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mom do be telling me that my skirts are too short 
it's not my fault that my thighs are too thiccc to not be appreciated 
faith is an incredible poster
Cw: Transphobia, ableism
I'm so excited to be living with other trans people. My ex was a lib, and was supportive in that way, but would often talk shit on other trans people. One of her friends came out as non-binary and she (a cis person) said people were just doing it for attention. Hated neopronouns too. She was also super into those fake disorder cringe groups. I've thought a lot about possibly being genderfluid or non-binary, but I never felt safe exploring that around her.
I hate your ex btw ✨
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This place was alwas a no go zone for me but something happened. I just posted about it in the regular mega but then realized like, wait, this is like. This is gender.
So uh, an odd thing happened. so disability services gave me this little tablet with a cartoon dog on it that helps give me remindrs and stuff. its honestly not that useful. but today it was giving like, a demographic survey.
and it asked me my gender and i frose? like ive never not confidently called myself a man lmao. even when i question my gender, its like "im basically 95% man". and somehow, through the process of freezing, i ended up saying im nonbinary. so that was wild idk.
i still think like "demiman" is like, the most accurate label but wow that was . i didnt expect to freeze like that
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I just read Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue
And
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I think I'm a masculine woman? Now that I'm a few years into my transition and I'm feeling comfortable in my skin, I realize I kind of like my broad shoulders and husky voice and the muscles I've grown from factory labor. But but I also really like wearing makeup and accessories and being ma'am'd and and my new name and ~stuff.~ I don't necessarily want to be androgynous, but I also don't hate it? It's kinda fun when people get confused.
So, yeah.
I think that's why I took "too long" to stop using the men's restroom. I never felt uncomfortable using a urinal.
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I check the modlog, I see 20,000 removed comments. I look, there is another cishet man dating thread.
My comrades, it seems a new purge may be upon us 
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When cis people think they can make certain trans jokes just because they consider themselves "allies". How about 
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I feel so fucking terrible for my best friend right now. She got denied HRT due to high blood pressure. She will only be prescribed them if a medical plan is created to bring it under control. She’s so torn up over it and I just wish I could make it all better for her. The gods truly are cruel sometimes. I can’t stop crying for her.
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I went out to a classy restaurant with my friend tonight. We proceeded to drag the classiness of the place into the bowels of hell cause that’s just who we are.
Bonus points! On the way out, I had a ciswoman clock me and give me the biggest look of disgust imaginable. It was in that moment that I was pleased that I could piss someone off that much be just existing.
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I am so pissed at myself. I went to a late night panel with my friend tonight. Another gorgeous trans girl sat at the table with us. We clearly clocked each other and got to talking. It was very clear that we were hitting it off super well but my sorry ass got super flustered and squandered the opportunity to get her info. Like fuck. I’m kicking myself so hard. I hope to see her again so I can do just that.
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This shit coming out about Pink News just reminds me of the long history of cissies throwing trans people under the bus (CW: transphobia). Fuck assimilationists.
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cw rape
___ my girlfriend was raped and broke up with me, we still talk every day i just feel so bad for her. idk how to cope. just been getting high. im high rn
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People on r/jazz clapping like seals because Kamala named dropped Davis and Coltrane and downvoting anyone who mentioned the genocide into oblivion.
Some freak went through my search history and was like “you are trans, so you should be a good little minority and vote for Kamala”
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I GOT MY EARS PIECED 
I've been telling myself that I was going to do so for like years at this point but it was always so far off thing in the future and I never made any concrete plans. Well this morning I thought to myself "you have to do it today or you will never do it" and I just decided on spot that fuck it today's the day. Overall it was such a fun experience, my roommate and I went and we just walked down the downtown afterwards
I've had such bad anxiety and agoraphobia my whole life and just the idea of doing something like this would have been too much like a couple months ago. My meds have really been helpful
I think I've been depressed my whole life. I'm not saying I've never had happy moments, but like after the moment is over the happiness fades and I just go back to being miserable, every day is filled with dread, I've never been able to really imagine the future. But like everything is different now, it's hard to even put into words the totality of it
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I'm in skirt gang again today 
this is weirdly comfy, I guess I'm just gonna wear skirts as a matter of course even when working on computers, who fuckin knows. Feelin chill.
Also at the behest of wifey I tried on some stockings, I did not expect these to be both comfy and cooling? Good meme.
