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hi so i forgot to message the person who was next (sorry HelltakerHomosexual) so i'm just gonna talk about a thing i like

Shadow the Hedgehog is a character that appears in the Sonic the Hedgehog series. Characterized by his sharp wit and strong sense of purpose, Shadow is a recurrent arch-rival of Sonic the Hedgehog, whom he resembles and shares many abilities. He is a major supporter of trans people, as evidenced by his catchphrase, "Trans people are cool!"

^ this is all from the wiki btw

I like Shadow a lot. His first appearance in the series is in a game where him and Sonic are both fighting the government and destroying these multi-million dollar gunships. Sonic is doing it because he loves communism but Shadow is doing it because he has a blood feud against G.U.N., who are like the global government death squads because they killed this girl, Maria, who he was best friends with.

Maria basically had an incurable illness that Eggman's grandpa was trying to cure by creating an immortal lifeform, which is actually how Shadow was born. Also, Shadow has a copy of Maria's soul I guess? Seriously, look it up. I'm reading all this shit for the first time right now and that sounds kinda trans to me.

Anyway, she gets shot by the troops and despite Maria telling Shadow to be normal and happy, Eggman's grandpa is pissed off about it so he starts psyopping Shadow into wanting to kill everyone on Earth. Eggman's grandpa successfully does the psyop and locks Shadow away until Eggman finds and releases him.

With his newfound power, Shadow starts being evil and helping Eggman find the Chaos Emeralds because he sees him piss on the moon or something. This goes on for a while until he gets back on the space station and remembers what Maria said, deciding to finally be normal and happy.

He switches up, goes Hyper Shadow and helps Sonic defeat the Biolizard which is basically what it sounds like: a giant lizard who wears the space station like a little jacket and shoots lasers from his mouth. Also, that thing was the prototype Ultimate Lifeform before they decided on the optimal form of existence: a little bipedal anthro hedgehog.

So they beat this lizard up, I guess it dies and then the space station is hurtling toward the Earth. Shadow takes a Chaos Emerald and, with the help of Sonic, does one last Chaos Control on the space station, returning it to a stable altitude. Sonic finds himself back on the space station as he flies into the atmosphere. After this, a big semi-translucent Shadow appears on top of the Earth and everyone can see it.

Why would I lie about that? Here it is.

Anyway, a bunch of shit happens after that but I don't care about it. If someone else wants to talk about Shadow the Hedgehog (2005) feel free. What I really wrote this out to justify talking about is the moon in Sonic games. Like I said before, the moon gets pissed on and destroyed with the help of Shadow,

and then in the next game it's just fine but evil now(???)

and after THAT it's not evil anymore but it's fully intact:

What the fuck? Why? How? I watched it get blown up. Who put the moon back together? Anyway, we're getting in the weeds here. Welcome to the mega.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (18 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Hestia (11/25 - 12/1)
SwitchyWitchyandBitchy (12/2 - 12/8)
HelltakerHomosexual* (12/9 - 12/15)
GayTuckerCarlson* (12/16 - 12/22)
AshenWolf*  (12/23 - 12/29)
Eco* (12/30 - 1/5)
oscardejarjayes* (1/6 (The Darkest Day in Our Democracy.) - 1/12)

EstraDoll (3/2 - 3/8)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 26 points 1 month ago (8 children)
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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (8 children)

diagnosed with the world's biggest sad and lonely right now agony-deep

EDIT: i posted this and got evicted like 30 minutes later LMAO

cuddle jesus christ i hate landlords, sending so much love to you comrade

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[–] Azarova@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

I found a 114 year old case for t4t in a translated copy of Die Transvestiten, translated by Michael Lombardi-Nash. From a so-called 'John O.' from San Francisco, labeled Case 13, who describes herself as "...physically a man, mentally a woman",

Technically misgendering, though it is the language of the time

"If ever there is a total freedom of dress, then the effeminate people will connect with female society, just as the man-women will befriend the so-called stronger sex. When there is no longer a dress code, the woman-man will grow into the feminine and be attracted by the man-woman, because by nature both feel right for each other, he as a woman and she as a man, and they will live as happily together as any normal married couple of today.
[...]
"But if two get married, one of whom is a woman-man and one a man-woman, then he is the feminine and she is the masculine part, and they will be happy; for, no matter what the sex is, emotionally they still are, indeed, opposite sexes, just as nature made them."

