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Made this one somewhat last minute, but here goes- my reccomendations for this week are a yuri "mystery" VN that's near and dear to my heart (that goes into processing grief) though it's been a while since I last played it, and a cute and sloppy (not bad sloppy) manga about crossdressing (and if you ask me is honestly at least kinda genderfuckery).

I figured I'd also add BonnieBugsy's "Ranma Lazuli" fanfic series (available on Ao3) to make it a triple feature because why the hell not. The two fics I can recommend (not having completed the other large fic yet though I'm sure it would deserve equal recommendation) are pretty near and dear to me as well.

CONTENT WARNINGSSeaBed: processing grief Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy: some chapters, particularly the extras, can be particularly suggestive/R18+ Ranma Lazuli: for the two fanfics specifically I'm discussing, "Skies of Blue, Red Roses Too" covers dysphoria and abusive family circumstances, with the premise of the titular Ranma escaping these and finding a place where she can be and grow into herself. "I of the Storm," in contrast, deals with the abusive and unhealthy dynamics of that "place where nothing ever gets better" from the perspective of someone still living within it- Akane- who herself, also has to deal with her anger and the consequences of (being a victim, but also perpetrator of) abuse, apathy, and past mistakes, while moving past that environment herself.

Premise and things I liked about (SeaBed)Sachiko and Takako were childhood friends and lovers, but unknown circumstances tore them apart. Now they have to piece together the puzzle, as Sachiko keeps hallucinating about Takako, and Takako deals with memory issues of her own.

Personally, Seabed can come across as a bit of a slog (but in a good way- and in a way appropriate to the themes of grief, of mental processing and memory issues, etc). And it can be very heavy. I played it during a time when I was dealing with grief among other things myself and I loved it- I intend to play it again someday (ideally soon), but needless to say it won't be for everyone.

Premise and things I liked about (Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy)Admittedly, this is just comfy, queer (IMO), somewhat suggestive (YMMV, if it were just up to me I'd not even consider it NSFW but it's definitely toeing a line and considering cultural and even circumstantial differences of different online spaces- well yea) and sappy light-hearted romance. Iori is a crossdressing boy(? very eggy if you ask me), and Hazuki is a handsome girl. Needless to say gender is a fuck.

The extra chapters (generally noticeable as something like "chapter 23.5" instead of being an outright "chapter 23" for instance) can be even moreso questionably/maybe "NSFW/18+" (though if you ask me that's all "western puritanism and backwardness/regressiveness" which they then infected many other parts of the world with)

Premise and things I liked about (BonnieBugsy's 'Ranma Lazuli' fanfic series)The two "Ranma Lazuli" fics I can recommend (the others I either haven't read yet or are very short) are both what I would describe as "coming of age/graduation(?)" plots, wherein Ranma moves from her abusive, overwhelming, demanding upbringing to the welcoming and progressive Beach City from Steven Universe (no knowledge of either series is necessary IMO to enjoy these fics, that said) and is finally able to develop within such a healthier environment, and Akane comes to terms with and breaks free of the fallout and that unhealthy environment in her own way, in her own separate life.

Both fics, I feel, correlate with my own defining experiences on many levels- whether it be Ranma's growth and the liberating feeling of finding a positive, comfy space and escaping the small, shitty, abusive world she was raised in prior, or in Akane's own growth and rejection of that same small world, as well as the permanence of one's actions having come from and having been a part of what made that world so small and unhealthy to begin with, and growing past that and coming to terms with it.


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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 5 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

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[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 33 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

So, my gal pal dug up this lesbian magazine from Weimar era Germany called Die Freundin ("the girl friend" or "the gal pal"). And it turns out it was trans inclusive and had articles written by trans women advocating for their liberation. The classified section had ads were women were looking for maid training or a puppygirl.

This was published in 1926.

THEY TOOK THIS FROM YOU

[–] DogGirl@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Us puppygirls have always existed doggirl-shock

[–] AcidSmiley@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago

Not just that, you have also always been good girls

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

Oh, of course conservatives temporarily banned it under the guise of protecting children even before the Nazis took over. Some things never change, huh?

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 24 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Trans megas are such a wholesome window into the lives of people who aren’t very different from me. I’ve been socially isolated most of my life and have serious issues with not feeling connected to people, so reading updates about people’s lives like this is very helpful and makes me feel at least a little more connected to others. Just wanted to say thanks for that.

