as much as you should view it as reasonable skepticism. Is being "white" inherently a bad trait? Absolutely not, especially if you're looking at this very superficially. However, it's important to consider that "white" is more than just ancestry, and it's embedded in a social construct that has enabled oppression and racial strife for a significantly long time throughout history. This means that there is absolute validity in the truth that white people can be much more half-hearted in supporting leftist causes than POC because not being able to view things from a lens of intersectionality is absolutely a hindrance to leftist ideology.

Experience matters, and being white brings an experience of racial privilege that makes you blind to how bad the plight of POC can be. It's crucial to view this less as a "mean, rude, racist judgement 😡" and more as a "wake-up call and invitation to white people gaining awareness on how to be so much better".

To condense this matter down to "You're judging people by innate, immutable characteristics like race!" without taking into account the implications and intentions of such a sentiment is seeming willfully disingenuous.

[–] Ho_Chi_Chungus@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

However, it's important to consider that "white" is more than just ancestry, and it's embedded in a social construct that has enabled oppression and racial strife for a significantly long time throughout history. This means that there is absolute validity in the truth that white people can be much more half-hearted in supporting leftist causes than POC because not being able to view things from a lens of intersectionality is absolutely a hindrance to leftist ideology.

getting a lot out of the facts machine today

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

ngl i feel very similar about cis men. is this intersectionality? surprised-pika-messed-up

[–] AutomatedPossum@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Honestly wouldn't exclude trans men from that. I see that kind of verbage that specifically singles out cis men a lot in trans, lesbian and feminist spaces, i've talked and thought like that in the past as well and i've found that practically all transmascs that i know personally or that i at least regularly interact with online find it extremely othering and belittling when women pretend that trans dudes are somehow the better men, and it is a gender essentialist notion at its core. I mean, they openly call it transphobic, i'm just being diplomatic here.

Yes, transmascs have lived experience with misogyny in almost all cases, they can fall back on that experience while they settle into living in a masculine gender role fulltime, but being the better men everybody believes them to be by default takes work on their part. Many put in that work, but it's a pain in the ass. It isn't realistic to believe they will automatically keep in mind what it's like growing up as somebody who's viewed as a girl in a patriarchal society. And when i hear from the shit early-transition or poorly passing transmascs have to put up with, how often their masculinity is called into doubt, how hard they have to prove themselves, i absolutely find they do go through the exact kind of shit that produces fragile masculinity, toxic masculinity, or just tacit support of misogynist power structures in cis men. There's an entire propaganda apparatus out there specifically targetting men that struggle to look like gigachad-hd

And unfortunately, there's transmascs out there that are just awful, shitty people. Trans men are men. Criticizing men should always include them, and they need to do self crit like every other dude.

[–] frauddogg@lemmygrad.ml 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

And unfortunately, there’s transmascs out there that are just awful, shitty people.

Back before I cut off dating white men, I ended up with my heart dicked around by a transmasc the exact same way a cis white man had. Third time's the no-go, white men as partners got deaded regardless of what's in their pants. There's fundamentally no difference between the cognitive of a transmasc and that of a cismasc; especially when it's under Anglo socialization.

[–] grandepequeno@hexbear.net 0 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I don't know how else to say this but if this is real you sound like such a weird person, do you actually get anything done in the organization where you practice this or do you only organize (and talk) with people who don't pass as white?

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

^ Reminder that crackers are really easy to break

[–] grandepequeno@hexbear.net 0 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I'm honestly curious how this type of mindset actually works in practice, it's hard to see how it can be productive in a context where people of color are not a majority and you need to have people on your side so I was hoping you'd enlighten me, but if this is just internet stuff then whatever.

[–] TheaJo@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

no offense but you are kind of proving angels point

[–] grandepequeno@hexbear.net 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

What's their point exactly and how am I proving it?

[–] TheaJo@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

it's easy to see their point: we as white people are untrustworthy allies (not completely, but in a significant enough fraction to warrant defensive behaviors.) You seem to be questioning their decisions a lot, like you don't believe they are valid... it is in the interest of untrustworthy people to criticize anyone calling them out for their untrustworthiness

[–] grandepequeno@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Yeah sure that's a valid point, I might've read too much into what they said (and thought of people I've known irl) and came out with unfair assumptions, which is my b

[–] TheaJo@hexbear.net 2 points 7 months ago

see? there you have it! actual nice job self critting by the way. have a nice rest of your day comrade

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

I'm honestly curious how you expect me to assume good faith and then you start off your concern with "you sound like such a weird person" and not-so-subtle accusations of "not getting anything done". The effort to feign good faith didn't work. Give up.

[–] homhom9000@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

They mentioned still talking to white people just with caution.

[–] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 0 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You pay attention.

Don't trust our Yakubian tricknology

[–] booty@hexbear.net 1 points 7 months ago

I wish yakub jokes weren't made against the rules, nothing makes me laugh more consistently

rat-salute on the way down