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K (189?–?) Soviet pioneer. From Kazan, Tartarstan, USSR, K was diagnosed as a β€˜transvestite’ in 1937.

She was given permission by the People’s Court to wear female clothing, her identity papers were changed to her female name, and her name was removed from the military recruitment rolls.

She was featured in a 1957 gynaecology textbook.

M.G. Serdiukov. Sudebnaia ginekologiia I sudebnoi akusherstvo. Moscow: Meditsina 1957: 47-8.
Dan Healey. Homosexual Desire in Revolutionary Russia: The Regulation of Sexual and Gender Dissent. Chicago and London: The University of Chicago Press, 2001: fig 24.

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 18 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Update on the girl I'm kinda crushing on, I think I maybe messed up. I met her for coffee today, and at one point I was telling a story and she interjected just to tell me I'm very cute, so maybe that means she's interested in me too. But because I'm a loser I didn't know how to respond so I just looked down and smiled and kept yapping and now I'm worried that if she was flirting, she might think I'm disinterested or rude because I didn't reciprocate.

doggirl-sweat

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

lol obviously she's at least a little interested if she's stopping you mid-sentence to say you're cute. just send a message now like "hey it made me really happy when you called me cute earlier. i think you're cute too" or something

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[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 18 points 4 weeks ago (6 children)

I don't know why I hate that the dates in the title are written as fractions. It's fine, it's very clear that they're dates but I saw them and was instantly like blob-stabby meow-knife-trans

I don't understand why I have such strong feelings about such an extremely unimportant stylistic choice, but here we are!

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

kinda sadposting

Really fighting the i am fundamentally unwantable thoughts today wtf. Literally only because I felt awkward earlier while at a friends place kitty-cri and now im just holding back the flood of thoughts and ruminations and anxieties. I just want to be comfortable with my friends, but ive got too many maladaptive processes, and my maladaptive processes dont interface well with everyone elses doggirl-tears (i guess thats part of why their maladaptive now and not just adaptive anymore...).

spoiler entertaining my ruminations

I have a really deep seated belief that i am unwantable madeline-sadeline. That any expression of wanting to be around me is a lie, or intended to be deceptivemadeline-scared. I know its not true, but, well, under duress we regress lea-breakdown. And when im stressed or anxious or feel awkward my ability to counter that thought goes out the window. Like its not even a thought, its axiomatic edgeworth-smug. And i cant seem to do anything about it! Im aware of it, i try to counter it by ignoring it, by ignoring my discomfort, but it never goes away, and I dont know what steps to take to change that process.

People ask me about it sometimes, but i just inside-im-crying and tell them its nothing, im fine; I dont want to make my friends deal with my weird shit. Like, when im in these spaces I require an explicit "i want to spend time with you and will be sad if you leave meow-hug" (yes the hug is included in the quotes, i require hugs) in order to not feel bad guilty and shameful for existing near my friends. But they shouldnt have to say that; i should be able to understand "feel free to hang out if you want" actually is an invitation, and not a thinly veiled attempt to get me to leave.

Fuck my brain lea-dysphoric

Here is a portrait I drew of me and my brain:

badeline-ragelea-breakdown

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[–] Octagonprime@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (23 children)

I'm scared that I might not be cis and in denial. I tell myself it's just me feeling like I don't want to / can't live up to the standards of masculinity, that my genitals specifically don't give me dysphoria so I cant be trans , but maybe I'm just scared of adding more complications to my life of adding another form of discrimination I'll get to have , that I feel like I'll never find anyone and presenting myself another way will make it 100x harder . Why do I cry if I even begin to imagine myself looking feminine , I just want to close my eyes and have them not open.

[–] Luna@hexbear.net 15 points 4 weeks ago

my genitals specifically don't give me dysphoria so I cant be trans

Plenty of trans people do not feel gential dysphoria. Honestly, as TerminalEncounter said, it's about doing what makes you happy. It's not permanent either, if you don't like it, you can always go back. This includes most effects of HRT as well.

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (10 children)

dysphoriaI have come to realize that I am significantly more affected by dysphoria than I thought. I realized how much of a prison guyness feels like and how much I hate feeling like one. I feel like I'm always a little bit aware of what I look like and what I sound like and it makes human interaction feel so much harder.