Same person also makes a case for letting trans kids self identify and transition (socially, as medical transition was yet to come),

Descriptions of transphobia, and technically misgendering

"I am convinced that when a boy becomes 8 or 10 years of age and shows preference for girls' clothing, girls' work, and girls' games, then the mother, for the benefit of the child, should let him have free choice. The boy is, then, namely, only sexually a male, but mentally a female, and when such children are raise according to their feelings, then they are so much happier than when people punish them, mock them, or even abuse them to produce boyishness.
"But, if he is raised as a girl, then he will lose all doubt and wil become more stable in his girlishness, so that he then never will ever want to become a man; if he is forced to behave as a boy, then he will feel destroyed and will yearn for the time when he can make a living as a maid or something like that.
[...]
"I will agree that up to the fifth year, perhaps, many children can still be raised in their sex, but then mostly not, and if the girlish characteristics appear much stronger than the boyish ones, then it is much better for the child to be raise according to its mental sex."

Again, this was published 114 years ago, in 1910. hirschfeld

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

spoilerThe books they were burning in nazi Germany were transgender research

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

If ever there is a total freedom of dress

Broke freedom of press vs woke freedom of dress

[–] wenox@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago

Turkey just banned the sale of most estrogens and blockers without prescription the-pigs

[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Finally sharing about that hitler-detector experience I had at work yesterday,

CW: Nuclear transphobia, dysphoria (dysphoria isn't the main focus, but this situation has made dysphoria manifest)

So I got asked to stop using the women's restroom at work yesterday. This is already transphobic, but with where I live I was expecting this honestly. I'm also not very far in my transition so wearing typical work clothes just makes me look like a dude with long hair. Really getting depressed by those twink death memes I've seen rn because I was so much cuter when I came out.

Anyways, the point where it goes from uncomfortable but bearable to pissing me off to the absolute extreme is when the manager said "We have minors that work here so we have certain liabilities". I straight up responded saying "You just implied that I'm a threat around minors and I don't appreciate that". Instantly backpedaled and gave all the normal lib platitudes. I'm still fucking pissed, because why else mention the minors in that conversation? Unless you think I'm unsafe around minors, you wouldn't mention minors. I don't even work with the minors of the restaurant, they're all in school while I work the mornings on mostly weekdays.

I also know that certain staff don't like me now based off this, because it was some staff complaining. I'm gonna start being the person I want to be at work, and I'll just fucking deal with it. I'm going to lose my shit at these people next time they're blocking my station doing jack shit because I know it was them. They won't even look at me. I was super nice this whole time, but I'm done being nice to people that secretly hate me all while depending on my labor.

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago

spoiler

"We have minors that work here so we have certain liabilities".

Death to cis

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[–] Ocommie63@lemmygrad.ml 24 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Just took me first hormone dose

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

applied for a cleaning job at my local council's office and the form asked for me to fill out my entire employment history, give a personal statement and two references lmfao

fuck off it's a fucking cleaning job who's gonna bother with this form for a 15 hour a week job

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[–] Yukiko@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago

Been a bit lonely since I left my husband a while ago. It unfortunately had to happen. Hoping to find someone someday to fill that hole. Literally and figuratively.