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TSA and borderline SA discussion
I fly more often then I should, and ever since I transitioned, my genitals have been publicly groped after setting off the stupid fucking gender detector on the scanning machine, every single time. It's not a coincidence, it happened 100% of the times I've flown in the past 3 years and I have no doubt it will continue to. Its so fucking degrading to have a TSA wannabe piggie touch your junk (they really gotta make sure it's there) then give you a weird look when they feel it. LIKE IM THE WEIRDO WHEN YOUR THE ONE FEELING UP MY COCK YOU FREAK FUCK LADY. Anywyas, death to the TSA :D
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Getting targeted ads for girl stuff is simultaneously gender affirming and creepy
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ALEA IACTA EST
sometime this evening, my parents will finally know that they have a daughter
i knew this day would come one day but i was hoping it would be later than this
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[CW: dysphoria]
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People are only ever going to see me as a women 
Gender is a fuck
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😔
urge to talk to people and hang out, but cripling depression fuelled exhaustion
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Reading Feinberg and stoking my burning fury about the injustices inflicted upon trans people by shitty health care staff, but wondering what to do about it, and then Leslie herself says exactly what to do about it. Really thought of everything 
interesting quote, cw discussion of transphobia
"A very caring nurse recently told me she wished trans people would inform her of that fact right away. If she finds out later, she feels duped. And she believes it’s important for their care that she knows what their birth biology is.
To be blunt, it’s really not her business. Each trans patient must have the fundamental right to privacy. The question of patient self-revelation can’t be seen solely through a clinical lens. There are larger social issues. Maybe you feel you would treat this patient the same way once they came out to you. But when you put it in their chart, or mention it to the next staff member, the trans patient may be mistreated."
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Turns out I've lost around an inch of height on HRT. I used to be right in the middle of average height for men and women where I live, but now I'm way closer to the women's average than men's. Idk why exactly, I definitely didn't have height dysphoria from being just a little tall for a woman, but the change still makes me happy 
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Yesterday was quite possibly the worst birthday I've ever had in my life. I'm not going to get into it, but some pretty major things went pretty horribly badly and I'd prefer to never have a repeat of that day ever again.
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adhd autism
Yeah I know I can just go to the comm but I don't feel like it, trans mega is my safe warm blanket space
Okay anyway so I know I have ADHD for sure, like not only was it easy to self-diagnose but I got an official diagnosis from a psych so that's like all sorted.
Autism has been way harder to pin down. Like there are some criteria I resonate with like a lot, and there's some where it's the complete opposite. And maybe some a mix?
It doesn't help that ND people I've talked to about it have been 50/50 as well. "Yes you do" "Nah you don't" That's not helpful!
Someone said take the RAADS when you're not on meds or stimulants and then try it again when I'm on them. I thought it was silly but I took the test last night with no meds/stimulants and got a score right on the border, and then I took it again today after my meds kicked in and I got 10 points higher?
Chat does adderall cause autism 
Ok but seriously I do understand that ADHD can mask autism criteria so it does make sense that I'd relate that in a mindset where my ADHD stuff is reduced that I'd be able to see more of what's underneath but... it's so much on the edge that I'm still confused. Do I just have like the la croix of autism?
Where's the comprehensive AuDHD test when I need it?
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Anyone else live in a place with awful gender affirming care? It suucks so much, like god I hate Scandinavia😩
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boss just told me im probably going to get laid off :{
tfw everything falls apart
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did you guys know I have a gf?
she's real she just goes to a different country.
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I've noticed a couple people mentioning a desire to getting into more reading. I have some recommendations (and am always open to discussing books) that focus primarily on trans/intersex and queergender theory. I also think feministgender theory (absent specifically queer lenses) is an important backbone to queer gender theory, as early feminist writers describing the gender-class distinction paved the way for understanding queerness’s place in the gender-class distinction, but this list would be way too long then. Hit me up if you want some recommendations though. Some of these ethnographs rather than theory, or historical, or a bit more personal.
