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Computer girls and guys and enbies, I call ye!
I'm building my first computer. All the components are in. I have no idea how to make sure it's cool (as in temp lol). I've never built one
parents /derogatory
My mom walked into my room this morning and told me she was going to star throwing things out of the house and that included my room. I told her that itβs my room and my stuff and I have a right to decide what to keep. She basically responded with βlol no youβre too mentally ill for that.β
Chat, what the fuck was that?
People are a lot nicer to me now than before I transitioned, which is nice, but it feels like a lot of them also assume I'm dumb af, which never happened when I was a "guy".
I kinda expected it from men, but what's caught me off guard is that a lot of women do it too.
intersex stuff and hormone issues
iβm intersex and have various health conditions and it all combines to create a situation where i must be on T, and i can only be on very limited amounts of E. iβm still trying to find the right E levels that wonβt cause me problems.
this is kinda annoying and i wish i could change it but there is nothing i can really do without having a surgery i canβt afford and donβt really want.
waffling about orchitectomy stuff
I haven't made the call yet but Oh man, I'm probably gonna have to inform my dad that I'll be down for a couple days or weeks or whatever due to orchi, holy shit. What am I even gonna do about that?
Further: my endo is cool, but is the surgeon or whoever gonna be super fucking weird about it? Is every staff member I interact with gonna be super fucking weird about it?
For a split second I had hoped that being more chill about my anatomy now would help, but talking to basically-randoms, or like, your dad, about your body still seems really unfun.
love to wake up in the middle of the night and see that ive been lying on my tablet again
it's not MY fault that the fanfics are just too good to put down
The Thing sustaining me rn is that soon i'll be living on an Anarchist commune in another country. 120% tired, 200% done w/ this shithole.
Discovery: tank tops are rad (especially with room for sideboob or if you wear a sports bra that's fun too) because I sweat in them way less.
In a t-shirt, even a men's 4XL one, my underarms become a fuckin swamp, I drip sweat even in moderate summer temperatures. I bought a bunch of tanktops a while back though, both men's and women's, from medium to XL (silly sizes) and it's far less likely I'll sweat to death. I am now in Tanktop and Sweatpants Gang; I am a small shirt big pants queer now!
I've noticed something lately
I used to feel fairly content just doing things on my own, before I really came out as trans to anyone else. Due to a number of factors, I don't feel as content as last year for instance. But despite that, it does seem like I'm laughing more often, which is nice β€οΈ
I've also made a small IRL trans friend group, and it's fun hanging out with them
I'm still on waiting lists for gender care, and it seems like it'll still be a while, but being able to be a girl in front of more people has made me very happy
I'm planning on coming out to my mom in a few weeks' time, and I really hope it goes well!
okay, my face doesn't look any more femme but it's clearly a lot softer looking. My roommate wasn't lying about me looking different
some sad feelings around motherhood, rambling
ive been doing trauma release exercises and meditation recently and theyve brought up so much shit that ive been repressing. like i think i finally unlocked lesbian yearning and holy fuck i can barely handle it!! ive never felt this full body loneliness before, its almost incapacitating. and ive also started to grieve the fact that iβll never be a mother unless a lot of shit (physical health, finances, mental health) gets magically better over the next few years and it just sucks. it sucks a lot lol
I am genderfluid, it's very liberating to admit that. I don't really wanna stick with one way of presenting myself or having one identity. I am pretty happy as a guy and as a girl and also in mysterious, unknowable forms.
I left
There's always next time
At least you made it there and went in!
Weird how searching up top surgery info can make your tits weigh ten more pounds.
Hey trans thread, I just helped a gal amend her birth certificate. Being trans is alright, but helping other trans people? That's the real good shit.
Working a culturally-specific job is like the best move I've ever made for my own emotional wellbeing.
Just wanted to post out into the void that being trans fucking rocks actually.
navel gazing, cw discussion of sex related stuff
I guess maybe it's being NB (again) or else I've had some kind of internal seeing-the-light moment, but I have pleasant, weird and new perceptions of myself and my expressions and a lot of things I do.
If you asked me six months ago what I thought of being touched below the belt, I would probably have said "don't even fucking think about it". Now though, I can honestly say that I have had sex without any real dysphoria, which in itself feels weird. I've been a dysphoric little bitch my entire life, and now it's just... fine? I did not feel the need to instantly pull up the covers or whatever afterword. I'm not convinced that my junk bothers me in sexual terms. Cool?? Could I have spent the last decade not suffering if I'd just forsaken binary genders?????? Did it really have that much of an impact on my self-perception and everything??? I guess so...
To be fair, part of this is all that excruciating trauma processing I did a couple megathreads ago =) My mind and its stream of consciousness will still float away and think irrelevant things if I let it, but having put in all the work to actively rein that shit in means I can think clearly about whatever is currently going on, ask myself what I want, what I'm gonna do. I feel ridiculously clear headed now; whereas before I would barely speak, I have a lot less trouble expressing what I want. Maybe I will be ready to do something funny and kinky at some point?
TL;DR yeag
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Wearing one of my biggest t-shirts and it's long enough that it's almost dress-like now that I'm smaller. Feels good.
I canβt bring myself to ask anyone for help
Itβs good to have peace of mind when doing injections now knowing it is actually working
drinking rum, watching two people on youtube sparring with katanas using longsword techniques and kinda wishing i had a gf
drinking always does this to me, need to stop goddamnit
getting bottom surgery so i can fulfill my lifelong dream of wearing a packer
Incorporating leggings into my wardrobe has prompted me to buy a little bag for all my pockets stuff! I'm having this moment of realization that I move more freely when I don't have pockets full of STUFF
Damn I'm really just walking out the house like not trying and people talking about how cute my outfits are. Sorry I can't help it I'm just really cute ππ―
My therapist said to reach out to other queer people. She said Hexbear didn't count as homework, but was still very worthwhile. I even asked here how to do my homework, because she told me I should check. How are y'all doing?
Yesterday was my first full day since starting HRT Friday. And it was mostly amazing! Chronic pain symptoms are way down. It was 90% the tension of not being myself. Being in high alert trauma mode for literally decades.
trauma triggers
But my trauma did get triggered yesterday. Went to a beach to hang out with some friends in a more conservative neighborhood. A lot of macho energy and drinking. I may have felt safer boy moding, but then again, I boymoded for decades in these kinds of situations and still had trauma triggered.
Felt the neck tension return when I walked to the bathroom with my girlfriend. It's still pretty tight but I'm feeling safe now and going to do my morning Qi Gong at the lake... back in my liberal little bubble.
Slept really well (not the norm but hopefully the new norm). I think I was letting go of a lot of things in my sleep.
And I was able to cuddle with my gf all night without the male sex drive driving me nuts in the morning!
Feeling like I'm micro dosing Molly.
Oh... And made some new trans friends yesterday too!
Life is good today. Thanks again comrades for holding space here :)
blahaj zone, racism, transphobia?
blahaj zone continuing to be special. this is a mod on blahaj btw. this was in a thread about musk and his daughter but apparently was referencing something else as well?
More sappy posting about being gendered correctly on this funny bear website.
Someone referred to me as her the other day and literally can't stop thinking about it and how happy it makes me feel.
trans people will be 23 and walk up to you and say "I'm 31, actually" and pull out their ID that makes them older than they really are. No girl, you're not a day over 25, stop lying, you do NOT look remotely that old
my therapist asked me who I marry in stardew valley and told me who they go for
I feel like we know so much more about each other now
elon's estranged daughter is cool as fuck.
she sounds like she posts here