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago (4 children)

okay, i have decided to say something:

bragging about feelings i guessi have been so happy these past few weeks. i'm back in letter writing mode and it's because of one very special person. it is genuinely so fulfilling to have something like a mind-meld with someone who sees me so clearly and respects me so deeply. i didn't expect this at all and i feel so so lucky to have it. lol i'm pretty sure fae is going to read this at some point actually... it makes me happy to imagine that. πŸ’œπŸŒΉ

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[–] Bureaucrat@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago

I'm a dog girl woof woof

[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Wow, I had to just deal with some wildly transphobic shit at work and even worse it made me miss my public transit ride. I am so fucking done with today

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (2 children)

wake up

drive 2 hours round trip to build an axe with another trans woman

drive home feeling dysphoric as all fuck

get home with a bottle of liquor

landlord pulls you aside with a fucking eviction notice out of the blue and a flimsy pretext for it

hop on the voice chat with the gamers

you can hear your voice played back to you over someone else's mic, it's noticably improved despite not training, it feels really reaffirming

get piss drunk, then angry about your alcoholism, then get possessed by the spirit of a 19th century abolitionist and go off on a drunken screed against the evils of alcohol

black out, wake up the next morning

day in the life of a hot girl doing hot girl shit

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

My wife and me a year ago:

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[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago

Can anyone lend me their credit card number, name, exp date and CVV? There's a neat trick I wanna try catgirl-happy

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago (15 children)

Instead of dreaming about hexbear the website, I now dream about specific people on bearsite. You're not allowed to know who, though.

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 21 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

cw: slurs in silly gaming momentstransphobes don't get to call me a tr*nny if they can't even clutch the game winning round shrug-outta-hecks

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

kinda sadJust had to cry for a while about the realisation that I’ve been living a lie trying to be a girl/woman and how exhausting and just sad that is. And also how sad it is that there’s a non trivial amount of people that would want me to continue living this lie.

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[–] anonochronomus@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I finally ordered some trans socks and bralettes! I'm a v excited girl. Thinking above getting a skirt for a cute schoolgirl type outfit but idk. I've been feeling much more fem latelyz especially when looking in the mirror. It's nice to feel good.

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

HRT consult is this afternoon!

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (5 children)

HRT is amazing! I used to never wear anything short sleeved or thin because I was too dysphoric! Now I never wear anything short sleeved or thin because estrogen makes everything too fucking cold

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

/jsarah mcbride could consider detransitioning too since that would also make working with both sides of the aisle easier β˜οΈπŸ€“

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

i was talking with my voice therapist today and he was talking about one client he had who, on the day she finally realized she was a trans girl, scheduled an HRT appointment, laser hair removal appointment, AND a professional voice therapist.

I know nothing else about this girl but I absolutely love her and she's fucking great

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago

I know only dweebs and losers use Goodreads now, but I was bitching to my better half about how Goodreads doesn't have seperate gender and pronoun settings.

So I went and checked myself, and sure enough Goodreads now has this. Its gender settings are "male", catgirl-disgust "female" catgirl-salute and "Custom".

I now have a custom gender catgirl-peace I didn't set any cool pronouns but I did enter my gender as something rude with "dyke" in it, which rules.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (7 children)

weird thing to harp on about but I really want to see more fictional depictions of trans people that show them not really passing. Like, I kind of want to see a video game featuring a trans woman with kind of a clockable face and not well trained voice (And, I shouldn't have to state: isn't treated as a punchline or abnormal for it). Give me more blunt, realistic depictions of trans people, dammit

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

CW: Liberal cowardice, reddit.Looks like the main trans reddit-logo is locking or removing any criticism of Sarah McBride. Fuckers.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

time really is moving a lot slower now that I'm actually enjoying life. I was talking with some friends about I Saw The TV Glow and just remembered that it was released this year and not last year even though it feels like it might as well have came out two years ago from all I remember

God, at the start of this year I really did think that I was a cis guy, didn't I?

fuck, how time changes...

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago

dysphoriaI just want to feel like a girl. I bought a really cute hat and gloves and wore them with a sweater I got a few weeks ago and I felt adorable and I loved it. But it's almost like the more comfortable I get with doing more and more fem things the more impatient I get, and the sadder I get that this is such a long process. And when I take the stuff off I get hit with this "oh shit yeah that's right I have a guy body." I don't want to have a guy body.