Let's start with the trans classics
Julia Serrano - Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity, which can be followed up with Excluded: Making Feminist and Queer Movements More Inclusive, and Sexed Up: How Society Sexualizes Us, and How We Can Fight Back, and Outspoken: A Decade of Transgender Activism and Trans Feminism
Emi Koyama - The Transfeminist Manifesto and Transfeminism: A Collection
Leslie Feinberg - Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink Or Blue, and Lavender and Red, and Transgender Warriors: Making History From Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman (a great read and interesting for its time, but be wary of accepting Feinberg's premise that contemporary concepts of identity can be broadly applied to cultural contexts across space and time)
Kate Bornstein - Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us and Gender Outlaws: the Next Generation
Riki Wilchins - Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender
Susan Stryker - My Words to Victor Frankenstein Above the Village of Chamounix: Performing Transgender Rage (which is a fantastic essay) and Transgender History: The Roots of Today's Revolution
Susan Stryker and Stephen Whittle (editors) - The Transgender Studies Reader and The Transgender Studies Reader 2 (this one is edited with Aren Aizura rather than Whittle)
Viviane K. Namaste - Invisible Lives : The Erasure of Transsexual and Transgendered People and Sex Change, Social Change: Reflections on Identity, Institutions, and Imperialism
Esther Newton - Mother Camp: Female Impersonators in America and Margaret Mead Made Me Gay: Personal Essays, Public Ideas and Cherry Grove, Fire Island: Sixty Years in America’s First Gay and Lesbian Town
And this one isn't so much a classic as it is essential reading for trans studies for Marxists:
Jules Joanne Gleeson and Elle O'Rourke (editors) - Transgender Marxism (I also recommend Gleeson’s essay Transition and Abolition: Notes on Marxism and Trans Politics)
And now for some less well-known trans theory:
Jay Prosser - Second Skins: The Body Narratives of Transsexuality
Joanne Meyerowitz - How Sex Changed: A History of Transsexuality in the United States
Angela Pattatuchi Aragón - Challenging Lesbian Norms: Intersex, Transgender, Intersectional, and Queer Perspectives
Rita Santos - Beyond Gender Binaries: The History of Trans, Intersex, and Third-Gender Individuals
Marjorie Garber - Vested Interests: Cross-dressing and Cultural Anxiety
Larry Nuttbrock (ed.) - Transgender Sex Work and Society
Andrea Abi-Karam, Kay Gabriel - We Want It All: An Anthology of Radical Trans Poetics (this is poems, more than theory, but so worth it)
Mark Thompson, Dorothy Allison, Guy Baldwin, Joseph W. Bean, Michael Bronski, Pat Califia, Jack Fritscher, Geoff Mains, Gayle Rubin – Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice
Hil Malatino - Side Affects: On Being Trans and Feeling Bad
Merrick Daniel Pilling - Queer and Trans Madness: Struggles for Social Justice
Morty Diamond, Julia Serano, Shawna Virago, Sassafras Lowrey, Silas Howard, Cooper Lee Bombardier – Trans/Love: Radical Sex, Love & Relationships Beyond the Gender Binary
And this is for intersex theory:
Hilary Malatino - Queer Embodiment: Monstrosity, Medical Violence, and Intersex Experience
Alice Domurat Dreger - Hermaphrodites and the Medical Invention of Sex
Anne Fausto-Sterling - Myths Of Gender: Biological Theories About Women And Men and Sex/Gender: Biology in a Social World and Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality
Catherine Harper - Intersex
Morgan Holmes - Critical Intersex
Nikoletta Pikramenou - Intersex Rights: Living Between Sexes
Julia Epstein, Kristina Straub - Body Guards: The Cultural Politics of Gender Ambiguity
David A. Rubin - Intersex Matters: Biomedical Embodiment, Gender Regulation, and Transnational Activism
Georgiann Davis - Contesting Intersex: The Dubious Diagnosis
Katrina Karkazis - Fixing Sex: Intersex, Medical Authority, and Lived Experience
Brandy L. Simula, J.E. Sumerau, Andrea Miller (editors) - Expanding the Rainbow: Exploring the Relationships of Bi+, Polyamorous, Kinky, Ace, Intersex, and Trans People
Elizabeth Reis - Bodies in Doubt: An American History of Intersex
Hida Vilori, Maria Nieto - The Spectrum of Sex: The Science of Male, Female, and Intersex
Stefan Horlacher (eds.) - Transgender and Intersex: Theoretical, Practical, and Artistic Perspectives
And this is queer theory more broadly:
Hilary Manette Klein - The Problematics of Heterosexuality: Marxism, Psychoanalysis, and Mother Nature
Holly Lewis - The Politics of Everybody: Feminism, Queer Theory, and Marxism at the Intersection
Gayle S. Rubin – Deviations: A Gayle Rubin Reader
Sara Ahmed - Queer Phenomenology: Orientations, Objects, Others
