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The maximum score is being banned from online communities? Some people get arrested and locked up for years for their perversions.
5 perfectly balanced and happy to explore any reasonable deviancy within the safety and privacy of a healthy and lawful relationship.
I'm very kinky but not very sexual. Like a 7-8 for kink but a 1 for sexuality.
I feel seen.
My bad, that's my kink.
6 or 7, tried pegging with my GF, wasn't offended enough by the experience to turn down her being giddy about doing it again.
Mildly worried that she's buying something brand new specifically to use on me.
We also get thirds every so often when we want to have an occasion
Most definitely a 10. Most people would find at least one thing that I like to be morally objectionable. I'm extremely into BDSM, and submissive to a fault. Like, I think that submission is better than sex. If there's a bad thing that can happen to someone, I've probably fantasized about it happening to me. Anything from public humiliation to erotic torture. I also enjoy basically every kind of taboo erotic roleplay. Ageplay, petplay, CNC, you name it. As long as I get to feel submissive and lose control that's all that matters. I'm also aroused by the thought of virtually any human bodily fluid in the right context, although I leave scat, blood, and vomit to fantasy.
In practice though, I'm not nearly as extreme as my fantasies. The kinkiest things I do with any regularity is light bondage, impact play, body worship, and verbal roleplay. My absolute favorite thing though, is humiliation. I remember having humiliation fantasies as young as 5 years old. Most of my kinky desires have some basis in an urge to feel humiliated. I've developed certain kinks solely because I found it particularly embarrassing to have them. Even typing this out this comment with the idea that people will read it and judge me is exciting.
that's more like an 8 tbh. i'm pretty much exactly the same way and i've seen more perverse stuff around.
Maybe a 10 if they also regularly do all that at sex parties and masturbate in the bathroom at work
I reject the premise. Sexuality at its core is not, and in in my opinion cannot be perverted. Kinks may have social implications and be less preferred, but outside of overtly illegal acts and non-consensual harm suggesting something is perverted only acts to shame people for natural desires.
You're probably an 11 on the scale based on this post
Kinky is using a chicken feather. Perverted is using the whole damn chicken.
Aggressively rubs barbecue sauce on a rotisserie chicken
"Yeah you like that don't you, you slut!"
Even then it could have a wide range of pervertedness:
Is the chicken alive?
With or without feathers?
Raw or cooked?
If it's alive and plucked, it's just regular sex.
— Plato
Here is Plato's cloaca
- Diogenes
alive, without feathers, cooked.
Costco oven roasted and being stepped on for OF. The more donations, the faster the model attempts to debone the bird using only their feet. At the end of each month, the top four contributors receive a jar of chicken tortilla soup made from the fermented pedi-shreddy chicken.
Do I need to roll out and perform a wellness check on you?
You're just trying to steal my pedi-shreddy!
Identifying ones comfort zone is healthy for self awareness. Everyone has a comfort zone. The legality and external judgements of others are irrelevant to the question. The scale given does ground the question to cultural norms in an attempt to build a more translatable reference, but externalization is not the intended spirit of the question, nor is this some request to share one's kinks or reasoning. It is really a question of how one views their self awareness internally. In a way, this is a more accurate measure of an individual's conservatism internally.
In abstract, everyone has an answer to this question. This is not intended to offend, or in any way judge anyone. Feel free to object or abstain, but I did not ask the question to judge you or guilt you in any way; quite the opposite really.
The legality and external judgements of others are irrelevant to the question.
The concept of perversion is entirely based on the legality and external judgments of others, though. Even in your own example where 10 is being banned from communities as a result.
Being banned from communities doesn't mean anything to me. I'm basically banned from my entire social network I had growing up because of atheism. Grounding one's perspective loosely against the stereotypes of others is just a transferable form of measure. The way you perceive the prerogative of others is none of my business or relevant to the level of abstraction of this question. You're grounding the context too much in meaning that is not a required aspect of the question.
Mm. 8 rated by tolerance for kinks and general desensitization. I'm not going to be shocked by most things even if I'm not into it.
4 by interest in most of them. I'd go along with most things up to mild S&M but a lot of more "extreme" stuff (to my scale) plays with degradation to one degree or another and that's a boner killer.
i want my bed to have robotic tentacles
My perversion level is 69.
Nice.
Nice.
Fantasy, I think I'm kinky, but I've been a denizen of the internet for too long and seen far too much efukt to believe I'm extremely kinky. Still, watersports and buttstuff make up the majority of the porn I consume. So a 6-7?
But, I have only ever been in vanilla relationships, so what do I know. Username relevent.
- I've done and enjoyed stuff I think most people haven't, and a slap is still faster than a kiss and none of my fantasies are about plain sex, but I enjoy plain sex every day, and counting down I think that:
10 is people who want something that will kill them or someone else.
9 is people who want something that would land them in jail, or literal fetishists who get off on something that doesn't include what most of us think of as sex, and only that.
8 is people who need something other than plain sex or can enjoy things that most of us find too gross
7 is people who identify mostly as their kink but can enjoy sex without it
Which would leave me at 6. I think way more people are in the 1-5 group than the 6-10 group, it's not an even distribution. If you are asking where I'd land in the general population of women, that would probably be a different answer.
::: spoiler I see a spectrum of minds; not the toys, genders, or fixations. I also see a nearly inescapable addiction that must be managed by everyone. When I ask myself "why this or that kink," it is the spectrum of motivations and mind of the underlying individual that really determines where the person lies in some sense of extremities of measure against other humans. I find people's sense of self awareness in this space as interesting; their self perception at something that is ultimately nothing more than health and addiction management in the human condition.