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[–] Angel@hexbear.net 23 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Got invited to the final stage of the interview for the trans clinic job (it's because of woke and DEI obviously)

This interview is with the person who'd actually be my boss, but I already interviewed the person who serves as her boss specifically.

Let's hope this goes well 😬

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

Good luck!!

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (8 children)

Sometimes people joke about trans affirming misogyny and I had that happen to me today and it still fucking sucked.

I was talking to someone in a professional capacity where at the barest minimum I was an equal peer in the field, and in some areas probably more experienced and essentially a guest presenting on my specific subject matter.

And I'm thinking "why is this old guy being so condescending, disrespectful and just outright critical? This has never happened before...oh...fuck you"

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[–] kristina@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

It's me, your mom. Don't forget to take your meds, sit up straight, eat your breakfast, stay hydrated, and brush your hair stalin-approval

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

hahah whoopsie. i might have accidentally gave some signals i didn't mean to to a friend of mine i'm not into and i think she just asked me out blob-no-thoughts hahaha oh fuck

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

I'm sorry but I can't help but find it hilarious that a girl asked you out after you just made that post about how much you like men susie-laugh

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

i mean i'm still very much bi

but also FUCKING RIGHT????

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[–] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (13 children)

This is a super dumb question but does anyone know when I’m β€˜allowed’ to start using he/they pronouns? Literally I have thought about using them solely out of a sense of curiosity and how I mesh with it, and I am not dysphoric about being a man.

Recently I met this masc leaning non-binary person I really vibe with and I can’t help but think β€œmaybe I might have he/they as a better fit” but I don’t want to overstep any boundaries.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

I'll refer to you with they right now if you want

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[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

A friend who I only hung out with when around my other, closer, friends is crashing out over me because I'm a "tankie" and because of a 6 year age gap with my new partner (proof that I am a goomer). In reality. Not online. This shit can't be real... Please God, destroy twitter. I'm begging you.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

been stuck with this omnipresent anxiety over the last several months that something unimaginably bad is going to happen very soon now and I don't know what but I can't shake it

something bad and something global. idk what. national being trans ban? massive disease outbreak that makes covid look like the sniffles? super deadly heat wave? idk what but something very bad is going to happen very soon that will ruin or end my life and idk what anymore

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Mfw I see the trans girlies sad posting:

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

MFW when I see trans girls horny posting

spoiler

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[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)
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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago

It kinda crept up on me since it's probably a change that's happened over many months, but my waist is kinda snatched now. Last spring I didn't like the idea of wearing anything cropped because I thought it made me look a bit boxy and shapeless, but I've gone from disliking it to becoming more ambivalent last fall, and now I'm at a point where I think shorter tops look great on me cat-trans Estrogen my beloved.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I wish my existence wasn’t seen as an act of aggression against women madeline-sadeline

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I know what you mean, especially with the news and shit.

For what it's worth, hegemonic patriarchy has a very specific view of Femininity. It's very white, it's tied to a specific body type, it's tied to all of our oppression as women. Some women practice lateral violence in the hopes that by fitting in to that system of oppression that they'll have a position of security in that hierarchy. Some just have internalized misogyny, some really are just haters and haven't done any self reflection about "We CaN aLwAyS tElL" also applies to all the ways they fail to achieve hegemonic feminity- which is intentionally (for a vague hand wavey sense of intention lol) impossible to actually achieve

Some of these women are threatened by lesbians, by tom boys, by butch, by farm girl cis women who don't have time for lipstick or a husband after the last one died, some are threatened by women who either don't have children by choice or can't, etc. The list goes on, uniting all of those people with us in an understanding of inclusive and liberatory feminism threatens systems of control including some women who are at those controls

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Some of these women are threatened by lesbians, by tom boys, by butch, by farm girl cis women who don't have time for lipstick or a husband after the last one died, some are threatened by women who either don't have children by choice or can't, etc. The list goes on, uniting all of those people with us in an understanding of inclusive and liberatory feminism threatens systems of control including some women who are at those controls

Yes, absolutely this. Transfems are not where it'll stop. It's already affecting cis women who don't perfectly fit into the expected woman metrics. It'll more aggressively affect queer (sexuality) women next, women who aren't perfectly fem, of course can't forget racism against anything not in line with white, western femininity too.