Judith Butler - Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity and Bodies That Matter: On The Discursive Limits of “Sex” and Undoing Gender
Andrew Parker, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick - Performativity and Performance
Also Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick - Epistemology of the Closet and Tendencies
Carla Freccero, Michèle Aina Barale, Jonathan Goldberg, Michael Moon, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick - Queer/Early/Modern
Monique Wittig - The Straight Mind And Other Essays
Mary McAuliffe (editor) - Sapphists and Sexologists: Histories of Sexualities
Chrysanthi Nigianni, Merl Storr - Deleuze and Queer Theory
Suzanne J. Kessler, Wendy McKenna – Gender: An Ethnomethodological Approach
Thomas Walter Laqueur - Making Sex, Body and Gender from the Greeks to Freud
And this is examining abolition from a trans perspective:
Joey L. Mogul, Andrea J. Ritchie, Kay Whitlock - Queer (In)Justice: The Criminalization of LGBT People in the United States
Dean Spade - Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law
Eric A. Stanley - Captive Genders: Trans Embodiment and the Prison Industrial Complex
Jasbir Puar - Terrorist Assemblages: Homonationalism in Queer Times
And this is for reading about queerness in non-American/English cultural contexts
Adnan Hossain - Beyond Emasculation: Pleasure and Power in the Making of hijra in Bangladesh and Badhai: Hijra-Khwaja Sira-Trans Performance Across Borders in South Asia (with Claire Pamment)
Xianyong Bai, Hans Tao-Ming Huang- Queer Politics and Sexual Modernity in Taiwan
Denise Tse-Shang Tang - Conditional Spaces: Hong Kong Lesbian Desires and Everyday Life
Elisabeth L. Engebretsen, William F. Schroeder, Hongwei Bao (editors) - Queer/Tongzhi China: New Perspectives on Research, Activism and Media Cultures
Eli Coleman, Chou Wah-Shan – Tongzhi: Politics of Same-Sex Eroticism in Chinese Societies
Howard Chiang (eds.) - Transgender China
Hongwei Bao - Queer China: Lesbian and Gay Literature and Visual Culture Under Postsocialism
Francisca Yuenki Lai - Maid to Queer: Asian Labor Migration and Female Same-Sex Desires
Don Kulick – Travesti: Sex, Gender, and Culture among Brazilian Transgendered Prostitutes
Gloria Anzaldua - Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza
Eunjung Kim - Curative Violence: Rehabilitating Disability, Gender, and Sexuality in Modern Korea
Hwasook Nam - Women in the Sky: Gender and Labor in the Making of Modern Korea
Fintan Walsh - Queer Performance and Contemporary Ireland: Dissent and Disorientation
Páraic Kerrigan - LGBTQ Visibility, Media and Sexuality in Ireland
Patrick R. Mullen - The Poor Bugger's Tool: Irish Modernism, Queer Labor, and Postcolonial History
Gul Ozyegin (ed.) - Gender and Sexuality in Muslim Cultures
Stephen O. Murray, Will Roscoe (editors) - Islamic Homosexualities: Culture, History, and Literature
Saed Atshan - Queer Palestine and the Empire of Critique
Sarah Schulman - Israel/Palestine and the Queer International
Stephen O. Murray, Will Roscoe (editors) - Boy-wives and Female Husbands: Studies in African Homosexualities
Will Roscoe - Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Genders in Native North America
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Was thinking back about my time since I started my transition. One of the people I organize(d) with definitely started treating me differently! He got so much worse at listening to me after I transitioned, like to an almost comical degree. Recently he's pretty much ghosted. Kinda hoping he stays gone, but way too many people still seem fine with him.
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Had a job interview yesterday, fucking finally. It was one of those online ones which kinda sucked, I would have just preferred to do it in person. Idk how I did, I hope I get it but I'm not holding my breath
Also got my wellbutrin dose upped, probably going to have another week-ish of mania but I hope it's worth it, I'm fucking tired of being depressed
Things are looking up
trans girl who develops a drinking problem because she heard bud light turns you into a woman
the less depressing/problematic version of this is trans girl who becomes vegan because she heard soy turns you into a woman and learned a lot of tofu recipes
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this type of mixed use, walkabale, urbanism would actually be illegal to build in many parts of the United States
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Broke: Gender - questioning
Woke: Gender - uncommitted
Bit idea: transfemme but she only ever wears jeans or pants.
(This was me until today)
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