I rate myself a 7 because I know there are limits to my self awareness like blind spots in complex ways along with most of the areas where I must be careful. Like my size and strength do not always match the person I am inside. I can both intimidate and cause harm if I am not careful. Someone that asks to go hard might get a bit more than they bargained for. It's not really my thing, but exploring the full scope of their thing is, and therein lies the potential problem.
In my opinion, far more people are 7-10 even when they are ultra conservative and vanilla in their exploration of sexuality. The evidence is in those that have records of harm, and had unexpected encounters that lead to a series of very poor decisions. To me, these are the most dangerous individuals with the most extreme perversions. Those that know themselves and enjoy a thrill, are completely normal, harmless, and of absolutely no concern to me. This does not mean that I directly correlate a scale of perversion with a general potential for harm. I view the the individual's self awareness and intent as the critical dimensions. Only they can truly know these aspects of themselves. I can infer much, but it takes time. So for the most part I simply lack the relevant data to make judgements about anyone. People with self proclaimed extreme interests, are like athletes in extreme sports. I see the real extremes as those that lack self awareness or those that have never matured to a point of developing their own internal sense of ethics outside of social constructs like religion. These are like obese people that are unhealthy and the real potential danger.
So you would put more people as kinky because you think most are repressing very dark shit? Maybe, but seems like most people I know kind of don't care that much about sex, if that makes sense. If it's more like violence that just sometimes finds a sexual outlet, is that even kinky?
The 1-5 I'd put as:
1 is asexual, do not even feel desire at all.
2 the demisexual who can kinda enjoy it if you do but really are just doing it for someone else they wouldn't bother for themselves.
3 the people who have to be in love to feel sexual desire, they can be 'unlocked', basically, it's just part of love to them. May actually do more variety of stuff but only for someone else, really do not feel independent sexual desire but love and sex entwined.
4 I think of as the normal people who can enjoy sex as an activity, outside of a relationship just for physical pleasure but it doesn't pull at them so hard, and they don't want unusual stuff just sex. Probably don't seek out sex specifically, but dates,
5 the normal people who are more adventurous, and who get frustrated sooner, have a more active sex drive and will seek out sex partners, will go outside their comfort zone if a partner suggests it. Sexually active normal people I don't think of as kinky.
I just think probably a very large chunk of people just don't prioritize sex or need anything very specific.
4 + 2i
You're like that kinky statistician, you need more than standard deviancy.
Probably about a 5. The monsterfucker fantasy rears its ugly head sure, but unless scientists make hot bara werewolves real and aliens roll up and are dtf, I'm fairly vanilla in practice.
10 tbh. No pedophile shit but some things that would probably make some friends break ties with me. My close friends would understand but the ones who I've drifted away from over time who are more towards the conservative side of things (NOT conservatives though) would probably just peace out. More public facing, probably a 7 or 8? Let's go with 8. Into BDSM and a big sub, watersports, impact play, bondage, etc. Petplay, kind of, I'd love to be someone's pet but animal roleplay isn't something I'm comfortable with. I'm a huge anal enjoyer and a size queen but I've only toyed, never been fucked. Some friends are comfortable with it and I can talk about it casually with them, others aren't so I don't bring it up around them. So yeah, in terms of the bell curve, I'm waaaaaay off to the right in sexual weirdness. Took me a long time to get comfortable with it to the extent I can talk about it like this, and now I'm a chronic oversharer. If you want to know about the 10, you can dm me, it's just not something I want available to anyone scrolling through my post history.
I feel like I'm on par with pixeltree.
Also not comfortable with sharing ALL the details, but aside from pain, which brings me no joy, there isn't much I wouldn't at least try once.
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I have no idea where I'm at, because the difference between a 9 and a 7, or a 4 and a 7, doesn't really get into my mind much. I think some of my kinks would get me banned from places, but they're mostly fantasy. They would never happen in real life. So does that make me a 10, or am I only a 5 because I set hard limits and know I don't want those things, only to imagine them?
...now, that being said, if there was some way to experience something and recover (so no permanent injuries, physical OR mental), I'd try just about everything. I know I wouldn't like everything, but I'd try it just to say I had.
Anyway, peg me about a 7. Between the occasional furry fling (and all the craziness drawn art can get up to, whoah), deepthroating 13" dildos, and my libido, I'd say I'm pretty perverted.
probably a 9. I have been timed out for my fantasies once so far
Username checks out
My goals are beyond your understanding.
10, if that's as high as it goes. I'm judging 'perversion' to be a combination of 'conceptual distance from normative sex' and 'the degree to which the average person would be horrified by it.' I don't get banned from places because I'm not a jerk, but there aren't any 'communities' for what I'm into anyway. I don't think my thing even has a name, really. For that matter, it might not actually fit on a scale like this where the assumption seems to be 'sex plus some stuff.' My therapist thinks I should write a book about it.
It's kind of lonely, and it's a pain in the ass to find porn (I usually have to just make my own) but I did get lucky in that none of it involves kids or animals or anyone incapable of consent.
Maybe a 3+.
While I'm completely satisfied by vanilla sex with my partner every time, I'm not locked into my personal interests or against the wider spectrum. 3 is where I want it, anything else is just extra credit.
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"it goes up to eleven"
0 - ain't had any (this year at least)
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