Unfortunately for us, transfems are just the easiest entry point right now.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Of course the person who unblurred captain disillusions number challenge thingy was a trans catgirl lol

They might as well make a tier for the trans catgirls to compete in and everyone else can compete in the second place tier

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)
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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
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[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)
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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

thank you for posting this gay ass thread

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

weight cyclingGoing back to eating healthy and at a deficit is such a bummer after eating pizzacandy all week.

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

hornyi bought stuff from torrid.com and now they're sending me advertisement emails with thicc girlies on them and... it's just really nice tbh lea-blush

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Since transitioning cishet men have been acting weirder to me (except Noodle man who is an ally).

But cis women have been way nicer. Which I consider an absolute win.

Small touches on the arm in conversation, smiling small talk, and even walking closely past me rather than the 2m berth I'm now giving strange men.

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

T-Shirt ideas from this morning:

My body is a machine that turns noodles into breasts

I'm here to eat to eat noodles and grow breasts and I've eaten my noodles.

I ❀️ Noodles (and growing breasts)

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[–] DogGirl@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

New girl I just invented:

Going to the lesbian bar holding a collar with a bell on it and shaking it to attract local petgirls in need

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Feeling kind of overdressed going to the grocery store in my ILA cosplay. doggirl-sweat

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Just wanted to let everyone know I'm a wienie uwu

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[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I made Friday Pastajk could you imagine!? doggirl-lol

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Trans women are forced into unfair gender expectations, like being the terminally online one in the relationship.

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[–] DogGirl@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Read 'My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness' and 'My Solo Exchange Diary' and there were so many denji-just-like-me moments. I've had a vastly different life experience from the author and yet everything hits me emotionally so hard.

Coming to realize other people's struggles has kinda put into perspective that I'm not alone in my struggles of depression, and that even though it'd a long journey toward improvement, it still gets better. Just kinda forcing me to recognize that overcoming the struggles of depression is a long journey of ups and downs, but that in the end the trend line of happiness goes up over time.

Also forcing me to apply the kindness I do onto other to myself, of seeing myself and my struggles in such a close way to the author and it kinda clicking that I need to apply the kindness I do onto others to myself.

Like with these books, there were so many times of me recognizing the struggles of the author and seeing her overcome them, even with how cathartic it was, and then realizing how much that struggle to overcome depression and its eventual slow results applies to me too. These books have pushed me to try and be nicer to myself, even though its cathartic. Shit gets better, even though it may not feel like it in the moment.

sexAlso the wanting to hire a prostitute but the main factor missing was not having a feeling of acceptance, of being loved. Just kinda a shock to see a similar process in myself through having to overcome the societal pressure of always seeing sex as bad and to never be talked about, along with a similar feeling I've felt of the primary factor of a sexual experience being the longingness for love and touch, to no longer experience this chronic loneliness, to be supported out of the hole of depression. Shit hits way closer to home than I ever expected coming to read this book.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

poem about trans SI

To My Trans Friends Who Have Also Considered Suicide

Sometimes thinking about it helps.
So go ahead and think about the endless
Ways of untethering yourself and ending it.

But please don't abdicate.
Please don't put down
Your ill-fitting crown.
Please don't renounce everything.

Yes, being resilient exhausts us.
And yes barbs and fists wound us.
And yes the weight and wooze of days
Is at times too much to weather.
And yet.

Enough of us already
Barnacle the ocean floors
And ghost the plateaus
And cloud the skies.

Even if it's out of spite
Even if it's to say "Fuck you"
Please try to stay alive.

-Elba Congreve

From Little Blue Encyclopedia, Hazel Jane Plante

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

Today, I spent extra time getting my hair as nicely as possible, and while holding my hair dryer against my head for 30 minutes was pretty boring, the end result were 100% worth the effort.

So I needed to go the pharmacy to get my meds, but when I stepped outside I noticed... It’s windy as fuck. doggirl-tears My cute curls were getting thrashed all around and I thought: "Welp, I guess all that effort was in vain. Going to be another bird’s nest day."

First thing the pharmacist said: "Hi, you have very beautiful hair." doggirl-shock

And she wasn’t wrong. While they did get a bit messy, my curls still looked great. So heck, yeah! Gel-pilled girl keeps on winning. doggirl-grin

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

Nocturne in Black and Gold - The Falling Rocket - James McNeill Whistler, 1877

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

5 more pounds and I'll hit my cycling down goal weight of 190! bridget-vibe

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