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[–] grazing7264@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago

Trying a new thing maxwell-party

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[–] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago

gendered language musing? Idk workshopping, indirectly flirty"Good girl" flag-lesbian-pride

"Good boy" flag-gay-pride-mlm

"Good... bee?" 🐝flag-non-binary-pride flag-pan-pride

(idk I kinda think "bee" as short for enby sounds cute)

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (13 children)

Just got back from a show, it was the first show ive been to in years. It was so fun!!! Like 90% trans people, it was perfect ^^ felt actually comfy there, surrounded by beautiful trans people and listening to power violence ^^

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[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

Does anyone else find life kind of bittersweet?

storyIdk if it makes sense, but like I went clubbing with a friend of mine and we met up with some of his friends. I vibed really well with his one friend 'James' (not his real name) and my friend, James and I wound up going to get something to eat before heading to James' place where we watched some anime. My friend fell asleep and one thing lead to another and me and James did a lot of kissing, cuddling and heavy petting. The next day we met up too and the same thing happened, but before that we also went to get something to eat and then we cuddled while watching some anime. And he isn't pushy and doesn't seem to only want sex. Idk it felt like he was interested in something more.

And like it sounds great, but also so incredibly bittersweet as I knew this would never lead to more as he didn't know I was trans. It was a reminder of something I feel like I'll never have, and now I have to kill off whatever spark was there. Honestly I just bawled my eyes out because of this realization that any relationship developing organically seems basically impossible while trans. At best I'll get to wade through awful dating apps and in the end any partner I might find will have to know I'm trans which makes me sick. Idk it feels like cruel joke to have something great within reach, but then realizing it will never ever work out.

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

It finally fucking happened: a white hair in my brush πŸ˜–πŸ˜­

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (6 children)

So got these sour noodles at the dollar store, vegan as far as I can tell and they taste pretty great.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Had a dream where I went to sleep

The fuck does that mean??

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[–] iridaniotter@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (6 children)

Who wants to go Halloween costume shopping with me and by Halloween costume shopping I mean finding a single fucking good woman's outfit for regular wear cri

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

facial hair of days past

Oddly gender affirming teaching my transmasculine comrade how to do a wet shave for his face. Glad someone gets to use that knowledge know that I no longer need it. Wet shaving was one of the few rituals that I enjoyed when I had the facial hair, always felt so nice to whip up the warm foam and earn the smooth face. screm-pretty

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Being told saying that saying holding hands is hyperflush is a played out joke is disheartening. Who said I was joking kiryu-stare those are some of the best dreams I've had kiryu-pain

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago

First thing in the morning, show some trans comrade love.

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 4 weeks ago

I think I'm developing feelings for a man who's already in a relationship. Fuck

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 17 points 3 weeks ago (13 children)

Are all of the transes depressed in autumn or something?

We've been getting btfo by the news mega.

Unacceptable.

Someone start posting controversial takes to drive engagement.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

I’m definitely part of skirt gang now, ya’ll. trans-ferret Got so many compliments and some creepy old men staring at me, which i’ll still take as a win.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

Got some dark purple nail polish today, really looking forward to it. I've been wanting purple for a while now aubrey-happy

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[–] PopPrincess@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (8 children)

Will be seeing a cute guy I met recently again today, but I don't think he knows I'm trans, so it'll be the last time I see him. So yaa, quite sad about thatπŸ₯²

Somewhat positively though, I think I've narrowed down my future career goals, and my HRT dose was increased.

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (6 children)
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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

whining, dysphoriaShowering is awful, I hate being alone with my thoughts and horrible body. Being reminded of all the things I hate about it. The dysphoria, the scars, everything.

Also can't shave for shit. Not sure how I'm supposed to when I can't even see what I'm doing. The perfect way to ruin a good mood.

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[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!! People keep changing plans and its super overwhelming!!!!!!!! My fun family time has turned into me curling up and crying far away from everyone because the plans kept changing rapidly and everything was so confusing doggirl-tears

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

I'm at that point 2 weeks out from a laser session where the hair is falling out again mari-smug

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (6 children)
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[–] Lenins_Cat_Reincarnated@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

When I look at old pictures of myself I see a guy now, pretty cool stuff.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Well, we voted to reject the proposal. So, unless the government changes very rapidly... we voted to strike.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

The purple is just as pretty as I hoped lea-happy Its a little glittery too, feels amazing.

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 15 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

Talk of sex drive on estrogens, masturbationBefore I didn't like horniness on testosterone because of how often I felt the need to get off, and overall I think I'm some form of ace so that made it worse. On estrogen I rarely feel horney and its so nice. I can just go like 2 weeks without getting off and just be fine, and when I do get horny, I actually like it

bottom dysphoria, masturbationMain problem is I still get erections. Even if I just stimulate the tip I still get them, so maybe a vibrator will help me idk. Just having a dick and balls just annoys me, and having to see them if I want to have fun times is frustersting.

Also I still get random erections and it sucks

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[–] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 15 points 4 weeks ago

thinking about that home made pesto pasta I had the otther day again. damn that shit was so good. fresh basil just has such a smell and absolute powerful verdant look to it in pesto

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

no clue what we're going to do with our hair still >~< so complicated

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