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Hello everyone! Hestia here with a new Megathread! Years ago, before I transitioned and when I was still in college I took an anthropology class. My favorite part of the class was when we were covering different gender customs across the globe and got to make a report on one of them. I can't remember exactly which one I chose for that project, but what I do remember is a map with different pins scattered on it with various forms of gender-queerness. I decided to track it down and share it with you folks!

https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?ll=8.016975588774075%2C64.4248907814756&z=2&mid=1zDWxhBN5aOofwpE-FkZWQsiFDlE

Edit: you have to open this in a browser, if you're on a phone it will automatically try to open it in Google maps and won't bring up the info.

This map provides a brief summary of these genders, but does not go in depth. If you find any you're interested in, feel free to do some further research and share your findings here. I'll pin a comment to this post you can attach them. I'm going to share a couple that I found interesting and decided to look further into myself, both of them are non-binary and native american in origin.

The first one I want to talk about is the Winkte, which is a third gender role that was particulatly notable in the Lakota tribe The Winkte are seen as half-men, half-women, and considered sacred. They are typically AMAB and historically have served unique roles in matters of romance and matchmaking and often served as intermediaries for prospecting couples and their families. They also participated in war parties, functioning primarily as witnesses to battle and as doctors to care for the injured. They were also seen as seers, able to forsee paths to victory.

https://www.sdpb.org/blogs/arts-and-culture/the-winkte-and-the-hundred-in-hand/

This next one I'm going to talk about seems mostly local to the Zuni people called the "Lhamana" and I find the Zuni culture to be particularly fascinating, even just doing a cursory glance at it.

Gender roles were well defined in Zuni culture, but the Zuni also valued the concept of a "middle" as it represented stability. This originates from their creation myth, which I won't go in detail here because I don't feel qualified to summarize it, but it's in the link down below.

The Zuni culture is pretty neat and they don't refer to gender when talking about children. They believed that gender wasn't an inborn trait but something you acquired as you approached puberty. I wish this was the western approach, but alas.

As children approach puberty they begin to differentiate through different hair styles or clothing choices. AFAB Lhamana would grind corn and make a bowl of stew when they get their first period. There's probably some cultural significance to this, but I'm not going to do a deep dive on it right now. AMAB Lhamana would start to wear dresses once they hit puberty and start performing women's work. Both AMAB and AFAB Lhamana were allowed to switch between male and female gender roles as they pleased.

https://owlcation.com/social-sciences/The-Middle-Gender-in-Zuni-Religion

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago (2 children)

I hate this. I like to tweeze out the few dark facial hairs that survived laser, but now they're at the stage where they're visible black dots but not long enough to pull out yet doggirl-growl

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago (6 children)
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[–] Hime@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago

I did a module on social anthro and women's history and it covered similar bits. Best part of uni and it was only a side module.

My doctor: get your cholesterol under control and then we can raise your dose

Okay but I'm too depressed to have be able to stick with a diet can we just try increasing the estrogen and manage everything from there?

I unilaterally decided to up my dose my just taking more. Only up to the minimum recommended dose for two weeks now I think. I haven't felt better in ages and finding the motivation to eat healthy, get exercise, and socialize, has never been greater. We really need to drill into the medical community how important HRT is and to get up to an effective dose asap. Maybe it's a placebo but it feels real and the effects are real so w/e.

[–] Huldra@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago

Anyone know any good spaces or accounts that talk about classical tailoring type shit for transfem people, like sports coats, dorky scarves/ascots, non-denim trousers type shit?

Most of what I find just casually searching is heavily geared towards transmasc people instead, and a lot of transfem fashion tends to lean either very feminine alt or harder butch.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

looking in the mirror and seeing a visibly fucked up clocky trans girl, which is fair because i am a visibly fucked up clocky trans girl

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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago (3 children)

okay. with the encouragement of multiple people, i decided to say something:

pee peewait, fuck! no!

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 6 months ago (2 children)

put together an IMPECCABLE fit today and am so sad that i can't post it here

[–] Hestia@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

Well I can't see it but I know you look damn good in it regardless doggirl-thumbsup

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[–] WalrusDragonOnABike 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Been trying to lose weight for the past month (lost about 10-15lbs), so didn't expect much boob growth as a result of limited calories, but noticed this morning I have stretch marks above one of them. So I guess they are? Yesterday was a bit of a cheat day, so maybe all the extra calories just went there? Far from the first cheat day during that month though.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

Yeah, estrogen is a cheat code. It's telling your body to cut body fat in certain places and to pile it on in others. So even if you're losing weight - it's gonna keep redistributing

[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (9 children)

I actually have free time again, what a concept! So, I've returned to creating character portraits. I want to compare two I don't believe I've shown on here. The first uses the older software, and the second one the newer software. The second one also meets the 16-color requirement, while the first does not. There's also a pixel on each that needs fixing. Other than that, which one do you all think looks better?

Also adding a bonus one, made with the newer software

Bonus round 2: Luna "Castro" redone

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)
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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (6 children)

Currently very jealous of those who are part of a gestalt consciousness.

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

bright sideMy grandfather has started calling me sweetie catgirl-heart, I love him so much.

dark side CW: transphobiaMy sister has started taking jabs at my transness catgirl-cry. She's usually very nice, and very accepting, but when she gets angry, she gets really angry. None of it's explicit, but it's things like getting mad at me for wanting to shave, or using the wrong pronouns before correcting herself in such a passive-aggressive way, almost like it's not worth her effort in that moment. I haven't even told her that I'm okay with they/them again, but I can feel the emotion in the way she said it.

