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[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (12 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Disaster_of_Passion (7/7 - 7/13)
sodium_nitride (7/14 - 7/20)
peanutbuttercupola* (7/21 - 7/27)
BountifulEggnog* (7/28 - 8/3)    
oscardejarjayes* (8/4 - 8/10)
Seryph (8/11 - 8/17)
Shaleesh (8/18 - 8/24)
GayTuckerCarlson* (8/25 - 8/31)
Eco* (9/1 - 9/7)
nemmybun (9/8 - 9/14)

โ€‹ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago

air travel is tyranny

[โ€“] onandrah1@hexbear.net 3 points 2 hours ago

๐Ÿ†˜ Trans Sisters Attacked โ€“ Need Urgent Help

Hey friends ๐Ÿ’œ We were attacked in our camp just for being trans. Our shelters burned, and some of my sisters were hurt. We covered hospital bills, but now we really need help finding a safe place to stay in Juba.

Weโ€™ve raised $102 so far, but still need about $700. Any share or donation means the world to us. Thank you for being here. The mutual aid Link is in my profile.thank you for taking time to read this ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฟ....

[โ€“] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 4 points 4 hours ago

my deepest darkest wish fulfillment fantasy

i need the fucking Vitamin to fix me

[โ€“] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I hope I'm doing this right, sorry if I'm not

spoilerSo my egg cracked about a week ago, my partner has been really supportive and I am so much more emotionally available, which is obviously great. Though 20 years of pent-up stuff has me crying every time I think of how greatful I am. I'm posting because I want to get used to talking about being trans since I definitely have a bunch of internalised transphobia (yay...) and I think talking about it will help normalize it for me.

I do have a few supportive friends that I want to tell, but it still feels kind of cringe..... So if anyone could, I would be so happy to have someone ask a few questions.

[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 4 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

ask a few questions or answer a few questions?

[โ€“] rando895@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry I meant ask me a few questions. I don't really know tbh lol. I'm just trying to find a productive way to work through my anxieties.

spoiler

For example just saying I want to use she/her pronouns is hard even though its true. I've been taking baby-steps towards presenting more femme, pushing myself up to and slightly past my comfort zone but in safe spaces.

I'm a tired millennial and really don't want to keep waiting until someone finds out or I'm 100% ready. I have too much else to do. I do have an appointment with a therapist, but I don't want to just wait until then to try and work through my stuff

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 2 points 43 minutes ago

spoilerOne thing that seems to be true of trans femmes around our age that came out after adulthood, is were all very good at denying the things we want and depersonalizing. You've probably had a life time of self denial where those neural patterns are very worn in. You will have to learn to want the things you want and let yourself feel it.

If you want others to use she/her pronouns - tell them! Keep presenting femme, wear a skirt, a dress, wear makeup, grow your hair. Take HRT! Voice train (please by all that is holy, start ASAP. You might feel embarrassed or have a hard time starting, do it and start training - I swear passing is like 80% voice training)

[โ€“] Arahnya@hexbear.net 3 points 5 hours ago

I read a book written by a yogi, he said you should fill your space with flowers & look upon them.

Been spending most our lives
Living in a gooner paradise
Been stroked now once or twice
Living in a gooner paradise

[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 10 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

cw: relationship sadposting

so it's been a year since I started HRT and my wife and partner of 25 years has not warmed up to me being a woman. To the contrary the softer I have become the less interested she is in sharing affection. My irl cis friend says that i need to stick a fork in this relationship and when i told the wife she didn't argue she admitted that it's gotten harder not easier. But she doesn't want to split up, we are co parents and i'm the house wife!

But i'm so alone, i had a gf for a while (poly not cheating) but that fizzled out so i'm gonna just have to try again. I don't have any family and few friends and im desperate to be squeezed and feel connected. I downloaded a new trans dating app with a dumb name and there's so many cute girls in my area and while I may never pass and I may be old I'm still cute and i'm super soft now and i like myself so that's gotta help.

I don't really want someone else i want my wife but the spells i tried didn't work and i can't really think of anything else to try. Sometimes you make mistakes. The worst part is i feel like i stole something from her by killing off her husband. blah blah blah thanks for letting me vent kiddos. i love you bears so much :)

[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 2 points 25 minutes ago

i woke up today ready to have a tough talk with her and she was cuddling me and being super sweet. I said my piece anyway, not really an ultimatum just communicating that i have sone basic needs that aren't getting met and that i need to move on very soon if this isn't going to work out before i age out of the dwindling dating pool. she listened and apologized and admitted that things were hard but she still wanted to be with me and try to make it work. She said the boobs, which i have been extremely fortunate to have the right genetics for, are really tough to deal with and we talked about ways to try and mitigate the issues.