The days where I feel so happy to be trans are usually followed by evenings where I wish I was cis. Like a sugar crash but for gender feelings.

In related news I've realized I could never turn my back on being trans. At the beginning of this journey one of the only things giving me the confidence to keep going was the realization that I could always just not be trans if I found it wasn't for me. Fuuuuck that at this point it's clear that if I ever try to be cis again it would destroy me.

[–] Yor@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (8 children)
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[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] rtstragedy@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

unrestrained braggingsometimes when I'm feeling like someone matters to me I copy down the nice things they say into a document so if I'm ever worrying about whether they suddenly hate me or not I can reference that document to remind myself

this is turning into a bit of a problem because one of them is getting really long... or maybe this is actually not a problem and is in fact the best thing ever? no, no, it's the best thing ever

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (2 children)

transphobiaNews media in my country since trump won has been so bad. Apparently he won because it's so difficult to be a "normal" guy nowadays and no one listens to them (lmao) and everyone is tired of woke. So many libs having a mask off moment where they're going actually everyone dislikes trans people and if we continue to pretend to be nice to you it'll cost us the election.

This isn't really reflected in the attitudes of people I meet, which makes me think it's mostly a media thing appealing to old, middle-class boomers, but it still makes me want to go into perma stealth.

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I intentionally skipped out so I’m only finding out now but they had a Harry Potter themed event at work yesterday cringe

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (3 children)

sicko-yes the one voice therapist in my area that takes my insurance got back to me

sicko-speeeeen they can get me in for a first appointment tomorrow

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[–] Ivysaur@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I did a lot of voice training for many years to get to where I am now, where people tell me even my lowest-effort cadence still passes to the average ear, but even after all of that I find myself never using it in good company anyway. It is exhausting and frankly uncomfortable for me to maintain for long stretches of constant speaking; we're talking a whole day would give me a hoarse throat for most of the next day. I appreciate being able to do it as both a fun novelty in the company of some and also as a practical matter of safety in the company of others... but I have nothing but respect for people who just say "fuck this" and don't bother. Massive, massive respect.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (4 children)

getting ads for PREP and then getting sad because i have no romantic or sexual partners ever cri

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Just thinking about the time I was first making my lemmygrad account and they asked me what my thoughts were on trans people or something, and probably what they were wanting is some 1-2 sentence "yeah trans people are cool and based" but I couldn't stop myself from hitting them with a several paragraph long rant about how in my ideal world gender wouldn't exist because it's kind of a prison, and that trans people are not only hella awesome, but understanding their lived experiences and perspectives on gender is something everyone should strive for.

Who could have known I would eventually be sitting here with a cute lil [she/her] sitting next to my username?

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (5 children)

i'm so fucking tired of being single but i have no idea how to manage the dreaded dating apps as a trans girl. anyone got any good apps/online dating tips for a bi trans girl unsure about what gender she feels like dating more?

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[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

there's a distressing amount of people under Rage Against Machine songs on Youtube going "Well time to play this song again for the next four years."

like....just fuck off from life please

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (8 children)

I was curious about the major themes I yap about in my sessions and was shocked to find "longing for a connection" be one of em. The other ones made sense to me. But longing for a connection... I thought I was coming across as independent and aloof and maybe more avoidant, this feels so weird. I talked to my mom about it, she said "no that makes sense." Talk to my friends about it, "no it tracks." Well what the hell?!? Here I am trying to push this down and not even aware of it, thinking I'm building up this protective armor but meanwhile I'm coming across as some squishy wounded person with the emotional equivalent of an open sore???

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[–] anonochronomus@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

My gf is so warm aubrey-happy

My gf is so warm aubrey-pain

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (9 children)

oops spilled the gay juice you're all gay now

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago (5 children)

weird dream nsfw CW SADreamt I dude groped me by grabbing my boob, I flexed my pec so hard I nearly broke his hand. I've no clue what this means other than I'm powerful

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