She's also started becoming very verbally abusive, more than she was before. She started by referring to me as "lesbian" in a sort of fake-angry way, which was affirming, and we both understood that she wasn't really angry. That turned into being called "bitch", sometimes in a not so fake angry way. The fake anger has made way for real anger a lot of the time, and I'm worried I've sort of encouraged a bad sort of behavior. Not to mention she gets very physical sometimes, I'll probably need to try setting some concrete boundaries. She can be very intimidating...

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

after going through the record of "times I've got ferally horny", I'm starting to think that it isn't PMS related, I'm just a terminally horny bitch

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

A while ago, I had been flirting with a girl for a few months. We finally got to meet up about a year ago. I felt all my attraction drain out of me when she said she 20 years old. I'm so sorry but you're so, so fucking young.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (15 children)

slightly better-formed whiningThe more I go on the more I am convinced that taking a monthlong sabbatical from life (almost my entire life is queers in the computer) broke something catastrophically in my brain. I am now pretty sure that leaving everyone and everything for longer than like, two days was a huge mistake.

I don't seem to be real normal about it anymore, which might be due to the realisation that talkin' to people is both something I need else my sense of self will melt, (no I don't know why) and a difficult tiring spoon-loss activity. Idk, but it seems like I'm not real capable of thinking about social matters without bursting into tears anymore. What even is wrong with me? badeline-concern

It's possibly true that being on the receiving end of a landleech rentdue notice has ended my ability to relax, which, sucks if true. The chronic pain bs is definitely cutting into my spoon supply. But more broadly it feels like what small scraps of emotional regulation I had just disappeared. My journal entries all look like Nevada paragraphs, and while your Ash will usually sprinkle in Nevada-esque embellishments because the orange book is her entire personality, if she starts writing entire paragraphs of weird dejected overly emotional snarky bullshit, that may be indicative of a problem! catgirl-sorry

It could be withdrawal from a single 37.5mg tab of tramadol causing this too, which I am having muscle twitches and shit, but Idk if "bawling your eyes out at the slightest provocation" is a tram withdrawal thing, it's been like four days or so. If yes I hate it.

I'm also bad at time management, I am told, which is true because I have some kind of brain issue where I haven't been reading Psycho Nymph Exile enough. Mostly making time for reading takes effort, and also bending my brain around weird things takes effort :3 so it's been a few days and I need to YELL AT MYSELF to read gay slop.

TL;DR my feet hurt I wish I had spoons! catgirl-flop

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

Think I had the worst instance of cat steps on chest this morning. I can still somewhat feel it, and it's been over 12 hours. Thanks Lenore catgirl-huh

[–] Josephine_Spiro@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

Do they make shark plushies that are like 6 feet long? Can't find any on aliexpress

[–] iridaniotter@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Ok I'm going clothes shopping for real this time

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[–] sweet_pecan@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

i love learning about anthropology, i dont do it enough

[–] buh@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

looking at family photos from when I was like 3-4 and I'm just angery in all of them agony

[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (7 children)

Pikachu is a dumb rat and Eevee should have been the mascot

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[–] whatnots@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (8 children)

cw: needles/blood/negativei keep botching my t shot and it's been hurting more every time i work up the will to do it and i'm so frustrated. i don't know what's changed cause i've been doing my own injections for almost a decade now so i feel like i should kinda know what i'm doing?

like maybe the method i was shown is just out of date or i forgot how to do it correctly or maybe i'm just too fucking tense but it didn't used to hurt and bleed this much and i'm sick of it!!! wtf

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)
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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (10 children)

cw fetishization of trans people

omfg does anyone remember the old trans cuties threads on /r/cth? noooo screm

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Me 5 months ago: "Holy shit I have tits" madeline-shock

Me today: "Holy shit I have tits" madeline-shock

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)

weird body image stuff IdkI was staring at myself in the mirror again--I spend so much fucking time looking at my reflection lmao--and there are obvious details that have changed if you look. I put on some weight, my face has thinned out (which was weird to see in my health card photos, but rules) and all that.

But the overall picture is kind of the same as when I was 18, despite that? You can still see my ribs, I still have noodle arms, I haven't needed to buy a cup size up or anything. My proportiins are surprisingly similar.

It's weird, I literally do not know how to feel. All the big exciting changes seem to have happened in like, the first year or two. And yet clearly all the barely-visible little tweaks and whatever made the actual difference, cuz I do not get misgendered anymore, lmao.

Recently I have been feeling like my body's been in stasis for a decade which is a WEIRD WEIRD feeling. Maybe that's why new fluffy hair on my forearms and calves weirded me out so much, because I haven't seen a major change since years ago? Maybe I will get incredibly fucked up when I develop wrinkles, lol

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[–] Tomboymoder@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Used the ladies room for the third time, it’s always so anxiety inducing.

I almost would rather take my chances with whatever could happen in the men’s room than potentially being labeled a creep or a predator.

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[–] WittyProfileName2@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago

Spent all week going pharmacy to pharmacy only to find none of them have oestrogel in stock. "They went thataway"-ass prescription.

I've been off HRT for a week at this point doomer and there's no telling when I'll actually get any.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 14 points 6 months ago (1 children)

playing fun trans femme games like: intentionally changing your pace as you go up or down stairs to make your tits jiggle

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[–] AshenWolf@hexbear.net 13 points 6 months ago

My sisters BF came over, ans we starting talking about history and geopolitics. He reminds me of how I was back in my radlib days. It hurt my head to have that discussion πŸ˜–

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