I remain an optimist because I sure do love that woman.

probably doomed but i'm still in girls. I got a kiss :)

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 7 points 9 hours ago

The other day had my hard hat on, my safety glasses kinda low, hair little messed up and the top buttons of my shirt were undone because of heat. Went to the bathroom to wash my hands then pee and wash hands again and I looked real damn slutty in that look shocked-pikachu I don't understand it but it's fine maybe it was the ppe soviet-hmm

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I definitely been feeling hexbear-pan it's like my brain has the friends and potential love interest in a circle and while I do think it's fun the amount of times it's picks people incompatible is annoying. I think my main course now is to digest the feelings and work through them as I dive into my new creature special interest HVAC

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 5 points 9 hours ago

What brought this up was a my increasing dreams of my classmates that involve either us trying to kpop dance to recently being quizzed on refrigerants etc. I think my main solution would just to try dating people already but I feel my 32 yo virgin ass might be past due by now catgirl-huh it's also probable that my new interest might be a means to distract myself from this issue buggy-disappointed

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

did you ever paint your nails? i like painted nails but I'm also extremely lazy and low rizz so am low key vicariousin thru ya

@mendiCAN@hexbear.net I've negative rizz but also yes I did @bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net also forgot to show off last week was busy with my epa thing (got my universal). I originally picked this because it said gel like shine and it was black with sparkles but the sparkle ain't there it's just black which looks cool but I was promised sparkles saul-stare

[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

ooh the shiny is nice though!

I'm a sparkle fan too here's my last:

i like to do a solid base layer and then some shimmery stuff on it

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 8 hours ago

niko-wonderous Pretty also this is they way, no longer will I be tempted by the ease of supposive sparkles in base paint, "all that glitter's isn't gold" blackbeard-writing I think my fave sparkle was the gold color one I had but I'm running low on that one and the dollar store doesn't have that one no more. I do have a similar one you got there but I need to pair it with a good color for it to pop

[โ€“] 0x2640@hexbear.net 9 points 13 hours ago

everything sucks and we are tired doggirl-cry

that is all

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 11 points 18 hours ago

We had two guys from warring gangs sat next to each other lol, I had to convince them the hospital is a truce zone and to leave the fights and taunts for when theyre patched up

[โ€“] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 16 hours ago

misgenderingGetting misgendered by my friends every time we hang out hurts every time but I don't wnat to ask them to change, I know it'll be super awkward and I don't want to push them away.
spoiler negativity This whole thing sucks and I hate it but I'm trying not to make another I hate being trans post. Its a constant source of pain and alienation and I don't really have hope that will change.

I think about how happy so many people were as I was figuring myself out, this must be such a disappointment. :::

[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 4 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

guy who thinks juice wrld is lucky for dying right before the world went insane in 2020

(it's me)

[โ€“] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

He also deprived the world of more incredible incredible music :/

[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 2 points 15 hours ago

all legends fall in the making ๐Ÿ˜”

[โ€“] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 9 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

ChatGPT, give me a girl name!

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 18 hours ago

I looked through the most common dog names list and me and all of my transfemme friends had names in the top 100 for girl dogs lol

So, pick one of those ones apparently

[โ€“] Alisu@hexbear.net 7 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

What kinda name you want? Cool, cute, goth?

[โ€“] segfault11@hexbear.net 6 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

can you think of something that's primarily unisex but also vaguely goth

[โ€“] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 4 points 4 hours ago

not necessarily unisex, but vaguely goth: russian/greek, so here you go
nikita, vika, sasha/alex, arianne, jules/julia, serafima, olya/olivia, anastasia/nastya, sabine, nerine.

also talia and nisrine, but those are neither greek nor russian

[โ€“] Alisu@hexbear.net 3 points 9 hours ago

Hmm, maybe Ash? I can't think of anything else that fits

[โ€“] MoonElf@hexbear.net 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] musicenjoyer@hexbear.net 4 points 20 hours ago

hair worry

spoileram worried if I finally buzz my hair , it'll show how big my forehead is.

[โ€“] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I went on a date with a reaaaaalllyyyy cute guy last night. We talked for like 3 hours and he kissed me goodbye. So forearms were like double the size of mine I was in a puddle at the end, this is my first time that Iโ€™ve had a guy make me feel this way and Iโ€™m like what the hell, how have I missed this my whole life ๐Ÿ˜ญ

I feel like Iโ€™ve always been attracted to men in kinda a different way, like they were my friend and we were the same, while women were like this other species, but i really like it flipped around lol. ๐Ÿ˜

[โ€“] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 5 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

on a serious note: holy shit that sounds incredible and i can't even pretend to hide my jealousy. I'd die on the spot as a happy woman if that were me

i really want to try dating men but i keep getting terrified that they won't see me as a woman. I see myself as a woman but I'm never confidence that anyone else will. I'd sell my soul for a man to let me be the girl on a date though ๐Ÿ˜ญ

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